do i apply dread?

throw162534 · 2017-03-28T16:06:25+00:00

Do not respond to her tantrum. Finish your day at work and carry on like nothing happened. Ignore her if she tries arguing with you - go to the gym.

TxnyMontana · 2017-03-28T16:40:52+00:00

When a girl gives you an ultimatum like that, they would think they're in a power place, but actually, they're SO vulnerable and weak when they say something like that.

Keep the frame and don't be reactive at all. And about your questions, at least the first steps into the dread game must be applied always in a LTR.

moontripper1246 · 2017-03-28T19:45:29+00:00

This kind of behavior deserves a soft next.

Send her a text explaining why/his she fucked up. Something like "you were acting really immature earlier today while I was at work. That's not cool. I'm always open to talk but not when your interrupting me at work. Later"

Then radio silence for a week. Don't worry about her straying, she's obviously attached to you and doesn't know how to keep you around, which is why she's acting out.

So this whole week she'll just be freaking out that she pushed you away and how she should've just been happy with you near.

Recognize though, your not doing this for the dread involved in it. You're doing this because she's genuinely showing bad behavior that just doesn't deserve your time. And if you don't let her know that now, then it will snowball and show her that "when I act out and bother him at work, he responds to me and gives me attention". And you need to nip that in the bud. That's why your soft nexting her.

If you plan on staying with her for a while, when you come back at the end of the week (or two weeks) you need to reinforce comfort. The reason she's acting out in the first place is because she's afraid she'll be replaced by another girl. A girl's biggest fear isn't that you'll fuck someone else it's that you'll replace her with someone else. So after your soft next, go on speech about how she's different from other girls and that you could never replace her emotionally but your just like this, you need to chase tail. But she's super special in your heart soul connection.

Also. If you go through with this, she'll be texting you the whole week trying to get your attention with whatever she can. You need to ignore ALL of it. No matter what it is. Block her number if you have to. Then just come back into her life.

But to be honest, I don't know how well this will play out b/c it interferes with whatever emotional relationship talk you two were having. I've never had to soft next a girl from that place. The relationship has always been defined beforehand, then she acts out, then I reprimand her and disappear for a while, then I come back and she's all peachy to have me around b/c I'm better than all her other options.

What happened in that talk you two were having?

Title	do i apply dread?
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Date	March 28, 2017 4:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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