How to overcome insecurities?

ECoast_Man · 2017-04-18T18:10:41+00:00

When you have a couple plates sucking your dick on a regular basis, your insecurities magically disappear.

SkimSTi · 2017-04-18T16:27:09+00:00

best advice... approach sooner... give yourself less time to actually move in from when you see a girl you like... the more time you sit back and allow your mind/ego/negative thoughts to take over, the harder its going to be... by just getting in there before all the thoughts come up, you eliminate all that bullshit by just doing.

that... and constantly reminding yourself your LOOKS are not what attracts women... while it can help, if you are a don juan, its not everything. women are attracted by emotions and how you make them FEEL. so by stifling yourself about looks prior to your approach, you are already fucking up your inner game. its not your looks that hooks them, its the inner you.

fake it til you make it. tell yourself you are enough. your mind will start believing it with repetition.

YongeArcade · 2017-04-18T18:41:43+00:00

Approach / talk to a lot of women.

Does not always have to be to pick them up. Just do it when ever you can. One thing is you become more natural at it, second thing is in the meantime until you become completely natural, you can use these interactions to tell yourself that nothing ever bad has happened all those times. No pitchforks and torches, no posse chasing after you. Nothing.

Second is you gain an abundance mentality. Thinking it is one thing but living it is another. You talk to five beautiful women this week, she is just one other.

Thirdly, if you are observant. You see much of the things that dazzle you is "feathers" just for show. Gold gilding on a wood frame. Her clothes are so nice and she is talking about art and authors, so she must be so much better than me .. Nah Fake fake fake. Ask her to describe he favourite book / author/ movie and why , on a personal level. She probably can't . So her judgement of you or you being afraid she thinks you are too skinny, means nothing. She is afraid of the same but even more -- that is why she has covered it all in the "feathers".

So total confidence, her opinion of you or your clothes don't matter. Her rejecting you does not matter. She is just one more women like all the other you speak with .

Quisel · 2017-04-18T16:36:40+00:00

read the book of pook chapter Ooh La La!

empatheticapathetic · 2017-04-18T17:30:18+00:00

Being afraid of rejection is likely a factor. I personally need to have a bit of success to ground me in the fact I am good enough before rejection stops affecting me so much. That's essentially what abundance mentality is. "Who cares she rejected me. I know I can find another."

Even though women live in an abundance REALITY, they still slut it up to confirm it to themselves that they are desirable after a breakup/rejection. They are weak and they know it. So if they reject you, and it affects you, they perceive you as weaker than them, and it is a confirmation they were right to reject you. Treat rejection like a shit test (to some degree).

For the record, they could be stronger if they needed to be, but their abundance allows them to be lazy.

Jake420Blaze · 2017-04-19T20:36:23+00:00

This video is worth watching.

https://youtu.be/aE9QSuSxIMY

Title	How to overcome insecurities?
Author	QualityTrees
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	April 18, 2017 4:09 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/663sa1/how_to_overcome_insecurities/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/how-to-overcome-insecurities.89712 https://theredarchive.com/post/89712

Comments