increased SMV = failed relationship?

SkimSTi · 2017-07-13T21:26:01+00:00

she wanted to progress with you. you rejected her. you got your shit together months later, after she moved on and now you're wondering why she "suddenly" has no interest in you... its over dude. you blew it.

if you wanted a relationship with her you needed to act on it a long time ago, when she gave you all signs and opened all the doors for you. your best bet, now that you confessed yourself to her. stop initiating and wait for her to reach out and open doors. you will have to accept this will probably never happen. so go meet other women.

Docbear64 · 2017-07-13T21:48:02+00:00

When I saw her again it was like I was seeing her for the first time. I could see her beauty, her humour, & kindness which I never saw before. I told her that I was ready for something serious with her, and I wanted her to meet my parents.

You put her on a pedestal , went full beta by approaching her about a relationship first ( in a serious context) , and you basically were suggesting taking a casual and fun relationship and promoting it to being serious .

You have to look at where your relationship began ( a series of one night stands) and also understand the psyche of a woman they want to want things . Most women aren't happy people they need to feel emotion so to pine for a guy they can't have , to fantasize about a relationship that can't really happen , that is emotional fuel .

I've been wondering if she ever really wanted a serious relationship. As my SMV evolved tremendously it seemed as if she devolved back into being with low SMV shitheads that treat her like garbage.

Is that what girls really want?

Patrice Oneal has this awesome short bit on Brackish fish. A Brackish fish isn't a normal fish , while some fish exist only in clean fresh or soft water, they exist best in calm safe environments Brackish fish have to exist in the dirty less sanitary bodies of water. Patrice compares the brackish fish to some women . In a perfect world all fish would exist at their best in a pool of clean , perfect temperature, and sanitary water. You take a Brackish fish out of it's shitty environment and put it somewhere clean and it dies . It's physiology , the very way it functions as a fish is disrupted in a body of clean water.

The issue is you fucked up you tried to take a girl who was happy with one night stands with you , who was happy not being bound in a relationship , who was happy pining for a fantasy she didn't want to pursue and tried to actually offer it to her .

You should thank her honestly because the only thing worse than her telling you she couldn't be apart of that fantasy vision she had of you two together would be to lie to you and tell you that she could. She would have never stayed that Pedestalized vision of perfection you apparently saw in her and she would have become frustrated and unhappy trying to .

You are a better man , looking for a "serious" relationship with a girl who was just there to have fun with you was a big mistake on your end.

Title	increased SMV = failed relationship?
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Date	July 13, 2017 9:21 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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