Pretty much self explanatory. Whenever I picture the average TRP guy, I always imagine someone that's serious in ever sense of the word.

I've been told by multiple women (family, friends, ex's) that I'm emotionless, an asshole, closed off. I'm not sure how to take this. The closed off part has become less and less true as now I start to blab about my plans and such (which I'm trying to stop and go back to being closed off).

To give a bit of background, I used to be fat when I was younger, had low self esteem so generally didn't talk much to other people. I joined the military straight out of high school which led to me being a bit more talkative. Started working out which led to me becoming more confident (maybe even cocky). I have no problem talking to random men/women if it's about something random but as soon as I have my eye on a random woman with intent of getting sex from her, I freeze up. I have no problem with women I've met through friends/in a group environment though. I'm almost 24.

Any insight?