Sup TRP?
I demoted my LTR ever since my last post on askTRP about a month and a half ago. I ended up ironing out a lot of misunderstanding on both of our parts but left zero room for any further sign of disrespect and am completely retracting away anything emotional I bring to the table. We are strictly FWB now.
Since then.. I've actually been reasonably happy. I've been getting a lot of perks of an LTR woman by only treating her as a FWB. It hasn't been easy to say the least.. I've passed a LOT of comfort and shit tests about our relationship, our future, and generally about us In the last month. She's given BJ's whenever I need, let me put it in her ass again, while the most BF thing I've done for her was drive her home after I finished fucking her at my place. These days she's more respectful, transparent, and loving.
..But this post wasn't to update anyone on my situation. It was to inquire about how you handle when a white lie is being told and you know better. I don't mean a white lie like "you're the biggest I've had", "I've only been with 6 guys" , or "It'll only take 10 minutes for me to get ready."
My FWB and I were both out with our own friends in our own separate spots. She lmk that she wanted to see me later and I said no because I would be busy. She told me that she wasn't going to be out for long (two hours max), she wouldn't be drinking, and she'd only be out with ONE of her friends. This was around 6pm.
Well later that night, I was dropping one of my boys home that lives on her street and I wanted to squeeze in a quickie before I got home. It was around 12:30am. I texted her to say lmk when you get home, I want to see you. She didn't know I was pretty much posted right there, so she texted back saying "sorry that she got carried away with going out, and she had just gotten home." She knows idc but the only problem was .. she didn't just get home. I can see her house from where my homie lives. In fact she got home 20 minutes later and then called me saying to come and see her. I can see that she got a drive home with other people in the car and was texting me really tipsy or drunk like which is even more unlike her.
She kept calling and calling and gave me more texts as to why did I switch up but I had already driven away once I had seen her get out the car. I texted back saying "not waiting, drove home" after i got home. This was a few nights ago and I'm still conditioning myself to make sure I act like she's my FWB only and nothing else but I'm having a hard time not caring about simple little things like this. I know it was to conceal not only that she's doing reprehensible behaviour that I'd disapprove of but also to keep her image consistent for future sense as well.
She's coming over after work today and i'm making her buy dinner but I really want to bring it up with her and am debating between letting it slide and not even blinking over it or somehow making her aware of the fact she lied about her whole night. I don't want to come across as "me standing over her and wagging my finger disapprovingly" but more so like "oh I noticed you gave me a white lie about your whole night, I don't really care but just letting you know I'm aware and you don't need to be concealing anything."
The more alpha thing I think of doing is not letting is phase me. Women lie and lie all the time too. I've set the terms of FWB and if I bring it up I feel that she will think that there's still room to grow back into my GF or letting her know I still care about the small things like that.
Thoughts?
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