How do you close?

yoursisterlovedick · 2013-11-02T15:55:35+00:00

"I live nearby," is my line. I'm Danish, we don't really have a dating culture, and I only do night game, day game is close to impossible in Denmark, because Danes are too shy and we don't really function socially when we are sober. If she doesn't want to sleep with me the night we meet, then I don't get her phone number, I rely on running into her again another night, and if I don't accidentally meet her again it's not a big deal. I've fucked a girl 20 minutes after meeting her, and that kind of thing has made me extreme impatient with girls.

drrrrrr · 2013-11-03T20:18:16+00:00

I don't believe in day 2 or playing for the long game or whatever. Fuck that. I didn't come to the club today to fuck tomorrow or next week. And neither did the girls - they didn't spend 2 hrs in front of the mirror to have me call them the next day when they are sweating at the gym with no make-up on.

IMO, and this is just me, you can do whatever you want, the only attitude to have is "Always be closing". ABC. It's what defines an alpha to me - my time is valuable, I don't waste it.

I would rather burn the bridge trying for a day 1 than keep her around for the day 2. If she wasn't going to fuck on Saturday night when she has her heels and miniskirt, then she's not going to fuck on Sunday afternoon when she has a hangover.

Be social at the club, meet a bunch of girls and guys, have fun. Then when it's crunch time, aka the girls are choosing who they are going home with, be it another guy or their friends or alone or to an afterparty, etc, then you go all out for the close. This is where the closer mindset comes into play. To have sex with her, you have to usually isolate her from her friends and find an excuse to take her home. So you break it up into mini closes and go for it. If one fails, you talk shit for a while, then go for it again.

"Hey come over here." Done.

"I'm hungry as fuck. Let's go the this sushi place, it's the BEST PLACE EVER"

"No... no... I wanna stay with my friends."

"Oh, we're all going to the afterparty at my friend Cindy's house. I'll text them where it is... she has a shit ton of good vodka, trust me we want to get there first, let's go!"

"But my friends"

"I'll text them, I've got it, they know!"

and so on. You close the mini steps. Often there is a hard barrier - she WILL NOT go without her friend. That's fine - you've tried to close, you failed, you tried again, you failed, OK. Move on.

Rather than trying to mastermind the whole operation, which is a major noob mistake IMO, you focus on closing the next step. For example, you know her friends are about to leave and they are going to want to collect her, so you change venues with her because "this club is boring, that club has free tequila for ladies, we have to get in before the line is long".

ABC. Women, as discussed here, constantly manufacture obstacles, barriers, shit-tests, and reasons for why "I like you but I caaaaaant". The guys who give up and take a number, well whatever, if it makes them happy, that's fine. But the guys who pull on the same night, they push through all of that, 1 by 1. Like dominoes, each barrier falls. And she begins to trust that whatever issue is bothering her, like her friends thinking she is a slut, you will have some perfect way to take her mind off of it.

fuckyoueralla · 2013-11-02T16:14:42+00:00

That is very situational. I mostly try to be alone with girls, preferably at home and escalate there.

Do you go on dates with girls?

If I really like her and enjoy spending time with her then why not. If she however seems to be hot but stupid I'm not going to waste time. I'll make bold moves because in honesty I really don't care if she rejects me.

Do you try to get instant dates with cold approaches

I have never had a single date where I asked the girl and she didn't expect it or was secretly in love and was happy when I asked her or whatever you see on TV. I always just get to know a girl, talk with her etc. If I like her I'll say "give me your phone pleasy" and put my number in there without asking. I never chase girls. There has to be mutual attraction and I always get texted. When she texts me it's obvious that we are going to do something so I just ask her. "What do you think about watching a movie on Friday?". She will accept or suggest something else. Watching a movie is basically the code for fucking in my country but not everybody knows that. You just watch a movie while laying in bed or sitting on a sofa and then escalate. It doesn't have to be watching a movie, I'll suggest whatever I like to do in that moment.

and failing that, schedule something else?

If she retracts she will not get any more attention unless she arranges new plans. My first thought will be that she isn't interested or too nervous or whatever. If she IS interested, she WILL try to meet.

Title	How do you close?
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Date	November 2, 2013 3:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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