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How do you increase ambition?

2015-01-20T07:53:07+00:00

I'm not an ambitious man, I wish I were more ambitious because the lifestyle I lead is quite sedentary and probably kind of unattractive. My libido is...

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January 20, 2015

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Title	How do you increase ambition?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	January 20, 2015 7:53 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2t14z1/how_do_you_increase_ambition/
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[–]Never_relax 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

You ever been depressed?

I really doubt monk mode will cure everyone's depression, and you only know a little bit about me so don't go telling me you have a sure bet. That's actually quite irresponsible of you, when you think about it.

I don't want to piss you off at all, I don't want a tongue-lashing or a "go fuck yourself then, your choice m9", its just that you don't have the full picture here at all so try to approach giving your advice with a little.more humbleness maybe? Or not. Whatever makes you not get pissed off.

I don't want to spend energy making excuses as to why monk mode won't work for me, since that defeats the purpose and all that. There are actually plenty of things in my environment that would stop me from even getting in to monk mode. I live with people, my room is tiny, I don't have control over where I live or how much money I make, and it's basically impossible to avoid other people's shit.

I should take personal responsibility, yes, but I can't take responsibility for all of my past. If I did, I'd just feel like shit forever. I can take responsibility over what happens to me but I'm nihilistic about the future. Sand pours through the hour glass at the same rate with the same kind of sand, no matter what you do. Sand is gonna pour, and it doesn't mean a thing.

This has a lot to with my past. Please don't get pissed at me. Thanks for the advice, more would be appreciated.

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[–]Never_relax -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Uh, I actually said you'd just get pissed off about me explaining my position and you did. You did exactly what I thought you would do.

I actually am hearing you out, because I'm nice and I asked for advice and gift horses/mouth etc. I'm just giving you more details so that you can expand on and tailor your advice if you so choose.

I was done unto, when I was younger, so at one point I was a victim. Getting off to a bad start put me in a bad position and gave me bad habits. Changing all of that is incredibly hard and actually sort of rare. My problem really is quite complex, I don't hand out all the details obviously.

I do think its only natural for me.to question your advice, I can't be expected to just accept it. I am a person capable of rational, independent thought, therefore in order to accept a new.argument I need to know that that argument holds up.

Don't give up on me sensei.

[–]BadCopWithDonut0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Never_relax 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Really, it isn't a binary answer sort of question. Monk mode and depression are not my only two choices.

As far as knocking what I haven't tried, man I've tried a lot of things. The more radical changes are good and powerful to begin with but they don't stick from my experience. I don't think further isolating myself from others for a.long time is a good idea either, since that kind of distance is hard to gap when you come back into their lives.

However as I said before: I like the point about discipline and believe I am in need of it, but much of the rest of monk mode wouldn't be all that helpful to me, according to my experience of having tried different things.

Ambition comes back into play along the way because I don't see a reward in changing who I am, despite my discomfort I cannot sufficiently motivate myself to make a change. It's like having dishes piled up, and the stack is too large for your sink, there's nowhere to put the dry dishes so you just don't do them. Then they just stack up more and more every day until it seems an impossible task.

I know its hard to hear "you don't know what it's like" and maybe I'm wrong and you do know what its like but it really does demand a more complex answer.

Hell, I don't even know if I have the capacity to undergo monk mode. I have grown nihilistic and cynical, I see no light at the end of the tunnel. How can I even take the first step if I don't even know where I'm going or whether I even want to go somewhere in the first place?

I do like the idea though

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