How do you maintain IDGAF attitude while ensuring Law 5 of 48 Laws of Power is not broken, "so much depends on reputation—guard it with your life."

redpilledprince · 2018-02-13T06:01:43+00:00

I'm not sure if you're reading the concise version but the full version of the book directly addresses this question.

It basically says for some people their reputation is to not care about their reputation ("IDGAF"), which works for them, so protecting this reputation would basically be to avoid having people see you in an emotional or insecure state.

balalasaurus · 2018-02-13T02:16:51+00:00

I’m an asshole. I know I’m an asshole. Other people know I’m an asshole. But I’m also principled and fair. I know that. Other people know that. That’s my reputation and my NGAF summed up.

It took time but it grew from being comfortable with myself. When you stop pandering to people and their judgements and put yourself first, you develop an understanding of yourself that makes this possible. Become more self-aware and the rest will fall into place.

ayefranco · 2018-02-13T00:50:34+00:00

Stay out of the way, pursue your purpose, mean what you say, say what you mean.

Quantum_Jiraiya · 2018-02-13T00:49:38+00:00

If you have a hobby that you are passionate and confident about then people are more likely to respect you for it. If you act embarrased about it or unsure how people will perceive it people will pick up on the shame cue. Singing is a good example. If you are in a choir group and like it, own it. Don’t think about how people might perceive it as feminine etc. Instead women might imagine you singing to them etc.

Gravel_Roads · 2018-02-13T10:39:50+00:00

"Reputation" pretty much means "what is common knowledge about you". It doesn't actually require a lot of maintenance beyond "don't do things in public that you don't want people to know about." Essentially, if you do things that you're proud of, and avoid doing things you'll be ashamed of, you're probably fine.

I know quite a few autistic people; some of them suffer from anxiety and social alienation, which sucks. Some of them have looked inward, come to peace with who they are, what they can do and what they can't do, and decided they Don't Give A FUCK, and are going to just do whatever they fuck they want.

You'd think the dudes who were more careful and wary would fare better because their fear made them try harder, but they don't. The dudes that decided IDGAF and just openly pursued their own interests and refused to care whether or not everyone approved actually did better.

IDGAF is an excellent counter to social pressure. And a refusal to cave to social pressure is a sign of strength. Bullies leave you alone, shy people are often drawn into the shelter of your presence, talking to authority figures just turns into talking to a fellow human being ect.

Stokestix · 2018-02-13T10:44:09+00:00

I don't like the "IDGAF mentality", because some people tend to take it literally. Of course you do give a fuck, everybody does give a fuck. Why else would you read TRP, why else would you be trying to improve yourself?

I prefer "outcome independence". You do care about things, but if something doesn't come out the way you wanted, you don't dwell on it. You move on and try to do it better next time.

Title	How do you maintain IDGAF attitude while ensuring Law 5 of 48 Laws of Power is not broken, "so much depends on reputation—guard it with your life."
Author	mark2262
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Date	February 13, 2018 12:41 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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