How does a man starting from the bottom utilize any of this information?

jonsmif9797 · 2019-10-09T07:48:09+00:00

You are in your mid 20s. Dude, baby steps and be patient.

I agree that for people with ground zero, the information from the sidebar is overwhelming. I have read the sidebar more than 10 times, and every time I read it, I still learn something new. Go figure how much time and patience you need to internalize the shit.

The best way to see gains is to take risks in these three aspects of life: yourself, career, and social.

You: "Get your shit together" by starting from replacing bad habits with good routines that keeps your physical and mental being together. E.g. replace gaming with cleaning your house. replace porn with gym.

Career: "Have a mission". Need me to say any more? Do something you really want to do by asking yourself, "How do you wish the world to be different?" Most of the time, the answer needs you to take that leap of faith, but hell the process is rewarding when you are outcome-independent.

Social: "Meet new people" by picking up a new social hobby that's outside of your comfort zone. Frisbee, dancing, etc. You will cultivate an abundance mindset by meeting new people. You will feel challenged, and the anxiety is similar to approach anxiety. But every time you push through that self-doubts and anxiety, your inner game becomes stronger.

When you feel like you have all your shit together (inner game), have a mission (masculinity), have the skills to connect and have fun with random people (outer game), no longer feel anxious in a new social situation (inner game), you will be way ahead of the curve.

Shadows1455 · 2019-10-09T07:53:53+00:00

Let's take my example then, I'm 20 and still live with my parents and I'm still studying.

I was the type of guy you wouldn't notice unless I made myself noticed, I'm kinda short and average looking. I always felt very insecure and even more insecure around women. I actually had almost no close female friends during most of my life and I was scared shitless of flirting. So for 19 years of my life I was a kissless virgin. I did not have that many friends either, the bare minimum you could say. I almost never hung out with them so I was more of a acquaitance to them.

Now I'm 20 and I can say for a fact that TRP changed my life. I slowly started to focus on things that matter, and when I say slowly, I mean slowly. I gradually started to build discipline, I started doing push-ups at home and picked up on my passion and other hobbies I had abandonned. I learned some theory from time to time, but not that much really. Then I did some work on myself, I learnt to have a better grasp of my emotions, to do things like look people in the eye when I'm talking to them, holding frame a little bit, being more confident etc.

I insist on the fact I'm still a newbie, I am still not very disicplined, I don't lift enough, I'm not good at holding frame, still not talkative enough etc.

But you know what ? The small changes helped me a lot, now I am the guy that everyone knows in my 160 people class, I'm more talkative, confident and funny. I regularly go out with friends, I actually talk to girls and I dared to talk to that one girl I like which in term became my gf.

I have yet so much progress to do but when you start small you can aim for bigger things. It's never hopeless, it is possible to evolve from incel (more mentalcel) to normie. You'll make it dude, the most important advice I can give is : Take your time. Truly, take your fucking time, you can't turn into an alpha within a month. Don't set goals that are too high for you because whenever you'll fail you'll instictively feel like a beta again

Title	How does a man starting from the bottom utilize any of this information?
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Date	October 9, 2019 7:30 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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