How does familiarity kill intimacy/spontaneity?

Authority8 · 2015-06-17T05:51:33+00:00

Spontaneity is good right off the bat to get her attracted and to help her realize you exist. When it comes to her being in your house, preparing to fuck, you need familiarity to make her comfortable. Tell her to go use the bathroom to 'freshen up'. Tell her to light candles. Have her sit on the bed before your date so it is a familiar place for after the date.

Familiarity doesn't kill intimacy. It can lower the excitement, but usually there's plenty of excitement at first anyways.

ckp2906 · 2015-06-17T05:48:28+00:00

What do you mean exactly?

TheMoneyMan6115 · 2015-06-17T17:40:22+00:00

Familiarity will make her bored. She needs to feel stimulated and excited. She wants to feel emotions, both negative and positive. Familiarity is only an issue if you can't invoke her emotions

RPmatrix · 2015-06-17T06:12:47+00:00

"familiarity breeds contempt" is a very old saying that means when someone becomes too 'familiar' with aka comfortable with you, it's often becoz they know you well and what to expect which often = predictable = boring (for many)

But, you can always be known as the guy who's so intriguing that you cannot 'expect' anything from him except "the unexpected"

Girls tend to love this type of guy who can keep them guessing, but in a good way, he's straight up but you never know what he's thinking!

In fact that's one of my very few 'dealbreakers' is when a girl shit tests me by 'second guessing' me e.g she say "you did that becox ... yada yada" OR a classic "you're just upset becoz I did a, b and c" or "you did x" or "x happened!" as a statement at me ..... fuck that noise!

And 99.9% of the time they've not even been close to what I'm actually thinking, and I'll immediately lay down some heavy Law if I still wish to keep seeing her but don't want to do 'second guess' me, coz she'll never be right (in an emotive situation, "we're wired differently girl/s!") and she will Only piss me off, which I doubt is what she really wants, it's just she has yet to learn better ways to get (or even better 'ask for') what she wants

when I was about 26 a had a string of gfs that were 22yo and never lasted more than 6mths if they were lucky, most I fucked off within a couple of months for foolishly doing this shit with me when I'd made it crystal clear it wasn't ok, and neither is violence. I vowed to never got out with chick under 25 ever again, but my plan was flawed, becoz "how the fuck do you tell how old they are" especially when they're smokin hot and that's the last thing on your mind --- so you find out the next morning when you don't jump when she says, and next her coz it's just too much effort to train these types!

OR another is IF a girls hits me in anger I will grab her hands (usually by the wrists) or stop her without hurting her in any way, and TELL her "that's your one 'free shot'. The next time you IF you hit me, I'll hit you back, and I wont pull my punches"

And once she's taken that onboard and chilled a bit I'll add something like "becoz if you think violence is an 'answer to anything' or the way to resolve your issues with me, we're not compatible" ---

No girl I've ever said that to has ever challenged me that way (violently, not a slap) again"

They don't expect that either! Keep them on their toes, don't let them get to know you like your sister does (who also remembers the days she could kick your arse! lol The Bitch!)

Title	How does familiarity kill intimacy/spontaneity?
Author	RocketManV
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	June 17, 2015 2:34 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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