So I had openly had my head out of the game for nearly 3-4 years, not considering myself on the market because I didn't live on my own, parents wouldn't let me have girls stay the night, never attempted anything etc.

Fall 2016 school semester starts, Math class Im sitting next to a really hot foreign chick that begins feeding me IOIs. Laughed at everything I said no matter how mundane, always finding reasons to touch me, always seeking eye contact, always trying to talk to me & not wanting to let conversations end, insisted we exchange phone numbers. Within 2 weeks she had hunted me down and added me on all social media, she reacted positively to what I said no matter what. It was even to the point the teacher talked to us after class and told us to tone it down & that the whole class was paying attention to us. I had NEVER had a girl so attractive act like that toward me. After the first Math Test passed by I asked her if she wanted to meet sometime to review what we had missed on it, we met in the library the next day & spent maybe %70 of our time together talking with each other & %30 studying. She suggested we begin meeting outside class every week & so we did.

The question in my head was "How do I handle this?" Obviously I wanted to bang her, she had only lived in America for 1 year; an eastern girl with MUCH more traditionalist views so I was even thinking possible LTR.

How I ended up reacting was to text her back with the same 30sec latency she had for my messages, reciprocating her emojis, trying to text her as much as she did me (failed in that and ended up opening more lines of contact than she did). I started getting carried away irl with my infatuation with her and gave out a lot of compliments (not on appearance).

Well her car at one point broke down so I gave her a ride home that day, and the next day we had class I had work right after school. So that day I offered to bring her to my house & have a family member drive her home (I work online from home). She was excited about coming with me & actually canceled her plans to get her car towed to the shop that day so she could come with me. I had been wanting to ask her out for a long time & it happened to line up on this day. As we were walking to my car I asked her if she liked sushi, she began blabbering about it, at her conclusion I asked her if she'd like to come get dinner with me.

Well we went, it was very platonic. Escalating with her has had me unsure. Shes muslim & very conservative, only 2 bfs (according to her). While we were at dinner she explained that she "doesn't believe in love at first sight" "I think it takes a long time to develop" She told me about how her 1st BF was friends with her for 1 year before they got together & he had to ask her 3 times before she relented. So I didnt feel friendzoned. It seemed to be the path I was supposed to progress down.

After that "date" was over things went downhill. Shes now ignoring texts from time to time, expecting favors for nothing in return. Shit tests constantly. At the beginning of things she had so much respect for me & once apologized to me for taking 20 min to respond on FB, even after I had just taken 20min to get back to her, now she ignores me. What I did between now and then was:

  1. Become more familiar, told her about my past

  2. Gave validation in terms of compliments, availability, & favors

So I see what I did wrong here. I see what to avoid the next time this happens to me. But what SHOULD I have done? Treat her with a slight air of indifference & only reciprocate the flirting a tad? Then ask out and try to escalate? To actually hook up with a conservative chick like this I was envisioning Id have to build up attraction until a kiss was on the table & go for it, I was seeing myself getting slapped a few times, but with her actually wanting to be kissed that would only happen a few times till she relented, then moving farther would be easy. I know its %100 possible to get with her with how she acts, no matter what she says about it. Also I did some background research, in America the average person has 8-9 sexual partners in their life. In her home country it was 14.5 so her culture is more promiscuous by a noticeable margin.

If you really want to read more about myself & this chick there are topics I posted asking for advice, click my acct. (Beware, it was a far more beta version of myself posting all that)