Do you guys ever find yourself being second choice when it comes to having fun and chiling? Like my friends will call me for casual conversations but would rather choose someone else to smoke a blunt with? Like nothing major but slight disinterest. More like.

Even women I talk to, after I'm done with them sexually (I use some to emotionally vent or pass time with by speaking random bullshit and express my overthinking and all, I use the beta/Blue Pill here by exposing my unattractive side so they don't hate me and can be used as future resources, but like I find being beta and bluepill the perfect way to turn women who'd turn your enemies after you reject them/break them as plates/etc into your friends or just people who'd rather care about you than plan vengeance and revenge) so yeah these women also seem to think of me as boring after I tell them my fascination with being a nerd and how I usually want a conversation with substance or knowledge right. They call that boring and I don't get how some guys are just more "fun" by being themselves. Like I feel I want to eventually have a woman I can have children with and be the alpha she will demand, and to live with her I'd have to talk to her as a "friend" of sorts and I'm not the fun guy for my friends so how can I be one for her, considering AWALT who are hypergamous and demand an alpha. Please don't give me some MGTOW bullshit, humans are social animals and we need to have a family to keep our sanity.

I feel the fun guys are all Intellectually much more dull, that's one easy way to just be stupid and chill. How would I be able to manage that?