How to develop an outcome independent mindset?

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-02-28T05:30:30+00:00

Ok, you have all those thoughts in your head that are stopping you from approaching.

You can either go two routes. Spend months trying to eliminate every one of those thoughts, before ever making an approach. Try to erase every negative thing, and then when you feel confident to approach, realise that half the thoughts come back right before you approach.

Or, go out and approach, and get proof for yourself that it ain't nearly as bad as you think. It's easy, dude. The world doesn't burn down, everyone doesn't hate you, and you simply move on to the next girl. You can only begin to see this, from EXPERIENCE.

Thoughts and emotions are often our of our control. The second we can ACCEPT that our head will tell us a bunch of bullshit, and just approach anyway, it makes it all so much easier.

Outcome independence comes when you have done enough approaches, and realise you're cool with it. Then, you stop assuming rejection will destroy your world, you know it's fine, so you're suddenly not trying for one outcome.

Man, all you need is a hint of confidence that you can pick the girl up, a little IDGAF. Stop wanting perfect openers and lines. The best opener is 'Hi, I'm ****'. Then mention something you notice about her. Tease her a little. Ask a couple things, tease them on their answer. Ask for a number. Simple.

The greatest thing a woman wants, is confidence. The only way you can get there, is by continuing to approach, until it ain't a thing.

El_Professor9 · 2019-02-27T18:28:31+00:00

they will say im a fuckboy or something Who gives a shit what they say. Why you give a shit for unimportant thinks.

I really don't know what to talk about. "It's not what you say but how you say it" With this mentality you can talk about anything.

good openers I personally comment on things that gets my attention from the other individual. From there i can escalate more.

Hyper_Sonik · 2019-02-28T05:11:48+00:00

You care about what people think instead of having fun.

Title	How to develop an outcome independent mindset?
Author	SATHelpPlz
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	February 27, 2019 5:40 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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