How to develop REAL confidence?

Rokig · 2015-03-29T23:25:48+00:00

Fake it til you make it is a legitimate thing. When you start faking confidence, you begin to portray it. Overtime you'll begin to just 'naturally' act more confident without needing to consciously think to yourself to act more confident

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-03-30T00:57:41+00:00

Realize that the fear you have is irrational. Getting rejected doesn't "physically" hurt, and the person rejecting you has no "power" over you. The best way to face fear is head on - go out and get rejected again and again and again, and you'll eventually learn that it's not something to fear - it's just a normal part of the process.

Do you think that successful men would be successful if they gave up after being rejected? Do you think that guys who are successful with women are successful with them because they never get rejected? Wrong. they are successful despite being rejected. It must be overcome. How do you overcome it? You dive in face-first and you take your licks like a man, that's how - just like every other man in the history of the world has, since the dawn of time.

If you never approach, you'll never get rejected. And if you never get rejected, you'll never improve. And if you never improve, you'll never get the things that you want. And if you don't get the things you want, you will not be happy. The things that are worthwhile are never easy. The worst part? Nobody cares if you succeed or fail - it affects NOBODY but you. The women you aren't approaching don't care. The guys you're not competing with don't care. The only one who cares is you. Or not.

Zeehappy · 2015-03-30T02:44:00+00:00

Quit jacking off

balalasaurus · 2015-03-30T04:47:44+00:00

Stopped giving a fuck. Honestly I stopped giving a fuck about it all. Just put the attention on to myself. Meditation helps too. Puts things in perspective. But yea just stop giving a fuck and do you. That's all you can really do.

Trouble developing real confidence, in my view, stems from the fact that you're overly invested in what others think about you. When you realize that you really have no one to be answering to but yourself, your whole mind shifts. That is how you get confidence.

penguin_says_slide · 2015-03-29T23:07:03+00:00

How's your approach anxiety?

Title	How to develop REAL confidence?
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Date	March 29, 2015 10:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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