How to eventually pull a girl back?

MusicSports · 2017-12-26T07:11:52+00:00

I'll give you my current situation.

I had a 2 year LTR with an ex. She was barely fun to be around. She was extremely jealous despite me getting no other girls and it was annoying. I cared for her and her family and pets beyond my own exhaustion. I got really close to them to where I felt like family. She didn't do anything for my family. She would get distant and rude over bullshit reasons and often made me feel like shit for causing it even though she caused it. I did everything i could to make her happy and she straight up said she didn't care about my happiness at one point. I drove her places and bought all her Christmas gifts for other people and her family because she couldn't afford it and that was miniscule in terms of everything else I paid for. Over that two years, we made out 18 times, which turned into oral about 10 to 15 times, which turned into sex exactly 5 times. Near the end of the relationship she grew incredibly distant and wouldn't even let me put my arm around her. When we broke up she was dating a guy she always talked to me about within a week.

Fast forward 9 months. I implemented redpill into my life HARD and got my first plate. She'd come over to fuck 100% of times I wanted. I eventually upgraded her to fwb because i enjoyed her company and she showed me enough to deserve a hang out once every while. She didn't make a big deal of me seeing other girls. She's way hotter than my ex, and she is completely submissive in her own way.

Looking at this from any other perspective people would think I'm an idiot for thinking about the first girl at all. I still think about her daily even if it's just a fleeting "Oh i remember this road i drove her on" or something like that. I'm no longer in pain from not having her and my life is 100x better without her in it, but certain people will never leave. Because you do remember the good times when things were easy and you felt happy, and we reject the bad times because they were so difficult to endure. You can't see red flags when you're wearing rose tinted glasses. Take them off and see how much your life can improve without someone that didn't want to support you as you chiseled a man out of your marble.

Sorry for the wall of text. I guess I needed to get some stuff off my chest after all haha

OrphanedVigilante · 2017-12-26T06:43:01+00:00

I think there's a more important question to ask (especially to yourself): Is she really worth pulling back?

Plates will fall, even the great ones, but really sit down and try to see past your own dick as you ask yourself this. It's hard (pun unintended) but nearly every guy has looked at a particular broad through rose-tinted glasses without logically thinking if shes really worth any effort at all.

I'm sure others will suggest strategies or general advice from the sidebar as to how you can potentially pull a girl back, but just remember that there's no magic formula to manipulate a free will, especially a broad who wants to branch off elseware.

You can try those strategies and if you somehow pull her back, good for you, but I wouldn't count on it. Most likely she's looking for/seeing another guy. Like I said, you should ask yourself if she's worth the effort and really think about it.

Ultimately, your mentality should be that she's no more different than any of the other plates from a logical standpoint. It should also be that It's her loss and you can do better.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T07:10:19+00:00

You out here catching feelings.

hellprince7 · 2017-12-26T07:22:21+00:00

I think she should see you having loads of fun with other pretty women, and let her soak that up. If she made an excuse and did not reschedule a date wit you. Shes not showing importance to your time and energy. She has other priorities than you in her life.

You gotta just have a great time, with lots women, and she should be the one texting you back, and you ideally just softnext and ignore her.

Title	How to eventually pull a girl back?
Author	Limboza
Upvotes	6
Comments	6
Date	December 26, 2017 6:10 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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