This is not a humblebrag.
Been with an LTR for almost 4 years. Not going to go into the details of the relationship other than that I'm currently happy with it and plan continuing it for a long time (provided nothing changes for the worse).
We both earn roughly the same amount; low 6 figures. I have moderate remaining student debt that will be finally paid off in a few years.
She has a trust fund that is extremely substantial. She has not touched it yet. She will also eventually end up inheriting massive amounts of assets.
I believe, being financially independant and secure is critical to maintaining proper frame as a man. This has been a challenge for me because eventhough we currently earn roughly the same, she can afford a higher lifestyle, while all my income beyond what covers basic needs goes onto my student loans. I think I've been able to maintain frame well despite this, although it has been a challenge.
How do I maintain frame when she decides to start using the trust fund and inheritance? The amount of money involved would result in a massive lifestyle change that there is no way I would be able to match independently. Having her elevate me up to that level would make me dependent on her and I suspect I would feel emasculated. Our relationship has always been good; she has always been submissive and I've always maintained my frame.
Do you think its possible to successfully maintain frame in such a situation? How would I do it?
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