I read that if your SO disrespects you then you soft next her for the and completely ignore her, but you go back to being normal the next day. How does that teach her what to do and what not when you get back to normal the next day without her changing anything.

If this is not how it is done, then what is to be done when ltr does something that you don’t like? You can’t just call it out and be butthurt about it.