How to stop being a passive bitch at work?

Johnnadawearsglasses · 2018-12-06T14:06:56+00:00

Dude. You’re a 17 year old intern. Learn the job. Grind. Focus.

The reason you weirded people out isn’t that they don’t know you or they don’t want you to be alpha. It’s because you’re a 17 yo with the maturity and experience of a 17 yo. They didn’t think you were funny. They thought you were being immature. So watch how the older alpha guys act and slowly incorporate into you as you work there longer. As people know you better and you mature over time you can be the outspoken cool guy. Until then he that young guy who does an awesome job

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2018-12-06T15:19:43+00:00

Watch and learn.. What I perceived as Alpha when I was your age, is cringeworthy to me now. In addition, I guess your jokes etc, seemed a bit try hard and people didn't really like it. But saying that to someone is harder than just to stop laughing. Don't worry, you need to learn and learning is done by doing.. and watching and trying to apply. Don't be afraid to experiment, don't be afraid to learn and continue learning..

IamFomTheHood · 2018-12-06T14:17:39+00:00

But people started getting weirded out for some reason.

They're getting weirded out because you're being a tryhard new guy. You're at work to work, not to try to put on some big act of how charismatic and alpha you are.

Since then, I have been very quiet and im getting social anxiety when I am in the office.

You should. This is your body regulating itself after being told to knock it off so that you don't get fired. Focus on doing your job well.

I am only mentioning this because I know you can get away with more shit if you have a high smv.

You're not at work to "get away with more shit." You're at work to work.

According to the plan, my SMV should skyrocket by the end of February.

That will not happen. It's going to take you a hell of a lot longer than three months to get anywhere worthwhile from where you're at right now. That's completely okay, but just don't set yourself up for failure with unreasonable expectations.

Moreover, your SMV is completely irrelevant to the situation.

You were out of line with how you were acting. You were told that you were out of line with how you were acting. You corrected your actions. This all happened exactly like it was supposed to.

However, I don't want to wait till February in order to stop being a passive bitch.

You aren't being a "passive bitch." You're doing as you were told at work, which includes to stop acting like a tryhard who is desperate to have everyone like him.

I'll say this again: You are at work to work, not to put on a show of how alpha you are. Get that out of your fucking head before you get fired.

shocs · 2018-12-06T17:16:01+00:00

You’re not a man. You’re a boy.

Title	How to stop being a passive bitch at work?
Author	IamFomTheHood
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	December 6, 2018 2:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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