Was recently in an LTR where i started as the alpha fucks, im not like giga chad but have good SMV, attractive, lots of social proof, and a fair amount of passive dread that worked in my favor and was confident in myself. I didnt know about the red pill until after the break up so I didnt really know how to make those work in my favor. I used to have no confidence in myself socially with women, would get nervous around them and not really talk. Towards the end of my LTR it seemed like my ex found a way to draw that insecurity out of me. Im naturally pretty quiet and introverted and every time we went out she would be breathing down my neck telling me to be more social and asking why i was so uncomfortable. I was comfortable with who i was and never really felt uncomfortable in social situations. Until she started doing this every time we went anywhere. Even when I was having a good time she would be asking me what was wrong and it got under my skin over time. I would just tell her I didnt know what she was talking about or would just go hangout with someone else when it started bothering me. Eventually it was to the point where we wouldnt even talk to each other at parties. I had confidence everywhere else except when in social situations with her. Eventually one of her friends started to do the same to me and this was when i knew the clock was basically ticking. Came to find out later she had been entertaining a relationship with another guy at least 4 months prior to us breaking up. Setting up her neck branch to swing to. The break up part was tough, she led on the idea that she still wanted to be together. Said she felt like we both wanted different things but that she still loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she wanted to reconnect in a little bit once she had some other “experiences”. Told her i loved her but i was all set with that. How do I end the oneitis? This girl checked all my boxes of what I wanted in a partner. How can i stop this process of someone exploiting my insecurities? Feel like i lost a good one and dont know how to pick up the pieces. I dont want her back, I just want to be better