How would you continue this conversation?

RedPillMal · 2013-11-01T02:02:45+00:00

First mistake: "r u" -- This isn't middle school. Use "are you"

Second mistake: using a terrible secret with a mediocre delivery. Hannah wants to be taken on an emotional roller coaster. Bonnie and Clyde are obsolete and boring.

Third mistake: Asking her "Y/n?" Although subtle, this gave Hannah the simple "No" text to get out of the lameness.

As others have said, go dark for a bit. Don't reward unresponsive behavior.

cugar · 2013-11-01T01:12:03+00:00

thats the dumbest first message i've ever seen, it looks scripted and that makes it look like you are trying way too hard.

Joshua44 · 2013-11-01T04:42:39+00:00

Yeah, I think you blew it with the bonnie and clyde reference. But the good news is the opener worked. She was all like "Yeah! I'm great at keeping secrets! What's up dude? You know you can tell me!".

IMO it might have worked better to follow up by immediately apologizing, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't put you in the middle on this, {insert hint about gossip story here}"...Then you could have kept baiting her.

Anyway, this is all better for /r/asksedditt

ChaoticParadox · 2013-11-01T01:28:14+00:00

Don't text back. Just walk away. She's shit-testing you with a simple no answer. She knows it was a joke, it's not lost on her. If she's really interested, let her flounder a bit with a few more texts before you answer back. You need to establish early on that you aren't going to put up with bitch behavior. Only respond to positive reactions that you're looking for.

Opioidus · 2013-11-02T07:00:00+00:00

Dude I remember the original thread, the idea behind ''can you keep a secret'' is to keep her guessing and use the intrigue to make her invest in the conversation, not to actually tell her a lame ''secret'' in the next massage.

Can you keep a secret?
Sure, I'm great at keeping secrets.
So if I tell you what I'm going to tell you, you won't hold it against me six months from now?
Her answer.
I was thinking maybe we should talk about it face to face, I'm not comfortable sharing this with a total stranger.
Her answer.
But how can I trust you? You have one of those faces guys want to trust, but how would I know you're more than just a trusting face? ...

I didn't agree with it even then, because it's a great opener, and great openers usually fuck up your game because you can't keep up the pace after you increased expectations, it's all downhill after that and if you don't deliver something really interesting as your ''secret'' you'll lose her attention pretty quick. Get off the fucking computer and go out to meet women, internet dating is no good.

[deleted] · 2013-11-01T10:32:05+00:00

This was lame and she saw through it. Move on. She's a lost cause now.

riskrowe · 2013-11-01T14:27:35+00:00

I don't think that can be salvaged. You could try saying "Whatever, see ya round" and then going completely silent, hopefully that'll stick in her head. If she doesn't want to play along with your (admittedly lame) joke then that's her loss I guess. Go practice game on some sluts.

grandmazboy · 2013-11-02T13:17:04+00:00

"Gay"

Title	How would you continue this conversation?
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Upvotes	1
Comments	16
Date	November 1, 2013 12:24 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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