Just listening to some Patrice O'neal / Black Phillip and whilst he's explaining how when you open up completely or let a girl know she's 'got you' she loses interest. The reaction of the female on the show is "i feel bad for you, because you'll never have that connection with another person" etc.

I've had similar conversations with my close guy friends who I've tested the water with with some of these ideas. One (who is in a LTR) reacted with the same thing, "I feel bad for you". I haven't pushed since.

What's the reason for this? Is it to belittle your perspective without dealing with the evidence? Denial? Do you think they genuinely pity you?