I have lost myself. Help me :)

Earthonaturtle · 2019-05-16T16:04:15+00:00

Read the sidebar

WorkOnYourSMV · 2019-05-16T16:19:01+00:00

You're focused on things you can't control like people thinking they're above you. Instead, use that energy to become the best version of yourself through self improvement and discipline.

Its time you start hitting the gym, grooming your hair, improving your fashion sense, cleaning up your hygiene, saving up money (reach 50k-100k) and stop buying short pleasures or things you don't need each month. Become satisfied through discipline.

EclipseMain · 2019-05-16T16:18:09+00:00

You left all your friends and gf? Good. You did the right thing. Now you have to find new ones, people who can help you grow and learn.

As for money, stick to one job consistently. Never try to outshine the master, aka your boss. All that matters at work is that you make consistent money and that you show up. Don't work too hard. Be mediocre, be a yes man to your boss, don't speak your opinion. Just get the work done and make the money.

Then save up the money. Live very cheaply. If you are renting an expensive house or car, downsize. Live in a small apartment, get a shitty $2k car on Craigslist that you OWN (not making payments on all the time). Save up all of your money. Every dollar you spend should be spend on basic survival components, or funding a business/project that'll make you rich.

As for women and friends. Just find them online. Idk why the red pill is so focused on getting women (probably because all the mgtow are moving to it). Women are easy to get as all heck. Just find one online, be Alpha, and dont tell her about the red pill.

Furrealyo · 2019-05-16T20:44:57+00:00

No gonna lie...red pill as an Indian is hard mode.

FineCopy2 · 2019-05-17T07:39:33+00:00

Hi brother, I am from Pune. Being red pilled since almost a year. The most basic thing you need to do is at least read the side bar and start applying it. Hit the gym, have proper nutrition and self care. Just by doing this you are better than 90% if Indians. About your career, I'm sure you'll figure that out.

I have lost all friendships.

Friends come and go. If they don't want to stick around and aren't that supportive anyways you don't need such people in your life. And you will always meet new people wherever you go. New job, gym, new place etc. Making new friends isn't that difficult.

 I have recently decided to move past her as it has been 6 years with her and nothing has been fruitful till now. We have never even had sex as she doesn’t want to have it before her marriage. She also has told her parents about me but they aren’t sure if they want me to marry her.

This was a very good decision. I'm going to tell you something. Girls in India too sleep around quite a bit. Its not as open as in other countries but it happens. Now the thing about her making you wait till marriage is just a typical reason. Almost all Indians say that. But the reality is she doesn't see you high SMV enough or maybe she didn't think of you that attractive. If you have high enough SMV, girls do sleep with you, irrespective of your religion or caste, or whatever other things are. Trust me. I've seen a lot of cases like this where girl is in relationship with guy, they don't have sex because she wants to wait till marriage. People in years of relationship and still don't have sex. Once they break up often times same girl has had sex with her new bf in months into dating. Its our mistake that we are too afraid to escalate properly and not to come out as a creep and make her more comfortable. But we have to learn doing things the proper way.

Not only this but I have very few skills but I am a good salesman and a negotiator.

It's okay man if you don't have many skills. Good thing is you have realized that. Now start working on it. Start learning new skills.

I have not saved up much money

You can start saving up now. Again its never too late to start.

Please I want to grow myself into a good personality. I don’t only want money or things. I just want to grow into an attractive and good personality who has an open mindset, gets to explore things and lives life to the fullest.

Start gym. Start dressing well. Focus on grooming. Learn to communicate to people. Make a list of things you personally enjoy like hobby or something. Start doing those. It'll keep you busy and make a happier person. You will also meet new people with similar hobbies there. New Friends. Read books. Focus on building your self. There are lots of things you can do. This is call i can remember now. Good luck brother!

[deleted] · 2019-05-16T19:09:12+00:00

Well find what you want and adjust your parameters of satisfaction and value to that.

Title	I have lost myself. Help me :)
Author	charles024
Upvotes	6
Comments	14
Date	May 16, 2019 3:49 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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