I need help

throwawayycheyeah · 2019-04-07T05:37:25+00:00

Join a sport. You are probably incredibly lonely and forcing yourself to be social is scary. Join a team and you'll change

spacedoutdad · 2019-04-07T05:10:03+00:00

figure out what you hate about yourself than change it...

embracingtheredpill · 2019-04-07T07:24:15+00:00

You're currently focusing exclusively on the negatives. I'm sure, and I'm deadly serious, that there is something you're interested in and have something to offer. I have felt this way many times too. You are your failings, but you are also more than that.

You have no concept of self or esteem. You need to change from a losing mentality to a winning mentality. So far, you've seen the effect of sad thoughts for years how that affects you, so you know the cumulative effect of thoughts over time and actions can be effective. So start using a winner's mentality. It won't come out of thin air and it will take time.

Believe you can win. So far the results seem to go against you. To change your actions and results is to change your mindset.

Three specific points to help you: 1. Start small: You won't bang the 9 on your first day. Success can be the failure of success in your case. Start small. Give yourself a small task, and then achieve it. Then give yourself a slightly harder task, and then achieve that. Then a slightly more difficult task, and achieve that. Don't move on till you achieve that task. 2. Time is your friend: You keep saying you fail in a week. So if you do it for a day and think about quitting the next day, remember that you were able to do it the day before, and on the 3rd day, remember you could do it the past 2 days. You can actually do it. If you can do it for 7 days, you can do it for the 8th. Take one day at a time, deliberately and be patient. Develop confidence in yourself. 3. You will fail: You will probably fail. You will face setbacks. Don't plan to fail, don't give yourself that excuse, but understand the possibility. It doesn't matter. Get back up. Do, and I do mean do, not talk, not think, do it again. And again. And again. It isn't important that you failed. It's important that you get back and keep going. Keep going. Just keep going. Just keep going.

Points for action, not for words.

Casd12 · 2019-04-09T01:10:05+00:00

Baby steps. Don't just go 0-100, you have to let your body adapt. Good job stepping out and going to a party. Next time go and talk to one person. Then after talk to two and so on. Go to the gym too, try 3 times a week and once you go regularly (2 months), up it to 4 and so on. Baby steps is key.

Title	I need help
Author	JPVoltaire
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	April 7, 2019 5:04 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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