I need help

nice_and_friendly · 2016-10-04T19:48:48+00:00

meet more women. shoot for sheer quantity at first, to help you get past this bad habit. the benefits are many fold.. youll realize you care infinitely less about any one of them in particular when you have 30 others on the back burner anyway. wont find yourself checking your phone every 5 minutes hoping someone specific texted you if you are talking to 15 different women anyway. youll also start to see the same patterns out of most of them, and youll begin to realize firsthand that none of them are particularly special. ultimately you will start to care a lot less and stop obsessing about anyone in particular. just go get a lot of numbers and flirt with/fuck with them all. creating an abundance is the beginning of developing abundance mentality

coffee_34 · 2016-10-04T20:58:09+00:00

This will be a really retarded analogy, but here it goes.

You know how, when you jerk off multiple times a day, it takes you a long time to cum? But if you haven't jerked off for, let's say a week, you could finish in a minute, right?

It's because you were desensitized (both physically and psychologically) in the former case and depraved in the latter.

Get desensitized. "Jerk-off more", as in talk to more girls.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-04T20:43:31+00:00

Never had bad experiences with girls? Never observed AWALT?

Are you to needy and thus the girls flee and you barely manage to get a relationship (with whazever status) or are you afraid of getting hurt?

wont_tell_i_refuse · 2016-10-04T21:31:58+00:00

Old-school method of healing this: Stop being a faggot.

New-school method: Get laid. Any woman will do. Fat, ugly, whatever... just get that pussy off the pedestal. Also, attend cognitive behavioral therapy. It helps with just this kind of repetitive thought-pattern/irrational fantasy.

knightSwolaire · 2016-10-04T22:38:12+00:00

It's ok. Hollywood and Disney literally conditioned you that you would find "the one" and live happily ever after.

And that might have even been possible pre-1960.

You gotta internalize and accept that feminism has killed the nuclear family.

Also sounds like you just need to have your heartbroken a few times.

coffee_34 · 2016-10-05T04:57:38+00:00

I used to do the same thing, man. Just meet more girls.

Yashugan00 · 2016-10-05T05:55:35+00:00

Your first problem is the day dreaming and fantasising about things instead of acting to make them reality. The daydreaming accomplished nothing, it's mental masturbation. I think it's because you fear you can't change the outcome, and you feel powerless, you need to actualise.

balalasaurus · 2016-10-05T07:02:02+00:00

GFTOW

Title	I need help
Author	realize_or_dont
Upvotes	12
Comments	13
Date	October 4, 2016 7:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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