Hi,

I've been reading this sub for about a week and I want you guys to help me figure it out.

Recently I've been thinking about an ex classmate of mine. We bumped at each other at a Christmas event last year and she has been on my mind ever since. We only said hi to each other and that's about it because it was really dark outside and we only saw each other when we got really close plus my family and I were leaving the event while she and her family were entering it. Now, to be fair, I did like her when we were classmates but I did not try to get her because I had a relationship with another classmate that went really south when I ended it (we are cool about it now). I simply didn't want another shitfest to happen, so I kept it to myself and didn't do anything. After graduation, we went on to study at different cities and I sorta forgot about her. I went on a bunch of dates, had one night stands and even had two fwb relationship's. Fast forward, about a week ago my roommate (who also was our ex classmate) bumped into her and another ex classmate on the train. My roommate mentioned to them that I changed majors from biochemistry to software engineering and that I also study in the same city just like them. When she heard about it, she started to ask a lot of questions about me. I don't really know if they were just out of curiosity or if she did really care about me.

I don't know why but I can't seem to pull the trigger and just start messaging her. I'm really chill when it comes to texting random girls or approaching them in public but this one is pretty much the exception. She's a very smart and beautiful woman. I really want to try a ltr with her because in my books she's a perfect match for that. My problem is that I can't think of anything that could start the chat going and would lead to a date with her. I also had other demons in my head that wispeard about how she would reject me and other ex classmates would know about it but I quickly killed that idea off because I don't really have any of them in my uni (besides my roommate and we're good friends) and at this stage of my life I started to not give a fuck about others gossips and all the other shit.

I have thought about this for a bit and came to the conclusion that no matter what I could text her, it will automatically be weird and out of the blue.

Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation? I know that I need to not be a pussy about it and just do it but I don't wanna fuck it up. I just need some ideas about how to start the chat and if it works out I will easily manage the rest.