If you’re perfect can you keep them?

itiswr1tten · 2019-09-24T13:54:52+00:00

Girls that are emotionally unavailable, emotionally immature, avoidant, commitment phobic, even some signs of NPD/HPD. Can you overcome those things/overpower them/inspire the type of feelings that woman would need to feel to get over those things? Or are they fucked for good?

The real question is - when there are a shitload of women out there that don't do /aren't these things, why would you bother playing Captain Save A Ho?

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-09-24T13:59:45+00:00

Why would you want to stay with a woman that has serious personal issues

KillaJewels · 2019-09-24T14:21:23+00:00

Since you're talking about feelings, I'm assuming your mind is thinking in the direction of LTRs.

Let's make one thing clear. You will never be able to change someone. Ever. And you don't want to.

I see a lot of guys talking about PU strategy in a very general sense, which may be counterproductive for a lot of you just getting started. In particular, LTR strategy is totally different than ONS or FWB strategy. Also, it's not all about strategy, or how perfect you are, or how on your priorities you are.

A lot of it has to do with compatibility. Compatibility can be defined by things like: the way y'all were raised, culture (includes family, religion, language, etc.), social status (includes $$$), friends, personality, masculine-feminine polarity, hobbies, priorities in life, values (includes character), qualities you require of one another (or deal breakers), etc.

Nine times out of ten, we men tend to blame ourselves if a girl flakes or goes from hot to cold, when in reality, it may just be mostly about incompatibility - which is something women are far more naturally in-tuned to than men.

The point I'm making is, don't worry so much about how you "handle" a woman. Instead, place your attention on, "is she right for me?". This speaks to an abundance mentality, where you set the frame that she needs to qualify herself to you, not the other way around. In this case, you can be a positive influence in her life by getting her to invest in you by doing things you like, and avoid doing things you don't like.

ThatOneDrunkUncle · 2019-09-24T22:27:08+00:00

What you have to realize is that women are EXTREMELY solipsistic. Alpha is contextual. You could have ironclad frame, 3+ smv points on a girl, and set strong boundaries, and still get cucked when she's on a girls night out or a business trip if a guy gives her the tingles. All of those "diagnoses" you mentioned are exaggerations of characteristics that all girls have. You can't always be perfect, nor will you be the most alpha in every context a girl exists in.

homeslicemajigan · 2019-09-24T13:48:53+00:00

There is always a bigger fish than you. Do you want to take that risk of her monkey branching? Hypergamy is a bitch man. Just enjoy your time with them and focus on your life purpose. The moment you marry them, they can take EVERYTHING away from you. 1 in 5 men get cheated on. That’s literally the odds of Russian Roulette. Would you ever play Russian Roulette? Just go MGTOW and get pussy when you want, and minimize(emphasize MINIMIZE, pray she doesn’t metoo you) the risk.

Edit: No, you can’t fix a broken vase; the same applies to women mentally/emotionally. You aren’t gonna be the daddy that left her as a kid or Captain Save-a-hoe.

Unlikely_Composer · 2019-09-24T13:49:25+00:00

Maybe, but I think the better question is: if you’re perfect, would you ever worry about needing to keep them?

Title	If you’re perfect can you keep them?
Author	mcl116
Upvotes	0
Comments	9
Date	September 24, 2019 1:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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