I work with this girl, and needless to say, I have developed a crush on her. Furthermore, there is this other dude I work with, who gets her attention most times, and I already feel like I am a lost cause with her. My glimmer of hope is that he is the "nice guy," because he has a background of talking to many girls with whom he remains just friends.

I chose the "i don't care" approach. I choose to not talk to her, pretend everything is okay on my end. When she makes that occasional comment, I play along, but that's about it. I seem to get through the day, but in the back of my mind I think how I already lost out to this "nice guy."

I get a better feeling once I go home. I focus on doing things advised by TRP, that is, developing your interests and hobbies, going to the gym, maintain a healthy lifestyle. However, the recurrence of my feelings toward her, so I figure this must be solved somehow.

So based on what you can get from this little rant, is ignoring her making my chances with her better? How is "ignoring" viewed in the trp community in general? I also had thoughts of just simply asking her to meet for coffee or breakfast one day, when we both have time, and simply come forward, and if I do get a rejection, perhaps only then can I move on with my life. How would this work?

Hopefully this is clear enough for you. Thanks.

EDIT: Apologies in advance if this isn't exactly the place to bring this concern up.