I'm a Beta MOFO.

a_nus · 2015-03-18T05:45:30+00:00

Mistakes: telling her you wanted to kiss her, admitting your nervousness (being nervous is one thing, but never flat out tell a woman you're nervous, let alone describe your nervous manifestations), and not being sexually assertive.

I cuddled with her and felt her up a little (she may have been asleep for that, idk, her breathing got heavier when u did that)

Been there. Of course they know what's going on, specially if breathing gets heavy. I've initiated sex with girls who were "asleep." Caution though, you don't want to go around fingering girls in their sleep lol. Just use your common sense on this one.

I take it you're young and new to this, so you didn't do too bad really. There's plenty of guys who wouldn't even have the courage to go to a ball, let alone dance with a girl. Sounds like she's somewhat attracted to you and on the fence about it. Try to setup a date. Be straight forward about it so there's no ambiguity to her response. If she accepts, good, take it from there. If she doesn't, neeeext.

TeflonDon3000 · 2015-03-18T16:30:20+00:00

You lost your opportunity and pretty much fucked up everything from the start.

There is this girl I'm interested in and have been for awhile.

Oneitis, stop it.

I don't have the courage to do anything with girls due to the way my mom raised me

Your mom does not make you a Beta, you do. And only you can break out of the mindset that makes you one.

I just worked up the courage to slow dance with her but that's it

Slow dancing is not a real thing, it's awkward standing pseudo-sex. So basically what I gathered from your paragraph, you probably were terrible and created no sexual attraction.

I got us something to drink and said that I get cottonmouth when nervous

Why in the world would you allow her to know that her presence makes you nervous. Your presence should MAKE HER NERVOUS!

the other reason is because I really want to kiss you." She said " I thought so"

This was a blatant shit test that you just failed miserably. "Why are you nervous?" -- "Because someone might see how terrible you dance and it might make me look bad."

I cuddled with her and felt her up a little (she may have been asleep for that, idk,) and basically just fell asleep next to her and "cuddled" throughout the night.

You don't cuddle, period. Not something that should even be in your vocab. Also, you need to be SUPER CAREFUL when you "felt her up a little (she may have been asleep for that, idk,)" You can not in any circumstance put yourself in a situation where your actions can be misconstrued as sexually invasive. I don't think there is anything more invasive than groping a girl while asleep... or less fun.

Now she won't really talk to me and idk if I'm overreacting.

No, she won't talk to you because you proved to her that you value her more than yourself. Women don't date down, they only date up. If you acted above her, you might have had a shot. Now it's over, flip the chessboard, and be boy enough to take the Loss. The only thing you're overreacting about it that she might not talk to you again... SO WHAT! Drop her, count it towards experience, learn and grow.

TL;DR: OP lost from the moment he said, "Let's go to a ball."

Title	I'm a Beta MOFO.
Author	run3mast3r
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	March 18, 2015 2:24 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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