I have come to the conclusion that I’m an orbiter. I’ll own up to it. But I want to explain how I got there and need advice on how I’ll move forward.

I’ll start with the relationship dynamic. I consider a girl to be one of my best friends. She’s a senior in HS. I graduated from the same HS last year.

We’ve been friends for a little over 2 years now. We didn’t really start talking a lot until about 8 months ago. I’ll explain how the relationship has changed over time.

We joke about fucking eachother. Sometimes we’ll snapchat eachother pictures of showerheads saying “can’t wait for you” or shit like that. She asks me to come over (sometimes seriously and sometimes not) and says “bring a condom.”

Sometimes we actually get into serious topics. She tells me about how much she’ll miss me when I go to New York for college (I live in CA right now). Sometimes I reciprocate, sometimes I don’t.

There was a point in time where she was willing to have sex. We were on FaceTime and she kept asking what my kinks and fetishes were and 1000% wouldn’t have stopped me if I tried to come over to her house,but I’m pretty sure that ship sailed over time.

This is where I finally recognized myself as the orbiter: Whenever we talk she always talks about guys she thinks are attractive and I just kinda sit there and listen. (huge mistake on my part). I don’t like talking about myself at all, so I just listen.

The question is: I realized I’m an orbiter. Now how do I move forward? I don’t want to hard next her, but idk.