Hello,

I am 19yrs old and I haven’t dated anyone. I come from a very repressive country where asking a girl out is made out to be a big deal. I have not developed enough skills from back home and now I have moved to North America and realized how different things are here. For instance, how do you tell a girl you want to take her on a date if you’re not even close with her. I have seen youtube vids of random pickups and I still believe 99% are fake. A girl wouldn’t just agree to go out with someone she barely knows and if she gives you her number when you approach her, I am almost certain she will flake or not even reply. I am ashamed and cannot ask any friends or family for help in this matter because it will be taken as a joke. I only recently discovered reddit where I can share and talk with people that have some sort of experience. I am an average looking dude and a bit on the taller side(6’2). People describe me as tough and independent because I do shit on my own and I never ask for advice or help. But people don’t realize I’m very close to giving up. Can someone please guide me even with a single comment on how I am supposed to meet women and actually go out rather than have small talk that goes no where. I have never tried approaching or hitting on a girl my whole life to the point where people started questioning my sexuality. It’s just that I really don’t know how. The only good quality about myself that I can think off is that I do not get attached to anything or anyone, ever. People sometimes view that as bad others as good so I’m not sure. Every guy I know has at least 1 girl in mind that he dreams of having but settles for others.. I on the other hand, don’t have any girl in mind as to me I just view them as a tool to have sex. Yes, I “objectify” and I dont give a fuck. Any advice would be greatly appreciated and I am grateful for this subreddit that I discovered. (English is my 3rd language, sorry for grammatical errors)