Hello, longtime lurker and newbie here. I came here as so many others have - a case of oneitis. I’ve read the sidebar, I’ve searched the community for other suggestions and read as much as I can. Unfortunately, I still have the oneitis.

A little background: We met in the gym and a had a great time for a while. I turned into a little bitch and got needy and she told me to get lost, no surprise. I cut all contact, but I didn’t want to change my schedule over a girl, so we still see each other in the gym or in social circle, on which occasions I completely ignore her. She got into the social circle once I started with her because she’s hot and has no end of orbiters pretending to be her friend hoping they’ll get in her pants.

I’ve dated and slept with other women, I’ve even hired escorts just to try it out (good, but boring, I like the thrill of the hunt). Still, at the end of the night, when my mind is empty, I think about the same girl.

I think it’s because I still see her a couple times a week, even if we aren’t talking. Should I change my entire schedule over this or not go to social events when I know she’ll be there? I don’t think I should let her dictate my schedule, but I feel it may be slowing my progress. It’s been 4-5 months, advice appreciated.