Hey,

So through a mutual friend I met this girl. My SMV is way higher than hers. She's a bit insecure. I can't get a read on this girl, at all. Push/pull game only seems to push her away. First night I met her lips were all over my face. Loads and loads of IOI's. But incongruently. Recently she's become much more distant.

I'm a bit of an aspie. I hit it off massively with girls way prettier than her because I tend to be a bit distant and cold. So push/pull game really comes natural to me. I call people on their bullshit aswell, sometimes without realising that I'm offending someone. I dont like using social media or texting, so I dont chase or validate either. But these girls are mostly dumb club whores and this girl in particular was actually raised in a stable family far away from all the bad influence from city life.

I know she's not a unicorn. But I'm enrolling in a highly competitive master next year + an internship at a large investment firm the year after. I could REALLY use some stable sex and someone who cleans & makes me breakfast - which she could, because she's very homely and caring. Low maintenance, no bullshit. Actually turned down her more attractive best friend more than once because shes a real slut.

I feel a different, perhaps more "beta" approach should be required. Every time I act cold and distant I feel her getting more distant. I dont think negging her would help me in any way whatsoever.

I think there's a few ways for me to play this out:

  • turn up the kino to 11

  • simply outright tell her how I feel about her (ultra beta?)

  • "Expressing my sexual interests and desires openly and honestly"

I was wondering if anyone had any similar experiences or advice - on how to deal with insecure girls.