Not even sure how I stumbled across TRP, but I've slowly been reading and reshaping the way I think over the last couple of months. My beta ways "cost" me a marriage I hated anyway, and nothing like real world examples of AWALT thrown up in one's face over the decade that lasted.

Anyway, I've been with someone new for 7 months, which by my book means LTR. Problem is I have a lot of self doubt from the failed marriage and it's making me insecure. I can usually keep it in check, but the last couple of weeks have been rough especially with where she stands -- most days she smothers me, some days she's totally distant. I don't think she's seeing others as we both have kids and logistically I don't know where she would get the time. I'm not experienced enough or deep enough into TRP theory at this point to have total confidence in application. If there was a "prioritized list" of things like abundance mentality, etc. out of the theory, what should I be doubling down on first? I do have plenty of options for spinning plates, but that's not something I am wanting to do in light of the LTR.