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What did you expect, dude? She's giving you another chance and you're crying like a baby because things aren't exactly back to normal after you admitted to ruining it by violating her trust? "Starting from scratch" is girl code for seeing how much you -- no doubtedly cried and claimed during your begging spree -- changed, and how long you're going to make it stick. It's an observation phase for her. The minute you fuck up, she's out of there. This is, literally, your last chance. She stepped in …
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:03 PM
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Soft next her, it sounds like she's got some massive insecurities and the comfort tests will be endless if you try pursuing. Let her go to you.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 10:25 PM
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Yeah, there you go. I was in that situation a few weeks ago (him 21, me 29). He was all for it, but while I was willing to give it a chance, there were just certain "things" that kept reminding me of his age no matter how hard he tried to act more mature. Then you start thinking: "shit, all my friends are my age and I'm gonna have to explain to them why I'm hanging out with a 21 year old, this is gonna get awkward as fuck" and it just ends up being a bunch of crap you don't want to deal with. Wo…
/r/askTRP28/09/15 10:18 PM
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What kind of age gap are we talking about?
/r/askTRP28/09/15 10:09 PM
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Whenever I catch myself in this situation I just recognize it is the ego pulling me in. It's not really "feelings" I have... it's this: "and her going absolutely no contact with me after the break is killing me." You wanted to maintain "friends at most", while she went NC. What kills you is that her radio silence wasn't on your terms.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 10:05 PM
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No, it really is not condescending. It's her way of taking an interest in you. She's basically saying "Dude, you're putting me to shame, I gotta step it up" because of you. If you were walking by and not interacting, I can almost promise she would have done a mental "Damn, son!" double take.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 09:58 PM
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"Thanks!"
/r/askTRP28/09/15 09:56 PM
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Holy shit, right? Sometimes a cigar is just a fucking cigar.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 09:55 PM
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Ah, good to know. I remember it being done when I had to get emergency blood work done in Ohio, but that was years ago. It's always done by default up here in Canada during routine blood work if you're sexually active.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 07:13 PM
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AIDS, herpes, and a few others are the "default" on virtually all blood work you get done, regardless of what it is for. It is entirely possible to get checked out for something completely different, and have it pop up.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 03:35 PM
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You should take it as a compliment, because you basically established dominance in some aspect of her life and set yourself up as a leader to follow. She wasn't making it about her. She was making it about you, and how you managed to influence her. A girl is giving you a genuine compliment when she's admitting inferiority along the same subject. A non-genuine compliment from a girl is "Oh, cool... Anyway blah blah blah"
/r/askTRP28/09/15 02:24 PM
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She wasn't taking it personally. From what I'm reading, you sent some insanely mixed signals and she didn't want to deal with it. Reverse the roles: this was a girl pulling this sort of thing. You'd most likely next her, too.
/r/askTRP27/09/15 05:28 PM
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What she said was another way of saying "It's not you, it's me" -- or really, she was trying to be nice. I'm going to assume any guy pulling this with me has a lot of baggage/emotional issues that I don't want to deal with. Just as you're not willing to be someone's emotional tampon, we don't want to be someone's emotional condom. Your tl;dr should be: "girl trying to hook up with me, tell her one thing, then do another". If you're not in a place to hook up with people, don't get in to bed with …
/r/askTRP27/09/15 05:26 PM
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No. It is conditioned as a result of poor communication of expectations with women as they are raised from childhood. That is what happens when you raise a woman conditioned with the idea of how she's "so pretty", spoiling her, and feeding broken, romanticized concepts of Victorian era "gentleman's chivalry" and other concepts that are completely incompatible with living in 2015. Raise a woman properly from childhood and she'll turn out a pretty cool human.
/r/askTRP27/09/15 05:17 PM
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No, you're not. People need to stop bringing this shit here. You're picking a lame, seemingly "quirky" personality disorder in an attempt to spark interest for attention. You're TRP's equivalent to the /r/music "synesthete". Just stahp. Please.
/r/askTRP27/09/15 05:12 PM
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It is also pretty common knowledge
/r/askTRP26/09/15 10:39 PM
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No, there is no taxes on lotto/prize winnings and "gifts".
/r/askTRP26/09/15 10:33 PM
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Would you be okay with her behaving that way with another guy? This isn't a red flag. You behaved in a way that generated the expected result.
/r/askTRP26/09/15 09:52 AM
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Well... You lost frame the minute you let her steamroll in to your life like that (moving in despite you saying no, etc). There is no point setting boundaries if you don't intend to enforce them. You can say "oh but I told you this, I told you that..." -- it means nothing. Talk is cheap. You can't tell her one thing, then act differently, then hold it against her as a disclaimer later. That's entirely on you. If she doesn't listen, that's nothing you can change. It's something she has to change …
/r/askTRP25/09/15 11:46 PM
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Actually, it is good to talk about "AMALT" in a non-romantic context because it helps you define a common set of issues and to break free of them. And really, there are plenty of these that affect men but they don't realize it because many believe they are "above" the idea of it, that it could never be something that applies to them.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 10:34 PM
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I will give you some insight from the other side: "I don't like high maintenance women", pursues high maintenance women. AMALT. "I don't like drama", enables drama by validating dramatic women. AMALT. Complains about shit luck with women, sticks his dick in crazy. AMALT. "I prefer natural women", criticizes women that don't wear makeup. AMALT. "I wish I had a good girl like you", never makes an attempt on very available "good girl". AMALT. "I like my women with curves", only dates extremely skin…
/r/askTRP25/09/15 10:25 PM
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Read this: Dealing with Passive Aggressive people She broke up with you because you and her don't get along, and feels like you're behaving in the above. I mean, you very well could be (my ex did precisely the same shit before I started writing everything down and called him out on it) but for the sake of discussion, let's pretend you aren't: she feels you did behave that way to her, and judging from her e-mail is probably projecting her own behaviour on to you. She probably doesn't regret becau…
/r/askTRP25/09/15 10:16 PM
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You planned too far ahead, and she most likely made other plans, or the tingles faded. If you're going to plan that far ahead, make contact a couple days ahead of time. Otherwise, try not to plan for later than 2 days.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 06:03 PM
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Are you 5? ETA: For real, you may as well have just thrown it all in with "and they have COODIES, too! Yuck!"
/r/askTRP24/09/15 10:24 PM
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That look is easier to dress. When you're a female down to a certain size, your body type tends to be within the same range. A size 0 on one skinny chick at 5'9 will look the same as a size 0 on another skinny chick at 5'9. Once you get in to larger sizes, there is more variation between the body types which becomes more difficult to dress, and the model is no longer interchangeable. A size 5 woman at 5'9 can either have big butt and no boobs, or all boobs and no butt, or she's 100% gut. It's to…
/r/askTRP24/09/15 04:43 PM
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How to deal with passive aggressive people Many women have not been raised with the skills to express and deal with anger (whether due to poor parenting, or being told it isn't "lady like"), so it ends up being expressed in more passive aggressive ways.
/r/askTRP23/09/15 10:20 PM
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No, because most guys want insanely small chicks (like 5'5" and under) -- even really tall guys -- and seem turned off by any woman taller than 5'7".
/r/askTRP23/09/15 06:12 PM
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Are you 5'8" in real life? Because many of the Tinder dates I went on when guys claimed to be 5'8" showed up shorter than I am. I have nothing against shorter guys at all, but it's just kind of lame to lie about your height. Either don't bring it up, or be honest. 5'8" women post their height for the same reason guys do, because they get asked quite often and because guys don't like tall women (even tall guys apparently). Tell her nothing and fucking own our height as if it's a non-issue. Do tha…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 06:11 PM
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No. Post-wall is "undesirable" to the point where they become desperate and are willing to tell you anything you want to hear in order to settle with you. IE: Looks have degraded because they didn't take care of themselves, willing to settle down with any bottom feeder that looks at them, have absolutely nothing of interest to offer due to neglecting their body and mind over the years by simply relying on "being a chick" to get them through life. It's the female equivalent to the hot guy in high…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 05:49 PM
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Think of her saying "I want some space" as basically her saying "I need you to go radio silent". So do exactly that. Go radio silent, find shit to do, and she'll eventually start chasing again. If she doesn't, you have your answer. Generally when a chick is asking for space after constant fighting, it's because she needs time to sulk and kind of let the emotional grudge and recoup energy before she can continue with you. When I've asked for "space" it was always due to the partner being overly c…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 05:44 PM
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Uhh ok
/r/askTRP22/09/15 11:49 PM
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Ehhhhhh. Well, with a guy that I like I am going to ask him about his friends as a way to sort of "fit in" with his life, especially if his friends are extremely important to him. It's a weird kind of logic, where a girl really wants to impress the guy's friends because it is a sort of validation/thought that you'll raise your "value" to your man if his friends like you. Friends heavily influence the course of a relationship, so for any woman who wants to stick around with a guy, she's going to …
/r/askTRP22/09/15 11:05 PM
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I got whined at and pouted at. When my friends reject women, it seems they get similar treatment. When my girlfriends get rejected (particularly by somebody they really wanted), they try to play it off cool but some of them have had a good cry about it -- usually if they felt strung along, or the guy built up an emotional attachment only to go "Oh, sry, I just wanna be friends".
/r/askTRP22/09/15 10:58 PM
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Yes, you are being crazy. You are being crazy because it is the internet, and we interacted for a handful of posts in which you wrote novels rationalizing something with crap logic, and then got insanely butthurt when the novels were not reciprocated. Move on, get some fresh air, throw a frisbee around or something.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 10:52 PM
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This is hilarious. Nothing was edited to make you look irrational. You look irrational because you are behaving irrationally. Do yourself a favour and move on. It is the internet. Take a step back, and find something else to do with your time. No hard feelings here, it's a disagreement that you're blowing out of proportion.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 10:48 PM
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Not lesbian, but I successfully use some TRP tactics on guys. It will work if you are the more dominant person in the interaction.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 08:54 PM
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Now who is drawing conclusions? If he wants to understand her, he would go to a more appropriate forum and not ask "should give her an ultimatum?? Thanks bros!"
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:23 PM
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Then he needs to leave the relationship, not think up emotionally abusive ways to get what he wants from someone clearly troubled. This isn't difficult.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:22 PM
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And you seem awfully ignorant to how people deal with shit in their lives.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:22 PM
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Oh lord, read his comment history about how he said he thinks she liked it, and is mulling over the idea of giving her an ultimatum rather than, you know, communicating with his girlfriend. Nobody is saying it can't be talked about so piss off with your strawman shit. This is common sense, which is obviously lost on you. She "stayed" because she was 11/12 and believed she would be blackmailed. She has weird baggage because she very obviously has not sought proper help for this shit. OP is postin…
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:17 PM
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There is a huge difference between 22 and 12, so don't even act like the example is accurate. In addition to that: it wasn't about whether she did/did not have sex, but OP using the decision/obviously troubled times of a pre-teen girl to judge who she is as an adult. He us grasping for straws and you're enabling it.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:14 PM
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I'm not hostile at all, and you aren't the only one that has been through shit. That has nothing to do with the fact that you're basically asking if its okay to use emotionally abusive tactics on someone who admitted rape history along with the other shitty baggage involved with being a victim, filling in the blanks with "she prob liked it", then rationalizing why you think it's okay to do so based on that. That isn't depression, that's you being scum. Use your brain, not your dick. It is extrem…
/r/askTRP22/09/15 07:00 PM
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Since he thinks making 100k/year is braggable, he's late teens, or early - mid 20s... Or has never made over 100k/year in his life.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:54 PM
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Hahahaha oh my stars, anyway cool story bro but I got tacos for lunch. You'll have better luck at the Mary Sue subreddit.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:51 PM
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lolololololololololol oh god, you DID throw in the self-diagnosis
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:37 PM
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That's why you created an account just to post this, right?
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:35 PM
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Edit: apparently according to the comments I can't even exist. Thats a good indication of how abnormal my life is, thanks TRP. No, your humble bragging and attention whoring is just being called out for what it is. 8/10 humble brag, missing the self-diagnosed "sociopath". Edit: I'm now 100% mentally healthy but still a psychopath. Woop, there it is! 10/10 humble brag would roll my eyes again
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:22 PM
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This isn't about experimenting or being ignorant of the world -- the fact of the matter is, your thought process at 12 when it comes to this is far, far, far, far less developed than it is when you've had a chance to experience life in a healthier, supportive way. The fact is: 12 year olds are going to make decisions we, as adults with significantly more life experience, are going to consider "stupid" or "make no sense". OP is wondering why, at the age of 12, the girl "chose to stay in that rela…
/r/askTRP22/09/15 06:18 PM
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Orrrrrrr she was 11/12 years old and can't be reasonably expected to make logical decision because she was ELEVEN OR TWELVE YEARS OLD... How you are even asking this about whether she "liked it" or not is stupid and ridiculous.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 05:25 PM
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It is not up to me to spoon feed you. You're a smart guy, you'll figure it out. Read carefully, give it some thought, and with what I've posted put yourself in to the shoes of someone that has gone through it and figure out what you need to do from there. I already said it: reassurance and reconciling your words with your actions are everything. How you guys choose to apply this additional insight is up to you as it will vary person to person; relationship to relationship.
/r/askTRP22/09/15 01:09 PM
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Yes, emigrate ;p that's the word. It is dangerous but there are many more fields of welding to get in to as well. A friend of mine makes 220k/yr doing 12 hrs daily, 10 on 10 off. Hes been welding for 8 years (pressure welder & confined space). Some guys he works with go hard and will do as many hours as possible in 6 months then take the next 6 months off.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 11:58 PM
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Yes. IT is very cyclical and the market is almost always flooded. Look in to trades and get your apprentice. From there, put your ass in to gear getting as many associated certifications as you can. Let's say you become a welder: confined space welding, hyperbaric (underwater) welding, etc. At a company I worked for, we paid a hyperbaric welder as a contractor to the tune of 250/hr. The more tickets and associated certifications you get (which don't take particularly long to get each one) on top…
/r/askTRP21/09/15 10:27 PM
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Congrats! You are a comet that avoided getting sucked in to orbit like a champ!
/r/askTRP21/09/15 08:50 PM
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People use the internet to meet people because it's easier, and you tend to have better luck meeting better quality people when you can get a chance to scope them out ahead of time instead of picking people up at a bar or club (puke). This isn't a tell tale sign. Her listing off guys was her way of trying to raise her own "value" in your eyes -- similar to how sales people will try and do the whole "Act now, time is running out!". She was trying to get you to "act now". It absolutely was a shit …
/r/askTRP21/09/15 08:34 PM
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Context 1: "Are you ok?" is as neutral and appropriate as possible. You're not asking if her feelings are alright, you're trying to figure out whether she needs help. This is appropriate. Context 2: You could play it off with an "Ouch, that look like it hurt", apply a little comfort, and lead on. It lets you do the same thing as asking if she's hurt, but without putting too much worry in to it. Context 3: "Nice! How'd it go?" keep it casual, it's a way to establish rapport/conversation. Or if yo…
/r/askTRP21/09/15 02:33 PM
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Depends: are you talking about commitment to plans established? Or are we talking about commitment to relationship? In the first situation: we don't like our time wasted if you're going to flake out on a plan after setting one up. I just cut loose some retard that would do precisely this. In the second situation: because they are giving you a massive red flag of craziness and doing you a favour. Stop flocking to crazy.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 02:28 PM
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Actually, I've given him all he needs to figure out whether he is willing to try a new approach, or if he's going to cut his losses and not deal with it. Also: reassurance and reconciling your words with your actions is pretty much everything. I mean, if you had a small dick, would you believe a woman saying "I love your cock" in the bedroom, when outside of it she makes fun of others with a similar size dick? Guys don't realize they do this, but we pay attention to these little things.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 12:44 PM
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We have incredibly differing types of idea when it comes to "beta". What you guys consider beta, I consider to be flat out "insecure" and "omega". I've made a post on how I differentiate between Alpha/Beta personality types. With that said: yes, I pursue beta types and sigma types, mostly because they are less likely to be "competitive" giving me the mental bandwidth to relax, and think of them in other ways. They're also less likely to take it personal if I take charge, and I find it enjoyable …
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:50 AM
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In the meantime, y'all gotta settle with me. Luckily, I worked the men's section of retail when I was younger so I got this shit on lock.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:46 AM
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Just be careful about those harpies bro
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:43 AM
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There is nothing wrong with fabulous.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:42 AM
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Woman, I just pursue beta/sigma types. I am basically giving feedback from the other side of the table because this is something I've noticed that has made me go from "let's fuck" to dried up pussy in a single date.
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:34 AM
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boobs
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:23 AM
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So look, guys get to know a lot about their dicks. They get to know what feels good, what doesn't feel good, getting head is seen as "something that just happens". When you have a vagina, it is a completely different story. You're told that you shouldn't be horny, you're never really told how to masturbate (or when you do get an idea, it takes much longer to figure it out properly -- I didn't learn how until I was in my late teens, and I am horny as fuck). And when you do get to know your vag, i…
/r/askTRP21/09/15 01:03 AM
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Hi, we're in the same boat right now. I got to find out my husband felt it was easier to get moody, emotional, and that he never really gave a fuck about our marriage just didn't have the balls to end things or even give me a heads up. So I had to make the decision for him. I feel your pain, I really do. With that said, don't rush back in to relationships. Fuck bitches, take your time to work through your own problems. The issue you're facing right now is that you're being hyper vigilant and it …
/r/askTRP21/09/15 12:52 AM
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TRP isn't, but a shitload of TRP types are Recognizing gender and sexual dimorphism isn't sexist. However, using that dimorphism to deprive either side of the right to choose, the opportunity to pursue, and forcing them in to a pigeon-hole based on their sex is where there is a problem... and sadly, I've noticed quite a few people here miss the mark entirely. It's being considered as misogynistic and sexist due to a portion of the population base that basically do their best to outdo themselves …
/r/askTRP21/09/15 12:46 AM
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Don't be a fucking idiot. In what planet at all does this sound like a good idea, ever? "Hey, I think we'd have a blast but you should really figure out things with your boyfriend first. Let me know when you do!" if you want your easy out. Seriously. This chick sounds like a bullet you really, really need to dodge. And for future reference: never mix alcohol with sex with chicks you're not already in some form of relationship with, and DEFINITELY not with idiot chicks that are weak and unable to…
/r/askTRP20/09/15 08:53 PM
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Talking too much about yourself, and showing no interest in the girl. Girls are happy to listen, but they also want to know that you're in to them, too Taking the time to complain about things or show any sort of weakness, or that you've been taken advantage of in some way that could come off as making you seem stupid Playing "squirrel". There's one dumbass that I was ready to fuck from day 1, but he would make plans, set the time, then chicken out. After doing this multiple times, he admitted b…
/r/askTRP20/09/15 08:47 PM
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Hi! First off, please document with photos and write down everything that happened, as it happened -- no opinions, just pure facts. Second: pay off the hotel room, and get out. Third: there are shelters available to men though they are few and far between. Your best bet right now is to search friends, family first, then to check homeless shelters as they will be able to help you access social resources needed. Fourth: shelters are typically only available to men (same with women's shelters) that…
/r/askTRP18/09/15 03:06 PM
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Soft next then go monk mode radio silent, don't put up with her shift tests
/r/askTRP16/09/15 05:23 PM
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I found if you let your skin air dry and wait 20 minutes after washing with the BP before applying retin-a you experience no redness/itchiness, your skin will flake but I went to a salon once per week for exfoliation and bam. No bad side effects :) Unless I sweat at the gym and oh god why is the sun inside my pores
/r/askTRP15/09/15 04:09 PM
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That's called hyper pigmentation. Depending on the severity, the following can help alleviate or correct it: Retin-A (you can get a perscription for this from any GP) Microdermabrasian (multiple sessions required) Laser peel (multiple sessions required) Chemical peel (multiple sessions required) Talk to a cosmetic surgeon that specializes in skin care. I personally went with Retin-A, as I have hyper pigmentation issues from acne troubles. I went with .1% strength (the strongest). It sends your s…
/r/askTRP14/09/15 07:54 PM
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What do you mean by "even tone"? If you're biracial, you probably have the same issue I do where you have swarthy skin. Being biracial won't affect the evenness of your skin tone -- that is generally an existing condition (acne, hyper pigmentation, etc). Combat that by dressing in colours suited to your current skin tone, do a bit of tanning (don't go over board because you'll end up in Beef Jerky mode or with wrinkles, but in autumn/winter I lose all my colour and end up with a similar problem,…
/r/askTRP14/09/15 06:34 PM
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Because going to the gym is actually a great way to build mutual affection/romantic bonding. If you're looking for a plate, you're not wanting to bond -- the whole idea of a plate is to have a booty call, nothing more. You want to create a distance, and with that means not creating "shared interest" or a "common goal" Save that for an FWB you're looking to upgrade to an LTR.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 05:39 PM
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ABORT ABORT ABORT Get the fuck out of that relationship ASAP. Dude, I'm gonna spell it out for you: If anyone did that shit for me in the first one, I'd be over the moon and looking for an excuse to shower them in love and affection. I'd probably just invent a holiday just to be able to treat them. Sex life has dwindled because she has zero attraction to you. You were right about your girlfriend having no spine, because she's behaving in a shitty way in the hopes that you'll end it so she doesn'…
/r/askTRP13/09/15 11:09 PM
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Wowwww, that was pretty damned passive aggressive :| "What do you mean you don't care?" A great response would have been: "You're a big girl, and I don't have any reason not to trust you so why waste time worrying about it? Thanks for the drink, babe" You would have had her crawling all over you within 10 seconds of finishing that sentence.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 07:38 PM
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He said he's had this issue with other girls who were less understanding and patient, so I think that might have also added to the stress? He kept beating himself up and apologizing and getting frustrated, so I tried to play it off like "Oh pff no big deal, let's take a break and I'll blow you for a bit until you're ready" kind of thing. It's good to know that perspective, though! (ie: wanting to have sex more than wanting to have sex with the chick). It's my first time encountering this problem…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 01:24 AM
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"There's a lot of injustice with the genders around the world, and in some developing parts of the world women have it hard -- so I can see why some people are passionate about it, but I personally don't believe it is my place to comment on the topic" Ambiguous phrasing all the way that will be immediately interpreted as "omg he ~gets~ it", I promise.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 10:13 PM
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Embrace it. They're paying attention to you. You know when the Alpha dude bros tease? The response isn't "omg fuck me bb pantiez wet" it's "omg ur such an asshole lol" If someone says "lol you're such an idiot", get silly and playful: "You know you love it" "But my mom thinks I'm funny!" Etc.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 12:58 AM
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Read what I said: she was already interested in the guy and was looking for an opportunity to sit down and actually talk to him. So I am very sure that you are wrong.
/r/askTRP07/09/15 07:07 PM
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Not in this situation, and my initial comment wasn't "asking is bad" it was regarding passively indicating whether she was wanted there or not by using an "if you want..." line. If you're asking her, you should be communicating what you want. And because you're presenting an idea for her to get somewhat excited about (Sushi), and leaving it open for her to either go "Yeah!" or "How about Friday instead?", you're going to have a lot more luck than some wishy washy "oh hmm welll whenever you're fr…
/r/askTRP06/09/15 08:09 PM
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Never leave it open ended (about whether you want her there or not). "You're welcome to come..." is extremely passive. You either want her there or you don't. Also, avoid passive aggressive shit like "I'm sure you can find time in your busy schedule" -- at least for me, if I were to receive something like that it would put me off, but it could boil down to it being a pet peeve. Here's a way to alter the line: "Sushi on Thursday?" "I've got some free time on Thursday. Sushi?"
/r/askTRP06/09/15 07:54 PM
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I responded with "sure, just let me know when your free and I'll see if that works for me" Whyyyyy? Why why why? Either ask what weekday she's free, or put a day out there and set a date. Your next message should be: "Hey, I'm doing XYZ on blah blah date, you should come along".
/r/askTRP06/09/15 07:24 PM
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No contact. Zero contact. Block, filter her shit to trash, do what you can. You're questioning whether or not to respond to her because she's found a place she can put a hook in an attempt to draw you back in and get what she wants. Indulging her is giving her what she wants. Continuing to ignore her is not giving her what she wants. If friends ask: "She messages me all the time and I never respond, it's getting kind of stalkerish and sad actually" will eventually make it's way back to her and s…
/r/askTRP06/09/15 03:54 PM
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Asolutely, yes. You can call anyone an asshole/ugly/etc and get away with it, as long as you come off "playful" and obviously cheeky about it, and do it the right way. Flip the situation and let's take a look at how you'd respond to a woman you're in to fishing for compliments: Girl gets dressed up to the 9s for you. She huffs, puffs, stomps her feet like a child, and mutters things like "Why even bother to get dressed up, men never notice anyway" because you didn't notice her outfit. She gives …
/r/askTRP06/09/15 03:47 PM
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It is all in the delivery and context of a situation, and that quite frankly, the "nice guys" tend to be more malicious about it in their attempt to emulate what they perceive the "Alpha" to be doing. It is also in your choice of words, and social awareness of the discussion. "Nice Guys" are constantly looking for that one "in" to be an asshole, that they jump at any opportunity even when it is completely irrelevant and inappropriate. Here's a scenario I encountered a couple months ago while eat…
/r/askTRP06/09/15 03:36 PM
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Think of those as being 5 years as: Opportunities with women you will avoid and ignore in order to "stay faithful" to someone that treats you like you're "never good enough" Friends and outings you will avoid in order to be home and on a Skype call with her, feeling "never good enough" Day in, day out, feeling "never good enough". Think of the damage that will do after 5 years. Even if you two do make it those 5 years, you will have so much baggage, anger, and resentment built up that it would e…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 06:07 PM
3

So, at this point... it may be time to sit down and have a bit of a talk with yourself, and then with her. You want a woman who is going to stay with you because you are both at the same points in your life where you are ready to devote that important part to each other. You don't want a woman staying with you out of guilt. And if you're worried because you feel you "can't get any better"... well, you can't really say that for certain. You are extremely young. As I said: a lot happens in 5 years…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 05:52 PM
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Hey, so I will try to give you some advice and insight as to why a woman gets pissy: When you start feeling like "nothing is ever good enough", it is because nothing ever really is. Typically, when people are unhappy they nit pick in an effort to rationalize the source of their unhappiness. The other person will try to rectify this issue by making the changes, walking on egg shells, etc... but the truth is, this is where it becomes a borderline emotionally abusive relationship. I know first time…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 05:36 PM
1

Tinder tips if you're short & ugly: All photos must be group shots Pose with cute animal Pose with sweet grandparents Just put pictures of grilled cheese up, like all pictures grilled cheese and say you're just looking to have a Gouda time
/r/askTRP05/09/15 04:54 PM
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Oh! No worries, I was just returning your lovely downvote :) Cheers, m8
/r/askTRP05/09/15 04:48 PM
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You sound upset
/r/askTRP05/09/15 04:42 PM
0

There isn't anything wrong with my SMV :) I actually ended up going out with this guy later that night anyway. As for the rest, they wanted something I wasn't really looking for (but acted like they were) or preemptively did the whole "I'm the type of person who gets feelings really fast" which I usually next because the last thing I want to do is hurt somebody. I don't even waste time doing the whole "well we can still be friendsssssss?" thing, either. What's bothering me is that I make myself …
/r/askTRP05/09/15 04:37 PM
1

So look, sometimes there is just "too much". If you have no interest in being friends with a girl, don't act like a friend. If you get friend-zoned, you get out of there because you're only going to end up like the above. She will end up pushing you away, and the more she pushes you away, the more you're going to freak out and try to please her by doing more until you're bitter and resentful. Actually look at the people you decide to "give value" to and identify whether they are people that give…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 02:10 AM
1

Well, I did hear back from one of them. After I tested out whether to treat it like a type of "comfort test" I decided to reach out and ask if there was a better time... he asked if I was still interested in hanging out right now, apologized again, etc. So I guess we're going to meet up now. Hooray?! I think???
/r/askTRP05/09/15 01:59 AM
1

Damn, that sucks. It's not that I resent it, it's just if they were going to flake a little bit more notice would be nice or just not being asked at all in the first place. These guys are otherwise incredibly great dudes that I actually enjoyed hanging around the first time. I just don't understand why they'd think I'd suddenly change my mind.
/r/askTRP05/09/15 01:44 AM
1

I haven't even gotten to "plate" status, these guys just seem to freak out and I eventually get some bullshit "I get feelings too fast, blah blah" and I'm just sitting here like... hey, I thought we had a great time? Tonight I started wondering if maybe I should be responding back and being insistent on a time? Up until now I've just been like "Sorry to hear that, take care" and left it at that. I'm not sure if maybe there was some little game involved, like "Oh nooo, what about tomorrow? What a…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 01:21 AM
1

Woman. I'm asking here because I post here often enough, and want actual answers instead of life stories about how "this happened to me too!"
/r/askTRP05/09/15 12:56 AM
1

Here's some outfits: http://www.hm.com/us/product/87836?article=87836-A http://www.hm.com/us/product/12998?article=12998-A Wear it with these for a nice, casual wear: http://ca.puma.com/en_CA/men/featured/suedes Or, dress it up with: http://www.hm.com/us/product/60387?article=60387-A and http://www.thebay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/thebay/brands/mens-dress-shoes/bax-leather-dress-shoes-0088-bax-blk--24 So to recap: Your core outfit cost you $35. It's a good lookin' outfit! On its own, it l…
/r/askTRP04/09/15 06:59 PM
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To add on to this: shop for staple items that are interchangeable. 3 pairs of jeans (one light, one medium/blue with faded washed, one dark pair that are better for formal), 3 t-shirt/polo shirts, 3 button up shirts, and a couple ties. Stick with neutral colours that mix and match well. One formal-ish pair of shoes, one more casual pair of shoes. Get an item that is a little flashier/more expensive, and it doesn't matter how much you paid for the clothes. Accessorize with more expensive and/or l…
/r/askTRP04/09/15 06:44 PM
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http://www.marks.com/shop/en/marks http://www.lechateau.com/style/jump/OUTLET/category/cat37310719 http://www.thebay.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/thebay/search/mens http://www.armaniexchange.com/category/mens.do http://www.hm.com/us/department/MEN
/r/askTRP04/09/15 06:35 PM
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meccasteel: check PM
/r/askTRP04/09/15 03:32 PM
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meccasteel: check PM
/r/askTRP04/09/15 03:26 PM
2

Hey man, look. As much as people are going to get down on your height -- fuck it. Fuck them. Personality can make or break even the hottest Chad Thunderthorfuck, so don't bag on yourself because of it. It is an important thing in combination with looks. Embrace the gossip. The social dynamic is changing because you let it. Take back control. I know getting knocked off the horse is shitty, especially when you weren't really sure about getting on the horse in the first place... but you did. Now br…
/r/askTRP04/09/15 03:23 PM
2

Okay, so ask yourself: "Is quitting drinking the best way to not suffer from alcohol related problems?" "Is quitting smoking the best way to not suffer from smoking related problems?"
/r/askTRP04/09/15 03:01 PM
1

Sure! :)
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:59 PM
1

Happily! :)
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:54 PM
2

"Yes, this is what men look like" -- in complete, matter of fact, tone.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:53 PM
2

Yes. Replace "person" or "ex-whatever" or anything making you feel bad, with "cocaine" and "smoking" or really anything else bad for your health, and then ask yourself the same question.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:36 PM
6

There are studies out there that show a link between narcissism and social media use. Here's a link to one of them. According to Panek, Facebook serves narcissistic adults as a mirror. “It’s about curating your own image, how you are seen, and also checking on how others respond to this image,” says Panek. “Middle-aged adults usually have already formed their social selves, and they use social media to gain approval from those who are already in their social circles.” .. According to Panek, the …
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:30 PM
1

LOL Nope. Apparently she thinks she is "soooo not like these other chicks" to the point where she cries about other women in a forum oriented towards male self improvement but doesn't see for a second she is behaving precisely like what she is bitching about. But but but this totes isn't for attention or validation. Bahahahahaha. And now, I guess, she's getting super bent out of shape towards the people who aren't going "omg it's because these wommen are JELLY of u!!11" and giving her the valida…
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:22 PM
1

LOOOOL So fucking pressed I could wear you to church. Newsflash, sweetheart. You ARE the very bitches you bitch about. Keep bitching though, because every subsequent post you make proves precisely how butthurt you are and I can go all day.
/r/askTRP04/09/15 02:19 PM
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Here's some advice: Delete all her e-mail messages, conversation history, etc. Put every combination of filters from her, all known e-mail addresses, etc. to automatically bounce or send to trash and delete Block her on all social media, and get rid of people who are acting as "go betweens". Every relationship/falling out always has that "one person" that sympathizes with both of you and seems to bring it up at any chance they get. Accept that shit sucks and it's okay to feel bad about it. Accep…
/r/askTRP03/09/15 09:04 PM
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I wouldn't call it an "emotional sponge" when you need to be there for someone. The rule of thumb I deal with is: Are they actively working to resolve the problem? Cool, listen. Be there for them. You're supporting them through something they, themselves, are actively working to fix. Examples: Weight: they are working hard to lose weight, they've lost a shitload, made awesome gains at the gym, then hit a plateau and feel annoyed as they are trying to push through and not making progress. Cool, l…
/r/askTRP03/09/15 07:30 PM
2

Spot. Fucking. On. Wonderful insight.
/r/askTRP03/09/15 07:04 PM
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At a restaurant, show her you're one for risks by NOT using the folded cloth napkins provided on your lap Instead of pressing the close button on an elevator, press the "emergency call" instead. Walk the wrong way on an escalator Show her Chivalry is alive and well by challenging her father to a duel Start crossing the road when the "finish crossing" sign is on. These tips are sure to get her panties wet.
/r/askTRP03/09/15 06:29 PM
1

I know, thanks. ;)
/r/askTRP03/09/15 04:36 PM
2

lol bitch please, you aren't fooling anyone.
/r/askTRP03/09/15 04:33 PM
2

Oh, okay, so this is where you conveniently ignore everything you've posted in a pathetic attempt to garner attention and validation. thumbs up "Every other woman over 25 only talks about her kids", and "I'm just so yew-neek other wommenz just don't ~get~ me and get mad when I try to buck the trend!", and all the other attention seeking shit you're posting in this topic is just another form of exactly the above. News flash: this shit is extremely obvious. You might think you're smarter than "all…
/r/askTRP03/09/15 04:29 PM
1

Yes. I find Beta men are more communicative and I'm able to get a better idea of who they are. I'm also an aggressive type of person, though I try to tone it down, but I find Beta males to be more understanding of this and bring out my feminine side. It's not a competition with them, which is relaxing for me and allows me the mental bandwidth to think of them in other ways (ie: in the bed). As weird as it sounds, I guess it would be like when a guy meets a girl that "makes him feel like a man". …
/r/askTRP03/09/15 03:14 PM
2

On my phone so I will try to make sense. I know what you're trying to say but please trust me when I tell you a woman who puts down "other women" and "only gets along with men" is seeking insecure, desperate for validation from men, and is insanely jealous of the women around her. Women know this because its a phase we all went through around puberty as we learned how to navigate interpersonal situations in conjunction with experiencing new feelings we have never dealt with before. Some grow out…
/r/askTRP03/09/15 12:36 PM
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It isn't just that, but you can tell what type of chick you're dealing with by her opinion of other women and her behaviour towards them. Women see this shit from miles away, because we've all been 13 and gone through this "special snowflake" phase. But when you're an adult and still behaving this way, it's the biggest red flag on the planet when it comes to any sort of interaction. I know personally the minute I hear this shit, it's an insta-next on a friendship level. It just comes with too mu…
/r/askTRP02/09/15 10:18 PM
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Holy shit, seriously. I am so glad I'm not the only one who picked up on this. "Blah blah blah I only get along with DUDES, because OTHER WOMEN are totally just bitches and hate me and I have nothing in common with them because I haven't bothered to try so I'll blame them in a desperate attempt to mask the fact I can't admit that I don't actually like those other women, and I really just want attention from men because I thrive off of it". The end.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 10:05 PM
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Uh huh....
/r/askTRP02/09/15 10:02 PM
1

That's something I still struggle with -- fitness is important to me, but mostly to set myself up to maximize the best of my later years. Ideally I'd rather live as long and strong as possible, than be hunched over and a bedridden burden for any time of my elder life.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 06:58 PM
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For point 5 dude, but for real, some of us are affected by it. If you have never lived on a farm, or saw the cycle from birth to slaughter, then its hard for you to imagine this when its only a 9.99 T-bone sale. I am no longer veg/vegan, but I have an extreme respect for the life of the animal. If more people were aware or had similar experiences, they would also.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 06:55 PM
1

Understandable. I was in the middle of a response to you, but got interrupted. Anyway, to give you a bit of hope: I had a date yesterday where we both nerded out over writing Excel macros, software development, and accounting processes. I was pretty much "Hell yes" on the inside when he asked me out for date #2, but played it off like "yeah, sure" because, you know, can't look too eager ;D
/r/askTRP02/09/15 03:48 PM
1

Yes, precisely. And personally, if you're eating larger quantities of food I found it set a poor habit for your body which is expecting constant amounts of food if you ever fall off the wagon.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 02:45 PM
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We aren't "built" for any one specific diet, we evolved the capability to take advantage of whatever is available. It is completely possible to make gains as a vegan. It's just completely fucking impractical in a lot of cases since the shit you'll need to eat to make said gains taste like shit and aren't enjoyable. However, if you're able to pack away large quantities of food in general, it's definitely do-able.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 02:29 PM
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Hey, female with conservative background this is a very typical way for a chick to behave with a "traditional" emphasized background (read: no sex until marriage, act with propriety around men at all times, don't put yourself in to situations that would lead people to believe otherwise) This entire thing sounds like you took everything you learned from Bollywood and completely misread this chick. You took her to hookah, which is a shitty first date for someone who hasn't done it before. Remember…
/r/askTRP01/09/15 02:45 PM
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Like anyone who disrespects people should do: she apologized to you, she should apologize to the people she was being disrespectful towards. Get them together again in a lighter setting, and let her apologize. You hold her to the same standard as you would hold yourself in a situation where you were wrong to somebody else.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 02:32 PM
1

You care waaaay too much. But since you're being a tired little bitch about it, feel free to have the last word. Later, tater!
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:59 PM
1

lol ok Have fun begging 5s to meet on Tinder.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:55 PM
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Cross those bridges when you get there. In the mean time, to at least make an effort to help your marriage stick together, which otherwise seems decent and you're both making efforts, you're going to want to find common ground activities rather than doing them apart. The more distance you put between you, the more separation in important aspects of your relationship that you create, the more problems will spring up down the road. She could very well not even be a lesbian, just... open minded. In…
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:51 PM
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Yeah, because "hurr durr advice is bad women don't fuck witty guys" is super double plus better. I'd rather fuck a witty guy than a dumbshit any day. If you're going to give advice, actually make sure you're not in full retard mode when you give it.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:45 PM
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Jesus mother of shit, GO WITH IT. Bring your BJ buddy in to things, your wife is obviously bored to tears with your sex, rather than treating it as something separate, use it as a common ground activity: you can set the rules, establish everything, and unless she's a powerskank, you know she's less likely to be out and about. Plus, the visible enjoyment of you getting head will directly up her game in order to keep up, OR you get a nice show when you're tired and just want to rub one out to some…
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:01 PM
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Actually, you are completely wrong. Stop trying to cock block.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 03:56 PM
1

"The plans were not set in stone" -- that, right there. That is why. Your age has less to do with it, the fact you waffled is why it didn't go anywhere.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:26 AM
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24 - 27 year old women are finishing school and either post grad or in the first few years of settling in to a career and/or have decided to take the SAHM route/marriage after deciding "work isn't for them". The ones that go gung-ho with their careers start looking more intently at 28+ once they think they have their ducks in a row.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:24 AM
2

lolol Everyone on misc is "perfect 10/10 aryan god", just like everyone here is "perfect 10/10 alpha fux". Don't worry.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 01:07 AM
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First: how old are you both? Second: how many people has she been with before you?
/r/askTRP29/08/15 01:01 AM
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No problem, hope it helped. :)
/r/askTRP28/08/15 02:39 PM
1

......... Do you work in a computer/network field in Calgary, by any chance......
/r/askTRP28/08/15 02:25 PM
0

Long hair on guys is very in style right now, for guys. If you can rock it, go for it. As for longer than shoulder blades -- it is easiER... depending on how much hair you have. It still takes my hair quite a while to dry, and I don't style it as I simply don't have 2 hours to straighten my hair. There's also a heat/headache factor, as well. I used to cut my hair to my chin every couple years because it would get way too hot on the back of my neck, and wearing it up in a ponytail all day caused …
/r/askTRP24/08/15 06:51 PM
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So, I'll break it down for you -- speaking as a female/woman. If it's obvious, I will see right through it... and I will. It will also knock you several points down in my books. If it's unintentional, there will be unintentional jealousy. For example, do we maybe have lackluster conversations, but you're having a blast and talking your ear off to this less attractive woman? Yeah, there will be a tinge of jealousy providing I have feelings for you. Contrary to what /u/Archwinger says, it's not be…
/r/askTRP24/08/15 06:20 PM
1

I wouldn't read too much in to it. I had hair down to middle of my back, almost to my ass. It gets really, really frustrating to deal with at times plus it becomes pretty difficult to maintain to a point where it never looks ratty combined with heat stroke issues during summer, rolling over on it in the middle of the night, and having it randomly get caught in things as I walked by. I took a good 11 inches off and brought it to my shoulders and it was the best decision ever.
/r/askTRP24/08/15 11:01 AM
2

This is why you need to keep calm and explain loudly enough for her and the people around you what you're doing/what happened and to instruct someone to call the police as soon as possible. Arm locks/wrist locks are widely recognized as the person needs to bring their hand within your space in order for it to be successful. By the time you're done, you should be at an arms distance from her, with her arm restrained.
/r/askTRP24/08/15 03:38 AM
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For any men here who find themselves in a situation where a woman is assaulting them, remember to never throw punches. I would advise to learn how to achieve a wrist lock or arm grab lock which will allow you to restrain her and prevent her from harming you further, while also minimizing harm to the woman (protecting you even more from a legal standpoint). These moves are defensive actions, rather than actions intended to harm. However, if there is a weapon involved you get the fuck out of there…
/r/askTRP24/08/15 03:22 AM
0

Yet, you're still caring about passive aggressive digs that an ex is making on facebook.
/r/askTRP22/08/15 03:26 PM
2

"What's up, bowling ball?"
/r/askTRP20/08/15 06:11 PM
2

Look up nearby hiking trails, try rock climbing, horseback riding, overnight road trip...
/r/askTRP19/08/15 05:54 PM
1

There is nothing wrong with marriage, but look at it this way: if you wouldn't go in to business with your partner, you shouldn't marry them. Where most people fall short in this is the need to "be with the one you love". If that's all you want, don't get married. If, however, you find yourself wanting kids and a family, look towards women who understand a hard day's work, understand the full impact of getting involved in something like this, and share similar values with yourself. As well, look…
/r/askTRP19/08/15 05:47 PM
4

Even better, just respond with: "k"
/r/askTRP19/08/15 05:40 PM
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Take the Homer Simpson approach. She's just looking to complain. You will never be able to solve these problems, because they aren't actually problems and as a result have no solution.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 09:03 PM
1

No, sadly just nanny state government. Same place where strip clubs must have no contact rules so instead you make it hail by chucking toonies from 10 ft away.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:58 AM
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Give her time to settle in. It has only been 10 days. Until then, don't be too desperate to hang out. You attempted to make plans, she's clearly in another mind set. Don't continue to hound or you'll end up smothering her and wrecking any chance.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:55 AM
2

"You forgot your stuff, take it with you or I'm gonna throw it out"
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:51 AM
2

First meet up: go dutch Second+: go dutch or whoever makes the plans can pay. This can also give you a good reason to hold off on future dates and let her come to you instead of you always making plans.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:43 AM
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Get in to the mindset of "it is 2015 and we need to get by and I'm in school so we gotta do what we gotta do". Revisit "financial duties" during the family planning phase. Until then, if you're pulling your own weight, you're fine. Nobody is looking down on you for not being born with a degree and senior level experience.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:19 AM
1

Alberta.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 02:08 AM
1

You do have a point, I'll agree.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 01:30 PM
1

I never said there was anything he could do to salvage the relationship. Quite frankly she dodged a bullet with this one. There is, however, a lot he can do to salvage his reputation and dignity.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 01:14 PM
1

If you seriously let the experiences of other people painting a very one sided picture get in to your head enough to accuse someone of cheating with zero evidence, then TRP is lost on you. Leave that shit to the crazies and be better than it.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 01:14 PM
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You don't know if she cheated, but you are going to accuse her of cheating and make her apologize for something you're not even sure she did in the first place? What the heck? "What's going on here" is she gave enough of a crap to look beyond a paranoid meltdown, but you kept on instead of dealing with it like a rational person. You let yourself down. You aren't even sure, but you want to believe she cheated, so at this point there really isn't anything she could say/do that would make you feel …
/r/askTRP17/08/15 03:42 AM
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Here's how you feel about it: you support her for being able to have herself together and to understand the meaning of work. There are plenty of people out there who are content to leach off of whoever has it best, whether they love them or not, and have never had to endure a hard day's work in their lives. You'll usually hear them complaining about how "being a stay at home parent is the hardest thing in the wooooorld" after they have kids, while the house falls apart because their job as "momm…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 08:56 PM
2

In the oil town I worked at: on a slow day I'd make about $150 in tips in a 6 hour shift, during Stanley Cup playoffs I could easily pull in $500. For clubs: a lot less, college kids are cheaper. A Friday night brought me $150 - $200 after tipping out, but there was a lot more "work"... so basically: less tips, way more people vs the other place which was less people, but much bigger tips. Depending where you are, the bartender and waitress -- actually, the entire venue -- can get in to a LOT of…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 05:38 PM
2

I disagree completely. It is not very attractive to be picked up as a waitress. Here's why: you know why they are there, and it just registers as "desperate". If it's a hot guy doing it, the first question is: "he's probably just trying to get laid/why is he trying to pick up chicks at a restuarant?"; if it's your stereotypical "beta", well, that answers that. Oil towns are chalk full of horny men with more money than they know what to do with. For e.g. one tip, a guy paid a $30 tab with a hundr…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 05:12 PM
1

Thanks a bunch.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 04:45 PM
2

It doesn't, at all. When you're waitressing/bartending, there's generally a million things happening. I worked at a busy place, usually I was the only waitress that had to handle: serving, taking the orders, clearing/washing the tables, handling VLT float, cleaning the bar/restaurant area, and also cleaning the dishes/back area, stocking the bar, etc. There's a million other things to do, and for the most part working that type of job isn't something "optional" where you get to slack off -- you'…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 04:44 PM
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Ignore all the "you should be paranoid, bro!" doom-saying you will inevitably receive. Your girlfriend is a waitress. I used to be a waitress/bartender, and it really takes all types. I have served people, and had to smile and giggle and laugh at the most nauseating people that have passed through because too many people seem to think their patronage entitles them to behaving inappropriately. It's par for the course in the service industry, like adults screaming like toddlers when they don't get…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 02:34 PM
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Here's the best way. When you're having conversations with her, interrupt a conversation often to remind her how she's "sooooo awesome", no matter what. If she asks you a question, just look at her and go "Wow, you are just SUCH a cool girl! How are you so awesome???". Not once or twice, but really be over the top about it and don't further any conversation. Make sure to text her a lot. If she doesn't reply immediately, be annoying with follow up messages "lol hellooooooo busy busy???" Shit like…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 06:05 AM
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Tingle wise from "alpha males" -- here's how I deal with them... I get to know them. Because any and all "tingles" invariably disappear. I don't know how to describe it. At a romantic level, an alpha personality cannot provide me with what I need. So the type of "escalation" they might be putting on to me is just fundamentally incompatible with who I am, what I want, and what I need. I don't know how else to explain it. If I keep a distance, they become just another "image" in the bean bank (if …
/r/askTRP08/08/15 09:15 PM
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Don't try to win her over, even if she's seeing someone. Once you start prying in to a chick's relationship that she's unhappy with, you've become the "shoulder to cry on". If she brings it up, replies like "That sucks", or "Shitty deal", and find a topic to lighten the mood so you can associate your presence with something positive that she can look forward to. Don't be her sponge. Don't be that shoulder. Be the hand to pull her out of the mud, be the hand to cop the feel on her ass you're brus…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 08:00 PM
1

I have been described as "alpha". Personality wise, it would just never work. A lot of my male friends are alpha, and I appreciate them for it. However, part of what helps me bond with a person is my ability to feel like I'm accomplishing something or helping someone, or doing something beneficial to move life forward. A secure, beta individual is comfortable asking for help; asking for your opinion, letting you take charge, letting you make decisions and they are comfortable following. A secure…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 07:51 PM
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So here's what I find generally "safe" (I am female for the sake of discussion) Keep discussion on Tinder to introductions, and getting a basic feel -- why are they on Tinder, what other things are they in to, and to see if they are at least on the most extreme basic of levels somewhat compatible. VERY light teasing on the top. Small talk once you've got her number only for the purpose of meeting up. If you're texting me to be like "Heeeey how's it goiiiing" and I don't know you, you're wasting …
/r/askTRP08/08/15 07:38 PM
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After noping some extremely attractive guys from Tinder this week, I can maybe shed some light on the situation for you. You probably were being a dick and didn't realize it. I've found a lot of people here equate the teasing/negging/etc with "be a dick". No, don't be a dick. Also, avoid text to build/develop shit. Never build or develop things over text, especially over Tinder, because your comments can be taken out of context and read by the other person in the worst possible way. You got your…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 07:24 PM
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OK.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 09:00 PM
2

Lol dude, you're trying too hard. So are you, "dude".
/r/askTRP03/08/15 08:08 PM
2

Well, probably because there was no talk of anyone throwing anyone under the bus. So you either pull things out of your ass, or you're projecting. Pick one.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 07:51 PM
2

Hi, please ignore many of these comments in here that talk about "IT'S JUST A FRAME OF MIND BROOOOOO!" Talk to the psychiatrist you're currently seeing that should be monitoring this. It could very well be that you've grown out of this perscription, it may not have been the right one for you to begin with, or it could very well be a change in diagnosis. If you're discontinuing, schedule regular appointments with the psychiatrist/doctor until he gives you the all-clear. Usually at this point the …
/r/askTRP03/08/15 07:44 PM
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You're projecting an awful lot.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 07:28 PM
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You give him shit, ruffle his hair, then hang out. Because that would be the mature thing to do. He is your friend. He is excited about new poon. Sometimes other friends get neglected. Find something to do with your time and when you both reconnect, you both reconnect. If not, life moves on.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 05:11 PM
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She funded his career and paid for their vacation, starting from when he was poor/broke/and his career was a sinkhole. She has stepped up enough. It is his turn to give her a break from playing both man and woman in this relationship.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 05:08 PM
2

It is okay to seek validation from others... within reason, and if the person is qualified to give proper advice. For example: did you just put together an outfit, but want a second opinion? Seek a second opinion from that buddy/clerk/etc that has good style. Or, you've been lifting weights but you're hitting a plateau. Talk to your gym buddy about it. A bad example: you made a macaroni necklace and now you want to tell everyone about it. A bad example is talking about fitness shit to people who…
/r/askTRP03/08/15 04:27 PM
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It's how you know she has at least some respect for your dignity, otherwise you get the curled up face and an exaggerated "ummmmm okaaaaay?" if you are really disliked :p
/r/askTRP31/07/15 12:34 AM
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Try again, love.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 02:27 PM
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Here's where I feel like this sub is a lot of "blind leading the blind", so I'll do my best. Alpha isn't defined as "hot, asshole" -- Alpha men (and women but for the sake of discussion we'll keep it to men) are men who derive validation internally. They don't "need" you to constantly validate them and their experiences. They are less likely to complain, and overall less likely to "need" people emotionally. Some women find this attractive and see it like "If I have kids with this guy, I can coun…
/r/askTRP30/07/15 01:16 PM
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With "Alpha" men, we're going to try to impress him and mirror his interests to try and find common ground. We're going to act a little dumber, a lot cuter, and we're going to show off a little bit more. As a woman, when we pull the whole "omg you're such an asshole!" while laughing, it's kind of like the female equivalent to negging, but combined with validating his "manliness". After all, what's more masculine than a guy who doesn't give a fuck? And what kind of a guy doesn't give a fuck? An a…
/r/askTRP30/07/15 02:39 AM
2

This is omega level shit. Tell me more about those chemtrails.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 07:34 PM
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Borderline isn't fixed with medication. It is a personality disorder, the treatment is actually talking-therapy to develop emotional immaturity that was stunted due to neglect, abuse, and/or abandonment during the childhood formative years (especially) which resulted in a failure to develop those sets of skills as an adult. Medication is used to treat the actual mental illness (anxiety, severe depression, etc). You can't just go "I don't believe it so it isn't real!" or you're as bad as those an…
/r/askTRP16/07/15 03:33 AM
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