Is this still the carousel phase?

[deleted] · 2013-11-15T09:25:21+00:00

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Manuel_S · 2013-11-15T07:38:49+00:00

Look man, it sounds as if you want her to be going on to steady.

You getting feelings? Nothing wrong with that - but admit them to yourself, or you'll be easy prey.

If not - she believes she's still in the bloom of youth, so unlikely to want to stop the ride.

LifterofThings · 2013-11-15T15:10:20+00:00

So I guess my question is, is this woman still in the carousel phase or looking to settle down?

Hard to say. Why do you care? You've decided you're not giving her a chance.

Is it worth talking to her even if nothing sexual arises (me denying her)?

I don't know, you tell me.

I'm sorry man, but this post is transparent and whiny as shit. You obviously like her, but you're doing this stupid defensive "WELL ONLY IF SHE ONLY LOVES ME FROM NOW ON" thing. I'm sure I'll get shit for this, but the notion that "only because you value yourself" is fucking ridiculous-- it's not because you "value yourself", it's because you've bought into the notion that she's somehow unclean because she's had sex with some people. If that's a deterrent for you, fine, but please spare us the "i value myself!" hamstering.

[deleted] · 2013-11-15T15:15:11+00:00

NOTE: I don't want to have anything to do with her.

Are you sure? Because if this is true then this thread is a waste of time.

[deleted] · 2013-11-15T15:45:26+00:00

You're asking the wrong questions here. The biggest problem with women who have ridden the carousel is that:

They're more likely to be alpha widows, which means nothing you can do will satisfy them
15+ other men have found her not likely to be a long term partner, or she is that picky and entitled that she allowed 15+ other men access to her sexually but didn't want them for LTRs.
Divorce risk/LTR risk for N>10 is 70+%, so absolutely not a good idea to start up a relationship in attempt for LTR or marriage.
I would argue that riding the carousel shows poor impulse control, poor sexual decision making, etc. from the points above but that is debatable.

All said and done, any type of LTR is likely to fail in the long run if that's what you're looking for. It would be unwise in my opinion.

If you're looking to hook up then it would be a plate at best.

She said she was from a strict religious background growing up, which makes sense why she'd be riding the carousel.

Don't deny women agency. Both men and women have control over their own actions. They can choose what to do or what not to do.

To answer your questions anyway:

So I guess my question is, is this woman still in the carousel phase or looking to settle down?

You have no way of finding out, and neither do we. But it doesn't matter because you already have all of the information you need to make a decision on plate or LTR potential.

Is it worth talking to her even if nothing sexual arises (me denying her)?

Your time is valuable. Why are you getting hung up on a girl who, if you want a relationship, is probably not LTR material? Are you really going to waste time being a friend to this girl?

What is the proper response to a woman who's had more sexual partners, but only because you value yourself?

If you're looking for a plate, fine. If you're looking for an LTR, next.

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Title	Is this still the carousel phase?
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Date	November 15, 2013 4:51 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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