Quick history, 36 years old, found MRP about two years ago, nuked 13 year relationship just over a year ago then fucked up and jumped into a new relationship too quickly, fucked that up and decided it wasn't worth fixing so bailed and decided to spin plates for a while. This was about three months ago.

I took a week off of work and hit dating apps like a full time job, five dates in six days with a 100% success rate and all was good, I built my harem in a week, also plated the ex at her request. I soon realised three was the magic number as more is too much to handle. I cut it down to three, one the perfect plate, only text to arrange to bang, she comes, we bang, she goes.

The other one however I realised it was going to be difficult for me not to LTR her. Just my type, shit together, PhD, similar interests. I fucked up again by spending too much time with her, she tells me she loves me. It didn't take too long for the 'what are we?' questions to start, I told her how it was and that we wouldn't be exclusive which she accepted and then the last three times we met the question popped up again every time. Then she texts me about it again the day after and says she can't fuck me if I'm fucking other women, but she wants to do all the other shit and hopes when I'm ready I'll want to be with her.

Obviously I was prepared to lose her by not giving in to her request for a LTR but I was pleased when she said she'd wait as the plan was always to LTR her in the future unless of course a better prospect came along.

I'm not sure how to play this now though. My immediate thoughts were to partially withdraw contact with her and maybe she'd come back into the fold. I did something we'd planned with a friend instead, told her I can't come to her place anymore as not practical if I'm not staying over and when she asked if I knew anyone that could teach her to ride a motorbike (i.e me) I told her there are plenty of training schools about. Since then she's gone uncharacteristically quiet and I imagine she's thinking it was just sex for me and may grieve and then move on. If that happens it's fine but I'd like to play it right so she's there if I'm ever ready for it.

I see my options now as:

- Wait it out and either hear nothing or get the inevitable 'so we are not even talking now then?' message
- Keep doing shit with her minus the sex, maybe set something up which will likely result in sex anyway
- Stop doing shit with her but be nicer about it to give her hope

Thoughts?