LMR or having boundaries?

MattyAnon · 2018-04-24T10:00:33+00:00

gave me the 'take me on a few dates at least'

Urgh. This is "you gotta pay" and it means "I'm not that attracted"

A few dates is fine, but not if you're taking her on them, especially not if you're paying.

You deal with this by implying you have other options. Even better, GET OTHER OPTIONS. Then you won't care, and she'll know.

Been texting her but she isn't putting forth much effort and has put me off once when I asked to hang out again

She is behaving like she isn't that attracted to you.

shes currently seeing some beta as a rebound to her "asshole cheating ex"

Ah, the "asshole ex" line. This means "he was alpha and I think I want to try beta now, although without sex because betas aren't hawt".

Popeman79 · 2018-04-24T06:41:18+00:00

If it was the first time you saw her, it's fair for her to reject sex. That doesn't mean that she's really into you.

My advice is take her out on some cheap date/activity (dont start throwing money at her), that you wanna do anyway. Have fun. Also don't get too commited to this girl in particular, game other girls. I can tell by your post that you like her, that might play against you. By second or third date she should put out if she's into you. If not, don't worry about it and move one to one of the other chicks.

no92 · 2018-04-24T06:55:04+00:00

I think asking for a date is reasonable. It puts it on the table they are interested, but want to know you better.

(One of the most) common mistakes on this sub is lack of initiative in date planning.

You must tell them a location, date, and time, and see what they respond. Whatever else you have been texting is not as straightforward.

If they say yes, you're good - plan out the first, second, third activities you might like to do.

If they say they are busy at that time - give them the option to provide a different date and time. If they don't at the very least do that, it's probably not going to be worth much time to pursue, as they are uninterested or unsure.

Why these scenarios? If a hot girl hit you up with a date place/time, you'd probably cancel plans to meet her if you were really interested. And if you couldn't cancel, you'd at least try to reschedule politely. Same goes for them.

Title	LMR or having boundaries?
Author	ltch223
Upvotes	5
Comments	3
Date	April 24, 2018 6:09 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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