Sorry if this is the wrong sub. I recall a video posted on TRP it seemed to be one of those 'self-help' seminars where an old woman who was the speaker was discussing relationship issues with a guest. The guest was a girl had some complains about her BF, such as 'he doesn't spend enough time with me'. The host was able to get her to rephrase everything "I don't spend enough time with him". It showed the power of re-framing the relationship and really just how much agency people have over their lives.

Anyone remember this and can share? thanks.

EDIT: sorry. I went through pages of my youtube history and luckily found it. Thought perhaps I watched in incognito mode and lost records or something. Also turns out the link isnt on r/theredpill anymore either

If you're curious, here it is, its by Byron Katie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KAhjBvxQ8fk