Losing boners (performance anxiety)

IMBDD619 · 2019-09-18T20:37:13+00:00

I'm 23 years old and recently out of a LTR of almost 3 years. Had great sex with her during the relationship but dealt with some ED at the very beginning of meeting her. I thought I was over it, but since ending the LTR I've had that issue with 3/5 of the women I've seen since then when sleeping with them for the first time. It has happened less frequently recently, and I believe it's due to a few things. 1. I have been watching less porn and masturbating less because it desensitizes you to sex both mentally and physically. Still working on stopping completely. 2. I have tried using Viagra on a few occasions and it gave me a lot more confidence in my sexual interactions, which carried over into future interactions. 3. I sometimes smoke a little weed before meeting with my plates because for me, it calms any anxiety, makes me nonreactive to shit tests or whatever else a woman may throw at me, and I usually notice increased blood flow after smoking. If you don't smoke on occasion already, avoid this advice because you'll probably react the opposite way that I do, and it may increase your anxiety. 4. I have realized that I really need to actually crave sexual relations with whatever women I'm hooking up with. Her just looking attractive isn't always enough for me. She also needs to do things in a way that turns me on. Either through her words or her bedroom skills. If she just wants to lie there like a starfish, then I won't be into it at all, and I can almost guarantee I won't stay hard for long in that situation. 5. As long as you do other things to make up for a lack of an erection in the first time sleeping with them, they will generally be willing to meet up with you again, at least in my experience.

wawakaka · 2019-09-19T04:49:10+00:00

you might have an overly excitable brain. you produce too much dopamine which turns into adrenaline and that adrenaline is givng you COKE DICK.

coke dick is when you can't get it up after using cocaine because you have so much adrenaline.

adrenaline constricts your blood vessels and prevents boners.

you can try LITHIUM orotate which slows it down. or you can try to increase your NOS. nitrous oxide dialtes blood vessels and increases boners.

rpgedgar · 2019-09-19T02:52:04+00:00

Tackle the root of your anxiety. Do you also have trouble sleeping? How is your overall health? Boner health could be an indicator of cardiovascular health, so go see a doctor. Also, go running. Nothing loosens up the blood vessels like a 6 mile jog. And of course...LIFT. Lifting doesn't just strengthen your muscles, it trains your nervous system.

Haytch1234 · 2019-09-19T03:20:51+00:00

Go practice on hookers.

alltherain21 · 2019-09-19T04:39:32+00:00

Zero porn and very little masturbation. I'm the same age as you and I've had the same issue in the past and this has worked really well for me

thatguywhatshisface · 2019-09-19T12:35:32+00:00

Do you smoke/vape?? I was smoking 12mg plus the occasional cigarette, I recently quit and I have noticed my ED disappear. Nicotine does affect erection

Angelrun · 2019-09-20T12:18:43+00:00

Quit beating it I’m a year younger had this issue a few months ago

Title	Losing boners (performance anxiety)
Author	fapstronot118
Upvotes	8
Comments	7
Date	September 18, 2019 6:34 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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