OK I know I'm bad with titles - leave me alone

normally these typ of issues are meant for son and dad talks, I guess - but my dad is pure beta and never taught me much, that's why I came here.

I'm still in learning phase but made huge improvements with the help of you guys, thanks for that. Now to my problem...

I'm 24 years old and was a Virgin till recently. It took so long because I always believed that It should be something special with someone special but oh boy was I dumb, I turned down some girls in my youth because of this mindset - but fuck it, it's too late anyways

so I'm still seeing the girl who took my virginity.. I'm not dating her or anything we just have a fun time together

Last time I saw her, we were making out and I was playing with her and during all of this I was rock hard but as soon I was about to fuck her, my dick went soft and I couldn't bring my partner in crime back to life. This shit happend three times that night.. THREE FUCKING TIMES

it was pretty disappointing and embarrassing and I guess I know that this can happen cause of nervousness but shit. I'm in my head all the fucking time. thinking about this incident and that I will happen again. these thoughts don't really help and are making things worse, but I really don't know how to stop it.

Also I really started to think that I have erection problem, and before you guys recommend no fap - I did that and before losing my virginity I was on 3X or something. but I don't really have morning woods anymore and getting random boners during the day - can't even remember when this happend the last time I tried watching porn recently, to see if just the looking would give me a boner and nope nothing. I need to play with myself to get a hard one..

Are those things normal?

I really need some advice

PS. Funny how writing this out, made things worse. I'm kinda panicking right now.