Been in a LTR going on 3 years. She was one of my best friends for a long time before, but I had other interests. After she stuck it out a couple years, we finally started dating. Relationship started out great. Sex was always on the agenda, didn't matter when or where or who was around. Since that time the frequency has dropped slowly but surely to the point where an every day/every other day is now a once a week or every two weeks. I made a fatal mistake. I've dropped the frame I had in the initial phase of the relationship, and have fallen into a begging routine of denial and frustration. Doing my best to reestablish this frame and after looking back on our recent time spent together, I saw the reward I got from a subtle dread play. We went to a concert with a bunch of friends and everyone had a great time. Made a bunch of new "friends" who were all talking/dancing amongst each other all night. I created some distance between me and my girl by talking to new people and just having fun in general. After the show, a couple people I had met that night introduced a girl to me in clear view of my girlfriend. There were clear IOIs, and after introductions and a very short conversation, I introduced the girl to my girlfriend and left when they started talking. The next night we were out late again and both fell asleep right when we got home, but the following night, out of the blue, I get A1 head. A little bit of a positive loop. I was given a higher SMV after the first night at the concern, and because of that I got a reward the next time we were alone.

Now, this was a small victory for me, but does not in any way repair the damage I have done. This weekend, a larger group of friends has rented a beach house where we are going for a couple days. I have the opportunity to continue to work on this in an ideal environment. New faces, new personalities, new experiences. For those of you who have experience in this, or overall advice for me... Whats the best way for me to begin reestablishing my frame in this relationship? Short term things this weekend vs longer term plays?