I’m not sure what to do about this. My GF has some beta orbiter that she used to send nudes to years before she met me. I’ve seen their online conversation and she has him securely in the friend zone.

(E.G. she was at the gym and they were messaging when he asked her for a picture and she said “no” b/c she figured he was trying to see her gym outfit. Their other conversations have been typical orbiter and emotional tampon. Talking about me and our relationship when she’s upset, using him as that outlet. He wants her to visit him and she keeps making excuses. He’s a totally clueless “good guy.”)

My LTR is also EXTREMELY invested. Runs errands for me, sex/anal whenever I want, has helped me with a few areas of my life I haven’t been good at (domestic stuff and managing money/debt. She has accounting skills I’m learning. I recently picked up some good domestic habits, but need time to pickup on her budgeting genius).

So I’m not sure what to do: squash it, ignore it, or relegate this as a “my turn” situation and learn all I can from her strengths before it ends so I’m better situated when the Next comes?

This is not a Next worthy issue, but it could become one.