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OP, follow this advice. There’s no way you can eat above your TDEE and not gain weight. The calories have to go somewhere.
/r/askTRP25/05/18 01:21 AM
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How many calories are you usually eating and does your weight stay the same? This is a better indicator of your TDEE. If it’s still around 2,000, subtract 250 and see how you feel after two weeks. If needed, then subtract another 250.
/r/askTRP22/05/18 11:26 PM
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Google, “Wendler Boring But Big.” All of it can be done by adding a pull up bar, ez curl bar, and substituting a couple exercises. Also, make sure you eat at least 200 calories over your TDEE.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 03:34 AM
5

Yes, you need a hobby. The best hobby is a desire to learn. It’ll guide you in many different directions.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 03:22 AM
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Women will come and go. Sounds like you need a few close friends and some other solid things in your life.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 03:10 AM
3

Who knows why she’s distant. It’s pointless even trying to figure it out. It’s better to spend the mental energy elsewhere. Text her to hang. Talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP10/05/18 01:38 PM
3

Text her for a date and then go radio silent. I know it’s hard not to, but it’s pointless trying to figure out what’s going on in her head. It’s better to spend that time on yourself or talking to other girls.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 02:14 PM
1

Move on and learn from your mistakes. You want to keep a shred of dignity? You be the one who ends it.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 02:04 PM
1

She’s using jealousy to up her value and get you to commit. A&A is the right choice. Never show jealousy. It’s reserved for insecure men. Cue the countdown timer to “The Talk” because it’s coming sooner than later.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 09:22 PM
1

You’ve established what you want with her. Good for you. What’s the major reason for ending this? I’d keep her around unless there are specific and immediate reasons to end it, ie drama. As the say, it’s always easier to find a new job when you already have one.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 04:09 PM
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In this situation, I might text, “Cool, no problem. Text me when you’re free.” Now it’s explicitly stated that the ball is in her court. If she’s interested, she can contact me. I never text her again until she does so first. On a side note, it’s very important to have other things you can do when a girl breaks plans because it makes you indifferent. Go meet new girls.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 04:01 PM
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Your problem is she’s the only girl you’re trying to hang with right now. How can I tell? You did nothing wrong and you’re worried you did. Text today or tomorrow, “If you wanna smoke later, I’m free after X.” Talk to more girls.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 01:35 PM
6

CBT and meditation.
/r/askTRP02/05/18 11:54 PM
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I hope not ha. At its best TRP is here to give you a dose of reality coupled with the skills and knowledge to navigate the world and women. You’ll see people talk about everything around here. A lot of the advice is pretty solid.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 02:08 PM
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When I start reminiscing about past girlfriends or imagine being in a relationship, it’s because I’m in a rut or feeling the need for stability.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:55 PM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if she brings up “The Talk” within the next month or two.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 01:31 PM
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Say, “Cool” and be indifferent. Go have fun and escalate. Their reaction will be your real answer.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 03:49 AM
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They can do what they want. If it doesn’t affect me, I don’t need to know anything.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 07:52 PM
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Game isn’t a set of tricks. It’s a set of behaviors all successful men exhibit. As soon as you start acting differently towards different women, you’re putting them back on a pedestal. Read the Sidebars and Handbook.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 04:46 PM
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Do you want to hook up with her? Yes, escalate. No, then don’t.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 04:20 PM
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Text her a couple days after she gets back. Anything other than a yes or her offering firm alternative plans is a no. Then you soft next. In the meantime, talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 04:10 PM
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In the future tell a girl you’re not interested.
/r/askTRP29/04/18 03:13 PM
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I have no idea why you ignored her texts. By ignoring, you’re showing you don’t care or you took her “maybe” personally. Different texts you can send in the future: A) “I already have plans, but I want to see you. What time are you thinking?” B) “I already have plans, but I want to see you. When are you free this week?” These texts show you have a life and her indecision turns into you making other plans. Both pull her back into chasing you. Now I’d wait a couple of days then text, “I’m sorry yo…
/r/askTRP29/04/18 02:47 PM
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Sweet! Have fun.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 09:52 PM
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Go to r/fitness for answers. To echo others, make sure to eat and sleep a lot. Oh, and learn proper form. You can’t put on much muscle if you’re hurt.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 04:06 PM
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You only control you and your actions. Weak men try to control others. The number one thing you can do is work on yourself. Become a leader. Stop or slowly stop the behaviors that kill attraction. And remember, women love attention the way men love sex.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 03:59 PM
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No, it doesn’t. Strike while the iron is hot. Get some wine or even possibly make her dinner. Anything other than a yes or her offering firm alternative plans is a no. If that’s the case, you wait a week and then text her again. Most of the time, it’s better to just move on after your first offer.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 03:49 PM
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Don’t read too much into it. Your response was adequate. Don’t address it again. Now text her to set up a hang and talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP28/04/18 03:42 PM
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If you can come up with a better text, go with it. Off the top of my head, I’d say, “Likewise. And moving slow is great for both of us.” It reassures her and shows you’re not overly invested or making a big deal about anything. Then set up the next hang. Game other girls.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 02:06 PM
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Unless she’s ridiculously attracted to you, she’s going to lose interest. It’s human nature. Plus, she’s being hit on by guys all the time. When a women says guys aren’t hitting on her, they usually mean guys they aren’t attracted to are hitting on her. I like to schedule stuff about 2-3 days ahead max. Hope it helps.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 01:42 PM
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Build more comfort. She’s going through a rough time. During sex take the focus off you and put it on her. Make her cum so hard she’s practically begging for your dick. Also, make sure to hang for a bit afterwards. If it continues a month from now, it might be time to leave because you can’t save anyone. She might need therapy. As always, game other girls.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 01:32 PM
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TL;DR
/r/askTRP27/04/18 12:38 PM
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Dude and I hope you take this heart because I type with no malice and I think you give some great advice. At times you give some great advice and at other times you couldn’t be more way off in the way in how you read a situation. You’re the only person on this sub who does this to people on a consistent basis. I’m making fun of his question. He sounds like a junkie. Personally, the only time I’ve gone NoFap was when a girl nearly broke my dick ten years ago while riding me. I had to give it time…
/r/askTRP26/04/18 02:27 PM
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Why stop at the size of your apartment? How about the.. Car you drive Savings account Your race Your age Abs Dick size Her n count Your n count Size of the bed Softness of the sheets Add another 1,000 reasons You’re right, it does matter. Stop talking to girls. Start labeling yourself, “Forever Alone” and buy two cats. I hope you get my point. If she wants to fuck you, she’ll bang you inside a Taco Bell dumpster while WWIII rages outside.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:59 PM
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Top 5 Ways To Solve Problems With Women A) Focus on what you want B) Self-improvement C) Withdrawing attention D) Gaming other women E) Judge actions, not words
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:45 PM
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This should be the first question people should ask themselves before they post about, “There’s this one girl.” “Women have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you're not fucking her, you're her girlfriend.”-Rollo Tomassi
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:35 PM
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The most important thing you can do right now is strike up conversations with everyone. Personally, I think this is the big secret to learning how to talk to women. It also helps with everything. You feel connected, brighten people’s day, and make new friends.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:25 PM
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Does smoking heroin count as heroin? I mean, I’m not injecting it.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:20 PM
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You need to move on and only keep contact for the sake of the kid. Yeah, I know it sucks to hear, but it’s the best move.
/r/askTRP25/04/18 01:42 PM
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You clearly haven’t read the RP Sidebar, Handbook or any other materials. You’re 100% in the wrong about TRP principles. It’s a toolbox of knowledge for you to use for what YOU want. Spinning plates isn’t about banging multiple girls to feel more “alpha.” It’s about having options to screen for a potential LTR or having a soft harem. Your choice. The point is you need to get good with women. Clearly you’re not because you wouldn’t cite this story and then misconstrue TRP principles. By the way, …
/r/askTRP24/04/18 10:52 PM
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Very true
/r/askTRP24/04/18 04:50 PM
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I’ve usually gotten them because we’re texting and it turns into sexting. I’ll let her know I wish I had better pics and how much I want her. I also send her pics. Me: I want you in my bed right now. Her: Yeah, I want to see you. Me: I wish you weren’t so far away. And I’ll have is your FB pics to look at ha. Damn, I wish I had some sexy pics of you. Her: Hold on... Then she starts sending pics.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 03:11 PM
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No problem. It’s easy to get caught up in one girl and overthink it. This is another reason to talk to a lot of girls. You’ll stop giving much thought to the girls with low interest because you’ll be spending too much time on the girls who are into you. Read both Sidebars and The Book of Pook. Lots of great wisdom in there.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 02:20 PM
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Go find ten girls who think you’re a player and then write up a field report. We’ll wait....
/r/askTRP24/04/18 02:05 PM
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TRP advises to never bring this stuff up to a girl. I break from it and tell girls I only want them as a FWB because I don’t want to lead them on. I’ve done it for years. Women have always responded positively because I’m honest. They’ll usually stick around until they find a guy who wants to commit. Do what you want.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 02:03 PM
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Every girl gets a max of two invites to hang. She’s not into you. Girls who are make it easy to meet up with them. Game other girls and stop giving her any attention. You don’t need to be rude. Just ghost.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 01:54 PM
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Hang out and then try to kiss her. Her response will let you know her interest level.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 07:41 PM
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Good point ha. I should’ve clarified, he’s a slut because he’ll give up his attention to anybody.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 01:37 PM
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I just told you bro. She’s using you for attention. Only text to make plans so you cut through time wasters. Talk to multiple girls to avoid oneitis. I guess I should’ve added... Move the fuck on.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 01:35 PM
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Girls like attention the way men like sex. Text for logistics only, “Let’s get a drink at X on X.” Anything other than a yes or firm alternative plans is a no. You should be talking to multiple girls... always.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 01:19 PM
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Delete the Reddit app.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:34 AM
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Her interest level is low. She already takes awhile to respond. Don’t text her again. If she’s interested, she’ll let you know. By doing so you leave the door open to see her on campus and not come off as needy.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:32 AM
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And she’s using him as either as an emotional tampon or as a way to raise her value to the guy she really wants by instilling jealousy. Basically, OP is more upset because he’s being used. He’s the real slut.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:24 AM
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There’s probably going to be a lot of emotions involved. She’ll most likely push for commitment after awhile. It’ll probably end badly even if you talk about it beforehand.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:19 AM
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Sounds like she’s into him and you’re an orbiter.
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:16 AM
2

TL;DR
/r/askTRP23/04/18 02:11 AM
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LDR is not a relationship. It’s a FWB at most. I’m sorry but there aren’t exceptions. She’s telling you this because she’s either kissed or wants to kiss other guys. It’s her way of absolving herself of guilt, “If he agrees or does it, then he can’t judge me. I’m still a good person.” Top 4 Reasons She Mentions Other Guys: A) Use jealousy to up her value B) Preparing to branch swing C) Socially inept with zero boundaries D) Mentally ill Let her do what she wants because she’s going to anyway. Yo…
/r/askTRP22/04/18 11:38 PM
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“Depends on how you are in-person. Let’s hang at X on X.” Anything other than a yes or her offering firm alternative plans is a no. Cuts through attention seeking behavior.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 11:28 PM
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It’s hard to give solid advice with very little info. The only thing I can think of is you’re missing something either with your personality or in the bedroom. If those are really on point, it’s just a slump and normal. Keep doing what you’re doing and see what happens over the next six months.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 06:31 PM
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Your response and original post convey two different scenarios. You don’t befriend a girl to fuck her later. That’s a manipulative beta move. Being friendly with her is different. You need to work on yourself. Read the Sidebar.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 04:38 PM
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At some point, every guy has been in your shoes. You need one under you belt to help you recognize it with future girls. Why? It makes it easier to walk before you become emotionally invested. Leave white knighting for guys who don’t have options. When women have these types of issues it’s usually bi-polar, BPD, or PTSD. Either way, they’re going to take it out on you because they lack self-awareness, boundaries, and the ability to take responsibility for their actions. You’ll always be the bad …
/r/askTRP22/04/18 04:33 PM
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If she’s willing to cheat with you, she’ll cheat on you. You’re not special or different. People are the way they are and you can’t change them. If you haven’t hooked up with her, you’re an orbiter. You’re giving her attention for FREE. Man up and walk away.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 02:45 PM
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You’re overly invested because you’re not seeing other women. You should have at least 2-3 plates. If you only have one and she hasn’t brought up the talk, you’re covertly exclusive with her. It’ll screw with your thoughts and emotions. No need to say anything to her. Move on. She’ll contact you if she want to see you. You’ve already tried making plans with no response. She deserves nothing from you.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 02:41 PM
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Text her Monday, “Let’s get a drink at X on X.” Anything other than a yes or firm alternative plans is a no. Move on. Reread the last line.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 02:33 PM
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You relapse for a couple of reasons: When it’s going well, it’s better than any relationship you’ve ever had. When it isn’t, it’s literally the complete opposite. Then you break up. You hope one day she’ll fix her issues and everything will perfect. IT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. The only thing that will happen is #1.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 02:28 PM
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Never bring up relationship talk. She’s keeping you as a plate until something better comes along or using jealousy to up her value to get you to commit. Either way it’s working. If you were seeing other women as well, you wouldn’t care. If you read the SIDEBAR, you’d already know what to do. Here’s a hint, go see other women.
/r/askTRP22/04/18 02:11 PM
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I’m 6’. Started at 185lbs. Now at 192. I’m around 3,000 calories a day. My goal is 205lbs. I’ll keep eating around the same amount until I stall. I have a desk job and don’t do anything except lift and yoga. Google TDEE calculator.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 03:33 PM
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Keep this for future reference. When you ask a girl out, anything other than a yes or firm alternative plans is a no. Soft next.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 03:29 PM
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I started 10 months ago with Starting Strength. Then switched to a bodybuilding routine four months ago. No matter what you choose, eat, eat, eat. I didn’t eat for a surplus for the first six months, my weight stayed the same but my body composition changed a lot. In the last four months, I’ve gained 7lbs by eating one more meal per day. I also let myself eat another snack if I feel like it. My waist has only slightly increased. Oh and without a doubt, make sure your form is on point. You can ge…
/r/askTRP21/04/18 03:02 PM
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A girl starts off as a plate and only through her actions does she get any LTR consideration. Have fun and worry about the rest later.
/r/askTRP20/04/18 11:48 PM
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Huh? I think I’m missing something. She sounds like she wants to fuck and you’re like, “Is this a shit test?”
/r/askTRP20/04/18 11:27 PM
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Book of Pook Rational Male No More Mr. Nice Guy This guy’s blog helped me a lot as well. He’s one of PUA guys from the early 2000’s. He was more RP than PUA. http://attractwomenanywhere.com/blog/starter-guide/
/r/askTRP20/04/18 01:53 PM
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TL;DR
/r/askTRP20/04/18 01:33 PM
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I’ll go even further. Instead of being the prize, realize you are the prize. Let me be real with you. Women know their value to men is their beauty. Guys naturally don’t care as much about what car she drives, how much she makes, or even her hobbies. They want to fuck the most beautiful women they can get always. Women are like pro athletes. From 18-30(if they stay in shape), they’re on top of the world. As soon as they hit 30, their stock starts falling. I have a friend who’s 38. As she says, “…
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:49 PM
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Be the prize dude.
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:24 PM
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Yes, it lowers your value. Only guys with a scarcity mentality do it because they’re afraid of losing her. It’s why they get jealous. They don’t have options. All of this is sub-communicated. She’ll actually lose attraction because you’re not of high value and you can be toyed with emotionally instead of being her rock. My suggestion is to forget about it and be a man women would be afraid to lose.
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:21 PM
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Top 4 Reasons She Mentions Other Guys: A) Use jealousy to up her value B) Preparing to branch swing C) Socially inept with zero boundaries D) Mentally ill Agree&Amplify works as well as ignoring. Never mate guard or show jealousy. It actually lowers your value.
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:17 PM
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OP, this is the best and only advice you need.
/r/askTRP19/04/18 01:29 AM
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Next time A&A, “Yes, but I use you even more for (insert sarcastic comment).” She’s most likely pushing for more comfort and/or to get you to commit. Ignore and soft next. I bet she contacts you before the weekend. If she doesn’t, make other plans with another girl. Make sure to live your life. She’ll contact you. I promise. Don’t contact her. Let her chase.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 01:39 PM
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CBT and meditation. Also, are you lifting? Do you have goals? Are you actively working towards them? Hobbies?
/r/askTRP17/04/18 06:51 AM
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You need to buy a book to tell you to shut the fuck up? I’ll tell you for free. Shut the fuck up! Jk Focus on being an active listener.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 04:00 AM
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TL;DR
/r/askTRP16/04/18 02:09 PM
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You should have more important things going on in your life. When you reply with what he suggested, it implies you aren’t making a big deal about it. She’s the one with the major problem and not you. She still gets the message but it’s more due to the fact that when she’s a brat, you just naturally shift your attention. Follow fnordsnord. Although he’ll delete comments to keep his anonymity on here, his advice is legit. Read his comments in-addition to the the Sidebar and other suggested stuff.
/r/askTRP16/04/18 01:48 PM
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A club is the Tinder of the real world. They’re only rejecting you for the most superficial reasons. Don’t take it personal. Remember a salesmen only focuses on people ready to buy and ones on the fence. He doesn’t waste time with the other people because it could take away from a potential sale from someone else.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 03:03 PM
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I have to ask, what do you think you’ll accomplish by knowing? The reason I ask is because most guys want to know only so they can justify not putting in the work necessary to better themselves. They want to remain a victim. In this case, to their genetics
/r/askTRP14/04/18 10:16 PM
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CBT and mediation. I write and then meditate. It’s my version of happy hour.
/r/askTRP14/04/18 10:14 PM
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Monitor your progress. The big thing you want to avoid is overtraining because it will affect both areas. Pick lifting or boxing as your main priority. If you pick lifting, keep boxing as much as you can until your progress stalls or starts to go backwards. Then you cut back on the boxing until your progress starts up again. Make sure your sleep and diet are on point as well. I didn’t start gaining weight until I got up to 3,000 calories.
/r/askTRP14/04/18 10:13 PM
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Be social with everyone. It’ll teach you to let go of outcome dependence and realize no matter who it is you’re talking to a conversation doesn’t mean anything.
/r/askTRP13/04/18 05:48 AM
2

If you mean broken, ie unresolved mental health issues, they’re a plate at best. Don’t ever LTR these women. They’ll drive you up a wall.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 02:21 PM
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Get built and grow a beard. This combo always looks good.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 02:18 PM
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Women with unresolved issues can never rise above plate status. TRP advice will probably tell you no and to make her earn it. The same when it comes to a weekend hang. If you don’t understand the psychology, it’s because you need to read the Sidebar and RP Handbook. I break from this advice if I’ve established the boundaries of the relationship. I straight up tell girls if I only want a FWB because I don’t want to lead her on. It’s worked for me since college. They usually like the honesty and s…
/r/askTRP11/04/18 02:16 PM
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It’s important to start with a therapist because we’re unaware of some of our cognitive distortions. They’re able to point them out pretty easily. Over time, you’ll become conscious to your thoughts and have the ability to do it yourself.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 10:20 PM
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CBT and meditation.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 05:39 PM
1

Lead. Escalate. There’s almost no need in trying to interpret her actions or thoughts when you do so. It cuts through a lot of bs.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 02:05 PM
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The majority of what you describe probably isn’t happening. It’s only your perception due to your insecurity and fear. I highly recommend mediation because it helps distance you from your thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy will show you they’re not real.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 01:58 PM
3

You get too much in your own head and start overthinking the interaction. It’s because you’re not present. Focus more on her and what she’s saying. Also, remember the only outcome you should care about is having fun.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 02:22 PM
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Smack her on the ass and ask, “What’s my name?” When she says she doesn’t know, start fist pumping the air and in a deep, video game voice say, “Achievement unlocked! God like powers unleashed!” It really intensifies your orgasm too because you’ll be harnessing the power of the universe.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 02:12 PM
1

Plate or LTR? Plate-ignore LTR- move on if she’s annoying I’ll need more context to give better advice.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 01:59 PM
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Next time, wait to ask a woman to a wedding in your situation . It comes off as manipulative when you try to sleep with her right after the invite. I’d back off this one and game new girls. If you do, you might find a different girl to take to the wedding. Reengage with this one later this week or not at all. I’d actually be surprised if she contacts you. Remember to lead. She’ll probably need a lot of comfort.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 01:56 PM
1

Just say, “Cool.” Then act like it never happened. Contact her on Tuesday and make plans. If she does it in the future, you soft next her.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 12:32 AM
2

Most often I see it in PTSD, bi-polar and BPD.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 12:12 AM
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A) She’s afraid of losing you because she thinks you don’t care enough. It’s her way of closing the gap in value. D) Mentally ill people usually have zero boundaries. They also tend to lack a lot of impulse control.
/r/askTRP09/04/18 12:07 AM
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Top 4 Reasons She Mentions Other Guys: A) Use jealousy to up her value B) Preparing to branch swing C) Socially inept with zero boundaries D) Mentally ill Read the Sidebar. Mate guarding does the opposite of what you want it to do. Agree&Amplify works perfect in these situations, “I bet he’s cute. Make sure to get his number for me too.” Let her contact you. I bet she does within 24 hours or less.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 11:55 PM
2

Women and children consume the most entertainment. Everything will be marketed towards them. Also, what people want in entertainment is different than what plays out or works in reality.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 10:56 PM
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Set up the hang. “I’m free on X. Let’s go get a drink at X at X.” Anything other than a yes or her offering firm alternative plans is a no. At that point, next her. I’ve been in similar situations before. It ended in either getting laid or her flaking.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 06:03 PM
2

Great advice, plate at best. Divorce yourself from the idea of getting back together. She dumped you. She wasn’t afraid of losing a good thing and she won’t be in the future.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 05:47 PM
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Ask her out. If she says no, be stoic and pretend it never happened.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 12:47 AM
3

It’s better to assume attraction and let her tell you she’s not interested.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 05:39 PM
3

Nope. You can either text her back or go radio silent. If you do text, go with something short such as, “Clearly we’re on different pages. Take care.” It shows you’re unaffected by it. Then soft next her. If she somehow contacts you again, she knows the deal. If she pushes to be a friend again, ghost her.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:21 PM
2

Exactly! OP, follow this advice.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:13 PM
9

Text her, “No problem. Text me when you’re feeling better.” If she’s interested, she’ll text you. If she’s not, she won’t. Pretty simple. Go meet new girls.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 06:52 AM
5

Other than meditation and learning how your negative thoughts are driven by fear and not real, the only thing left is action. Once you become competent it creates a positive feedback loop resulting in confidence. This is the best I’ve found so far. If I knew an easier way, I’d tell you.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 06:12 AM
3

Ignore. A plate doesn’t matter.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 02:15 PM
2

Top 4 Reasons She Mentions Other Guys: A) Use jealousy to up her value B) Preparing to branch swing C) Socially inept with zero boundaries D) Mentally ill In relationships, I find it’s A or B.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 02:10 PM
2

It sounds like you’re probably more on the shy side. You need to get social with everybody. I mean it, strike up a conversation with everybody. Don’t worry about the outcome. Start approaching more girls.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 05:20 AM
27

Men who are terrible with women tend to care the most about a women’s n-count. It’s been this way for a long time. You’re fishing for a reason to justify not changing and why you don’t get laid very often. Stop that shit right now or you’re going to be miserable. Just go get some ass man!!
/r/askTRP05/04/18 12:01 AM
6

Girls won’t mind being a FWB when you’re attractive, good in bed, and set boundaries.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 02:06 PM
4

He was trying to get your attention to help you out. Why can’t you understand it? Then you lecture him about it. I wouldn’t have said a thing to the server. You act like he was trying to disrespect you because you’re insecure. You’re trying to AMOG a server?! Good luck dude!
/r/askTRP04/04/18 01:57 PM
8

You’re a bitch and if you ever did that in front of me to a server, I’d talk to you about it.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 01:44 PM
12

You’ve been posting in r/deadbedrooms for over a year. People have been telling you it’s over since you first started posting. C’mon man, what can’t you move on? You realize you’re only hurting yourself, right? Stop posting and end it with her.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 01:40 PM
3

In my experience, anything other than yes or firm alternative plans is a no. I’ll probably never contact her again. Soft next and if she hits me up down the road, great. If not, no problem because I’ve moved on to other girls.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 01:20 PM
12

I’d say 80% of girls who bring this up are DTF. It’s there way of saying, “Make me feel comfortable.” Get her off first and “I’m not that type of girl” becomes, “Where are your condoms?”
/r/askTRP04/04/18 06:16 AM
8

Personally, it sounds like she was making it into a group hang to avoid a date. I’m glad you sent the clarification text because it sets your expectations. It’s on her.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 06:09 AM
1

Exactly! A girl gets a maximum of two offers to hang. I have I idea why he thought I meant girlfriend. I would never even bring up “The Talk” with a women.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 09:46 PM
2

Add weight. My buddy is Middle Eastern with a deep voice as well. He’s solidly built. Also, look into voice over work. Most of those guys and gals are working from home nowadays. Not only could it potentially give you a side hustle, but it ups your social status when girls find out.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 05:30 PM
5

You’ll only know if she likes the attention or wanted to hang by asking her to get together again. If she says anything but yes or offers firm alternative plans, forget about her.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 04:59 PM
1

I told you how to go about it brother. Just go for it!
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:37 PM
6

and meet other girls.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 06:28 AM
3

OP, this is best advice you’ll get. If you don’t take it, it’s all on you.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 05:34 AM
1

Be friends with people you like and they like you for you as well.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 04:46 AM
1

Be cool and stoic. If you show any emotion, you lose. Say, “Likewise and hopefully we can set a time this week to get your scarf.”
/r/askTRP02/04/18 04:01 AM
5

Get to know them without having an agenda. Can I tell you a secret? That’s why I’m also good with girls. I talk and listen without giving off the friend vibe. Life is here to be enjoyed and shared with others. TRP is here to make sure it happens a lot more smoothly and often for the guys who come here. Make a list of all the good and bad things your family taught you. Focus on the good and when the bag pops up, do the opposite.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:44 AM
2

A lot of guys have the same problem. It’s all about your mindset. If you can internalize the drunk you when you’re sober, you’re on the right path. Try it with O’Doul’s or pretend you’re drunk. It’s an IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:32 AM
2

After she gets her scarf, let her walk. If she’s interested, she’ll contact you guys. It could 6 months from now. If and when she does, it’ll be like finding money in your jacket, “Damn, this is a nice surprise.” If you keep contacting, you come as as needy and it’s a turn off.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 03:05 AM
13

When I want to see them.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 01:04 AM
1

It’s one of my favorites!
/r/askTRP02/04/18 12:34 AM
1

Do you mean “The Book of Pook”?
/r/askTRP02/04/18 12:31 AM
8

Girls are taught through socialization to avoid conflicts. Hence, they’re more passive aggressive than men. It leaves men confused because their actions and words don’t often match up. Always trust the actions. Why did she change her mind? You’ll never know the answer. Don’t take it personally unless you’re getting rejected all the time.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 11:19 PM
2

Actions speak louder than words. Think about it. I’m 6’, 190lbs. My goal is 200lbs by Christmas. When I reach my goal weight, I’m not going to go flex in front of people who knew me at 185lbs. I’ll just stand there at 200lbs. They’ll see the difference and even if they don’t, whatever.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 11:05 PM
2

Always swing for the fences. Nobody hits a home run by bunting. Continue working on yourself and approaching. Over time, you’ll see everything raise.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 10:53 PM
2

Are you a fortune teller? Nope, you’re not. What you’re describing is a cognitive distortion called fortune telling. Google it to verify. The next time you see her or message her say, “So we matched on Tinder. We should hang.” That’s it. Nothing more or less. Wait for her response.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 10:15 PM
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Sometimes. It all depends on the girl and your value in relation to hers. If I had to categorize those types, I’d say liberals as plates and FWB. Conservatives for LTR. Why? Conservatives care about their family. Liberals tend to care about everybody but their family. I’m an Independent. I like hooking up with everybody.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 10:07 PM
1

Go for it!
/r/askTRP01/04/18 09:58 PM
1

Do you want to hook up with her? Yes- message her No- don’t
/r/askTRP01/04/18 09:54 PM
1

I never have, but I think it’s in your head more than anything else. It’s probably performance anxiety. Focus on her instead of yourself in order to get into action instead of overthinking it.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 09:30 PM
1

You’re the problem. Your scarcity mentality means she’s leading and you’re following.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 08:43 PM
1

I’m done here. Read the Sidebar.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 07:14 PM
1

She wants to fuck. Do you want to? Yes, then meet up. No, then don’t. If by easy, you mean player then I’d rather be known as a player than an insecure virgin. Women will always go after the highest value male they can get. Leonardo DiCaprio still has women lining up outside his door and they all know it won’t be long until he says, “Next.” Literally one of his castoffs is married to Tom Brady.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 06:22 PM
1

For future reference, put it in your original post and number the questions. You can’t get a dialogue going if you don’t provide information needed to have it. And honestly, I really don’t know what your question is because you’re not specific. What do you want or unsure of?
/r/askTRP01/04/18 06:00 PM
3

If you don’t want to see her tonight, why didn’t you put that in your original post? People can only give it advice on the information you provide. Your post and responses are all over the place. Be more specific with your situation and question.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 05:54 PM
3

Real power and happiness comes from focusing on the things in your control and doing something about it. It’s the only way.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 05:44 PM
1

Hopefully this answers your question, don’t give her time to change her mind.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 05:21 PM
3

I think you’re already understanding the psychology behind social media. People read way more into online stuff because they use their imagination to fill in the blanks. Post away!
/r/askTRP01/04/18 04:37 PM
1

Treat it like a job. If you’re willing to lose it, pursue.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 04:01 PM
1

You don’t. You ignore and if needed, block.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 03:53 PM
6

Of course it’s ok to reach out to her. A simple text will work such as, “Let’s hang soon. I’m free this X.” You get the idea.
/r/askTRP01/04/18 03:36 PM
11

Men chase sex. Women chase commitment. Let her actions prove she’s worth your time, attention, and resources. On a side note, I think 25-30 is a great age range for women.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 10:37 PM
2

Then the second half of my response is valid towards her ex. If she shows remorse and learning from it, let it go. People make mistakes. The problem is when they don’t learn from them and have excuses. The only part I find weird is her sharing it with you because it plants doubts in your head. Her past life doesn’t need to be brought up unless it’s pertinent to your relationship with her. If a bunch of other things pop up, then you have a problem.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 09:34 PM
2

If she cheated on you, leave. I was talking about her past before you. She’s lost attraction and doesn’t value the relationship or losing you. If you stay, it’s on you. It’ll always be in the back of your mind because she’s broken your trust. Plus, it sub-communicates your inability to walk away from her. You’re a doormat from here on out because her respect for you will plummet.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 09:20 PM
2

Isolated event in their lives or a pattern of behavior? Huge difference. The first one people have guilt and become better human beings. The second one people have excuses, justifications, and show no remorse.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 08:53 PM
1

Nothing is perfect. Best: Lower back, leg, elbow, forearm, hands, hugging while pulling her in closer, twirling Worst: high fives, tap on the shoulder or upper arm, pat on the back Google for better guides. I bet there’s even a kino game you can use to get her comfortable as well that put her hands in yours.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 08:25 PM
2

Just because you’re going to be in jail, doesn’t mean you can’t work on yourself. *Analyze all aspects of your life and see where it needs improvement. You can even make columns- fitness, mental health, family, job/career, friendships, money, women, all other behaviors or habits. You get the point. Add more or condense. *Set goals and develop a plan of action. *Read *Bodyweight exercises *Surround yourself with best people you can find- yeah, this one might be tough. *Know you still have your li…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:48 PM
2

Dude, I’ve been there too. You make the move for a kiss and it surprises them ha. It’s awkward, but recoverable if they like you. Make sure to use kino! It gets them comfortable, primed, and it’s a smooth transition to a kiss. It’s like showing her your apartment before bringing her back to hook up later. Plus, you can gauge her interest level.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:37 PM
2

I don’t know what to say other than good luck bro.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:30 PM
2

Go meet ten more girls. See what happens when you try to kiss them. If they bring up their religious background or anything about consent, then it’s a cultural thing. If they don’t, you’ll know this girl is weird. If she’s shy, it’s totally cool. Just remember the sex is never worth the wait.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:17 PM
2

You’re having fun? Then why are you asking for advice?! Get real dude. You don’t enjoy it and you want it to stop. You’re expecting to get something out of hanging with them. You’re no different than an orbiter to a woman. They don’t respect you because they think you’re a bitch. They apologize because they know you look up to them and they want the attention to continue.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:08 PM
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Ignore. Text, “Cool, I’m free after X. What about you?” If she continues to hammer the point home, don’t respond for a few days. Don’t get into a text argument or try to explain anything to her. Don’t apologize either. If anything, it’s her fault for reading too much into the text. Most of the time I’ll text a girl, “Let’s hang tonight” or “We should hang tonight.” Sounds more like a suggestion than a command.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:52 PM
4

She sounds off to me. If you want to meet again, go for it. When you go for another kiss and she pulls something similar, walk away. Just tell her with a smile, “You’re nice, but I’m not feeling this at all. Take care.” And don’t buy her any meals because your time and attention is the most valuable resource you can offer her.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:39 PM
2

If you’ve already read the most recommend ones, get into action. It’s easy to over analyze stuff.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:18 PM
5

Exactly! https://www.oldtimestrongman.com/articles/the-iron-by-henry-rollins/
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:12 PM
2

Go to the TRP main sub and search for “mega books.” You’re welcome. Spend the money on some new clothes, a good weightlifting belt, squat shoes, or cologne. You get the idea.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:10 PM
3

Good advice! OP, tell them you’re leaving and hit them up when you get back. Don’t text. Meet new girls.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:07 PM
2

Tell them you’re leaving for a job and want to see them when you get back. You have to be willing to let them fall. Do you want to any of them to come visit you? If you’ve established firm boundaries to the relationship, it could be fun. The problem is it can communicate something more than casual.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 05:04 PM
2

“Hey X, it’s X. I’m going to be home for a job this summer. Let’s hang.”
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:55 PM
1

They want attention. Your plan of action is to be stoic, ignore them, and get new friends.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:53 PM
2

You must be young. Google, “Best Canadian city for young adults.” I’m sure you’ll find your answer.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:13 PM
3

Cold approach is a great skill you can apply to all aspects of your life. Do it and don’t worry about the outcome. You can always ask them to get a drink sometime.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:09 PM
1

Talked to her since August? That’s nearly eight months of you guys being friends. Honestly, I don’t see this ending well for you. The only way you’re going to know is being explicit when you ask. She needs to know it’s a date and not a hang out. Be willing to lose the friendship and go for it.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:03 PM
4

This could literally go either way. She could mean exactly what she’s says or she doesn’t. You won’t know unless you hang out and escalate. Ask yourself though, “Is she worth your time even as a friend?” If not, go hang with another girl.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 03:55 PM
7

Red Pill Handbook Red Pill Sidebar Book of Pook
/r/askTRP31/03/18 03:35 PM
3

She’s using you for attention until the right dude comes along. Here’s a hint, it’s not you. If she does let you hit it someday, she’ll say she made a mistake and doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. People are telling you to read the Sidebar because they want to help. You refuse to see the truth. The truth is she’s not into you and now you helped friend zone yourself. You’re an orbiter. TRP’s mission is sexual strategy. If you read, internalize, and apply it women become easier to navigate. Wit…
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:49 AM
3

There’s a reason it’s called approach ANXIETY. Anxiety is overthinking in a negative way. These negative thoughts are called cognitive distortions. There are ten major ones. Yours would fall under fortune telling. If you think you know what she’s thinking, it’s called mind reading.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 12:20 AM
20

Women love attention the way men love sex.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 12:16 AM
2

After you hook up once, the next time you want to see them text, “I want to see you tonight. Come over to my place around X.” I break with typical PUA and TRP protocol. I never lead a girl on. Sometimes I’ll straight up say before I even kiss her for the first time, “I want to kiss you, but I don’t want to hurt you. I’m only looking for something casual.” If it’s not then, it’s after we hook up the first time. I let them know I want to have fun and keep it casual, ie a friends with benefits situ…
/r/askTRP30/03/18 11:54 PM
2

Ask them to get a drink, hook up, and then keep future hangs for sex only. Don’t go out on regular dates.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 10:05 PM
3

One? You should have three. Two is the minimum. Just hook up with a bunch of girls and show them through your actions you’re only available for hooking up. If need be, have a Talk by telling them you only want something casual and you understand if she isn’t cool with it. She’ll let you know if she’s down.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 09:55 PM
6

Action beats theory every time. Talk to a bunch of girls. All my plates came about because I didn’t want to date them exclusively and I made my feelings known. Most are cool with it and will stick around until they find a guy who will commit.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 09:27 PM
6

Exactly and it makes it easier to go back your place to hook up. OP, keep your place clean and you’ll be fine.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 09:23 PM
0

She’s probably testing you more to gauge your interest level than anything else. I tell girls I only want as a plate exactly how I feel. I tend to have very few problems because they know where they stand with me. The only time I cut a girl loose is if she’s bringing real drama into my life. You can text her, “We can discuss this matter in my bed tonight. I’m free after X.”
/r/askTRP30/03/18 05:15 PM
1

Yeah, I’m thinking the same thing ha. My next thought was, who cares? Last thought, this is a new level of nerd.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 05:02 PM
1

I think you have plate and LTR mixed up. They’re very different. What’s there to talk about? You move on because she apologized.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 04:58 PM
3

As far as calories go for weight loss, I’ve always taken my goal weight and then multiplied it by ten. 195x10= 1,950 calories I break those calories up into four meals with the last one mostly being liquid in the form of a protein shake. High protein, low fat, low carbs and stay away from processed foods, especially sugar. The low calories forces you to pick healthy foods because if you don’t, you’re going to feel terrible and hungry. Weights three days a week with supersets, yoga twice and walk…
/r/askTRP30/03/18 04:33 PM
2

Yes, tell him to back off a bit, really listen to her, and start seeing other girls. I bet she’s great in bed though!
/r/askTRP30/03/18 04:10 PM
3

Girls will talk to other guys all the time because they love attention. If you guys haven’t had “The Talk,” which sounds like you haven’t, she’s free to do whatever she wants. You should be talking to other girls as well. Seriously, go on a date with another girl. Get your mind off this one. For future reference, I wouldn’t introduce a girl to your family until after you’ve been exclusive for a bit. Back off the gas pedal and take it slow. Hope it helps!
/r/askTRP30/03/18 04:06 PM
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I think you’re giving solid advice to treat her as a plate. Let a woman prove she’s LTR material through her actions. A guy should always have a few girls he’s seeing until he wants to commit to one and she brings up “The Talk.” Sugar dating sounds like prostitution. Are you sure there aren’t some other red flags he’s overlooking? I live in a big city and have come across all types. Usually when women get to the point of stripping, prostitution, or porn they have other major issues as well. I’d …
/r/askTRP30/03/18 03:56 PM
7

You don’t do anything. Put her texts on silent.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 03:14 PM
1

The best response is saying next to nothing. You can respond with, “Cool.” Then finish up the conversation and walk away.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 03:04 PM
1

She grew up in Switzerland and now lives in the U.S.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 09:01 PM
2

I’m totally cool with it as long as she uses protection and keeps her private life private. There’s no need for me to know her business unless it effects me. Be careful with your feelings. It can be easy to catch fake ones when you hear or see her with another guy. Go meet more girls. Remember a girl shows you through her actions if she’s a plate or LTR material. Basically, let her do all the work. Here’s a hint, most are plates.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 06:13 PM
3

You’re overthinking this because you’re in your own head. Get rid of the term beta in this instance. The fact is you want to be good in bed and when you’re first with someone, anxiety takes over and causes performance issues. You get better the more you’re with a girl because you stop overthinking it and become comfortable. The solution is to focus on her instead of yourself. Make her comfortable. Go down on her and make her cum hard before she even touches your dick. Both of you benefit.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:57 PM
2

You probably come off as boring, intense, or a nice guy. Which is it? I mean seriously dude. It has to be your personality because I’m pretty sure I can get at least one date by messaging ten girls under my FB friends list right now. I’m not saying they would all be 10’s or even 8’s though ha.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:45 PM
1

Yep, and what’s the problem too?
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:39 PM
3

TRP mentions to only text for logistics because most guys text way too much. Also, it gets rid of time wasters. It sounds like you’re doing well. Just keep avoiding the long ones. Personally, I’ve always avoided texting because I never liked it. I’d rather meet in-person. The only time I start to give a little more is when I’m actually dating a girl. Then we have inside jokes and we both know where we’re coming from.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:37 PM
2

You approach ALL THE TIME and you’ve had four dates in 1.5 years?! Your personality and vibe must be awful. Holy shit, I mean it must be so bad women give you their number just to get away from you. What are you doing that you’re not communicating to us?
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:20 PM
4

People can say and think however they want, but relationship dynamics don’t change. Someone is the leader and the other person follows. Women want a man who leads, is confident, and has the ability to walk away. Don’t be surprised if she continues to walk all over him, grows to resent it, and eventually leaves him.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:02 PM
8

In high school, people up their status by playing sports. When high school ends, their status does as well. I can’t stress this enough, but learn how to be social with everybody. Be fun to talk to and be around. This is one of the most important skills found in a well-rounded person. When high school ends, you can take it with you.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 03:49 PM
4

You can text her today with, “I want to see you tonight. Come over.” She might push about your plans so be ready to have something besides hooking up. Most of the time, when a girl is really interested, she doesn’t care about plans because she just want to be around you.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 03:33 PM
1

It’s one aspect and it sub-communicates a lot even if it isn’t true such as being a leader, a risk taker, and the ability to provide.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 03:28 PM
2

Jerry Seinfeld once said something to the effect of, “Being famous only gives you the first couple of minutes on stage to not be funny. Then you have to bring it.” Same thing applies to social status. In end, you have to be fun to chat with because you’re interesting and interested in them. Keep being social with as many people as possible. It’s one of the most underdeveloped skills and important to a full and healthy life.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 03:20 PM
1

Hey dude, it takes balls to get on and ask questions. It shows you want to get better. Keep that mindset and you will.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:57 PM
2

Wait two days. You guys did spend 10 hours together ha. Here’s your next text, “I had a good time. Let’s get together this X at X.”
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:56 PM
1

I know a woman from Switzerland who majored in math and received her masters in math as well. Not only does this provide her with the ability to teach at most community colleges or colleges, she also works for an insurance company where she makes $150,000 a year. Make sure you’re ability to communicate effectively on paper and verbally is on point and you’ll be sought after in the work place.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:52 PM
5

As far as I can tell, your new strategy is all you and has nothing to do with TRP. You might as well be asking, “I want to deadlift 400lbs, should I start off with concentration curls?” People on the fitness sub would tell you, “No. Start slow with deadlifting. Don’t judge yourself and grow. Learn from all your mistakes. You got to do it over and over to get the form right and to build strength. You’ll get to the point where the weight will start to scare you. Once you conquer that weight, you’l…
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:43 PM
2

As a buddy once told me, “If she doesn’t get along with women, it’s because most women don’t trust her and she causes drama. If she has a ton of guy friends, she’s loves attention and will eventually cheat or leave you for one of them.” She’s already making plans after you told her how you feel? She either doesn’t care about you or she’s mentally ill. If she asks you what you think about her lunch date respond with, “Do what you think is right.” If she goes, you withdraw attention and start talk…
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:24 PM
1

As far as I can tell, she’s interested. If you want to see her again, invite her out. Next time, keep the date shorter. And make sure you’re texting for logistics only. Give her time to miss you. If she doesn’t open up to kissing on the next date, then you might have a problem.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 02:05 PM
5

OP, don’t overthink it. Follow this advice.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 08:01 PM
2

OP, this is solid advice because it still keeps texting to a minimum and fun. I think the best reason to keep texting for logistics only is because it cuts through time wasters. She’s either interested in meeting up or not. When you text a lot, you start to overthink everything. Everything else is built in-person. It’s the same reason why LDR’s don’t work. You’re trying to maintain or keep building attraction and it’s impossible.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 07:55 PM
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Agree and Amplify Her: “You hate me, don’t you?” You: “Yes, I’m plotting to destroy you.” Her: “If we had sex once a month, would you leave me?” You: “Yes, but I’d drop by once a month.” Remember your actions are more important than words. Show her you care.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 05:35 PM
3

We can focus our energy on one thing at a time. The amount of time you focus on her takes away from time spent on other women, your goals, hobbies, etc. Also, read the Sidebar.
/r/askTRP28/03/18 05:27 PM
3

Hey dude, it sounds like you have a lot on your table. I highly recommend therapy to start. Everyone on the planet is going to go through a time in their life where they have a lot of regrets. Here’s what I found worked for me: creating new goals and working towards them, focusing on the stuff in my control, and taking care of my mind and body. We have very little control over what happens to us. It’s what we do with it that makes the difference. Think of it this way. I’ll see a guy on here comp…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 09:45 PM
2

You’re right, they’re not boring ha! It’s hard to give specific advice because I don’t know your city. I guess the closer you get to the suburbs the better. A 20 min distance in my city gives you a very different set of girls. Also, focus on meeting girls going to an Art Walk, exhibit, or even a comedy show than the artists or hang around types. My buddy does online dating. I don’t as of yet, but thinking of it. Sounds like another tool. Before I forget, I do love creative types. I just keep my …
/r/askTRP27/03/18 06:02 PM
3

Damn, I like how you worded this. Plus, solid advice.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 05:39 PM
4

I read another comment you posted about artsy women. Dude, I live in a big city and have come to realize creative usually means crazy. Most of those women are either bi-polar or have BPD. 90% of my crazy girl stories come from these types. Plate only. Signs: Creative Unstable employment Self-harm Addiction issues Bad relationship with her family Lacks impulse control- cheats, steals Bouts of unexplainable sadness Lack of self awareness Taker I could write a few more but you get the point. It’s a…
/r/askTRP27/03/18 05:26 PM
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Those girls become easier to recognize with more experience. They make great plates, but horrible for a LTR. If you want something casual with these types, establish firm boundaries and tell them what you want. Always keep them at a distance and be willing to walk if she causes any problems.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 04:51 PM
2

Exactly, only hook up if you’re willing to lose your job.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 04:25 PM
7

Great advice. I’d only add to #3. If you want to be safe, most recommend index funds or Target Retirement Funds. Vanguard has good stuff to check out.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 04:23 PM
3

If needed, tell your boss. It’s time to document everything, cut all contact and keep any communication with her only at work. Also, don’t ever be alone with her. Block her on all social media and on your phone. The main reason why you have to do all of this is to avoid her being able to say you’re sexually harassing her.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 03:29 PM
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If you push on the issue, it’ll come off as mate guarding. Jealousy is reserved for men with low SMV. Don’t be the insecure guy. There could be a number of reasons. It doesn’t matter. If she wants to cheat, she’s going to do so. Enjoy your time together. Be willing to walk at anytime. Also, look at her behavior. Is this just a symptom of a bigger problem you’re overlooking?
/r/askTRP27/03/18 03:03 PM
2

Take her to a shower. Tell her you had a long day. Unless she’s an idiot, she’ll get that you enjoy being clean before fucking. Then when you get her back to your bed, tell her how great she tastes. If she likes you, she’ll make sure she gives you what you want. It’s the same as telling a girl you like her shaved and next time she shows up bald. You only need to be truly upfront if the change doesn’t occur after awhile and she doesn’t get the hint.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 03:26 PM
2

You fuck women you want to fuck. End of story.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 03:19 PM
1

If everything else is cool, let it go. I’d give her a chance to show up with a freshly polished vag next time. I used to have a plate who’s smell was overwhelming. All I did was stop and say, “I need a break. The smell of sex is too much for me right now.” She asked if it was her. I said no even though we both knew. She got the hint and we never had a problem after it. I have no idea what she did, but she got so clean I could eat dinner off it.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 03:17 PM
6

There’s no problem sticking up for yourself and setting boundaries. It all depends on HOW you do it. When in-doubt, actions are better than words. I think you are already starting to get that. Good for you. You’re moving in the right direction. This is all for future reference. Your response to her not coming over should have been, “No problem. You can make it up to me by....(insert new plans).” It sub-communicates her mess up by not making big deal about it. Plus, you get to gauge her interest …
/r/askTRP26/03/18 03:08 PM
5

I dated a runway model and dumped her after a few months. It sucked because her expectations were too high and her behavior was atrocious. It’s like being a top level athlete who makes it to the pros all on natural talent. Unless they come from a solid family, there’s nobody to check them. They get away with whatever they want and complain when things don’t go their way because it usually does. It takes a special woman to see through it all and be awesome. I’ve meet one former model who falls in…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:48 PM
1

You realize you didn’t ask a question, right?
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:35 PM
2

It turned out to be C for me once. She also bragged about things she had stolen. I kept my commitment away from her like I was the Heisman trophy.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:30 PM
2

It’ll end with her using sex as a bargaining tool or a dead bedroom. As far as her cheating, who knows? It depends on her morality. I know a woman who settled, but eventually dumped the guy because she wasn’t attracted to him. She never cheated.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:21 PM
2

Happy hour is from 5-7pm at most bars. You go get a couple drinks at a cheaper price.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 05:16 AM
2

Happy hour then pull back to your place. Other than that go back to a motel.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 05:11 AM
1

Daygame. Talk to all the girls you see on campus or anywhere. Once you have your first two years out of the way transfer to a big school or one in a big city. Lift heavy.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 04:50 AM
3

If someone gives you shit for messing around with her, please remember she’s the one cheating. Also, be careful. You’re playing with real fire because she’s also a co-worker. If she wants to cover her tracks later, she can make your life difficult. And to answer your question, Happy hour.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 04:45 AM
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She’s testing your interest levels: A) Use jealousy to up her value- try to get you to commit B) Preparing to move on- branch swing even if it’s FWB C) She’s socially inept and has zero boundaries- usually indicates mental illness as well Your choice how to handle it. I’d let it go until she brings up “The Talk.” The guy might not even be real.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:43 AM
3

And you never will know every solution. The only thing you have control and expect to change is you. Most women are plates only. Very few deserve a title shot ha. Point is, keep having fun and enjoy women for what they are and not what you think they should be. Sounds like you’re already on the right path.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 01:09 AM
2

I read the other recent comment. Of course it’s your fault ha! She’ll probably keep bringing more drama into your life even as a FWB.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 12:01 AM
1

Oh I agree but having success early in life, starts you off on the right path. People can see someone as a natural, but they’re not. For example, the longer someone has to wait to lose their virginity, the harder it becomes for them to do so. And they usually have to wait a long time to have sex with another girl. The biggest predictor is early success though, even if you’re not naturally charismatic.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 11:44 PM
2

I know. This is fo future reference so you don’t overthink it.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 08:59 PM
6

Provider and he’ll most likely stick around because of his limited options.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 07:37 PM
1

Ignore it unless it affects your actual life and your relationship with her.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 06:29 PM
11

Here’s a great idea, build a life and a personality women want to be a part of.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 06:26 PM
5

Most of what you think is natural and improvising with the crowd is canned material. I’ll rewrite your paragraphs Paragraph #1 Excuses Paragraph #2 Excuses II: More Excuses You’re never going to get good at anything if you don’t do it over and over and over and over again. Confidence comes from competence. Most of what people call naturals are built over years of failure and success with women. The part you don’t see is all of the failure. You’ve created a negative feedback loop in your life als…
/r/askTRP25/03/18 06:23 PM
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You’ve already waited long enough. You’re trying to find the perfect way to approach her and guess what, it’ll probably never happen. You’re a man. Go after what you want. Women enjoy being around confident men.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 06:12 PM
3

Hit send and forget it. Best to worst ways to meet someone: Social circle Cold approach Social media Online dating
/r/askTRP25/03/18 05:59 PM
4

Ask her to get coffee or a drink sometime.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 05:52 PM
9

You’re in the right place. Go read the Sidebar. For me, it’s important to become social with everyone everywhere. I find when I’m in a rut, this is the problem. When approaching women the greatest opener is still “Hi.” If it’s a cold approach, most likely you’ll use a situational opener to follow. Instead of being in your head, look at your surroundings, what she’s wearing, or what’s going on socially. This is the stuff you comment on. It gets the conversation going. You’re going to get rejected…
/r/askTRP25/03/18 05:48 PM
1

Go meet new girls.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 05:34 PM
2

Same here.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 04:46 PM
3

If you don’t enjoy talking to someone, you limit your interaction with them. Let some other guy listen to her problems.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 04:32 PM
2

Never too late. Why do you think certain girls stick around to closing time at a bar?
/r/askTRP25/03/18 04:31 PM
4

It doesn’t matter what she says because she’s a plate. If you continue banging, great. If not, next. If she pushes for your thoughts on it, let her know how you enjoy living a fun, drama free life and you want to keep it that way. It establishes boundaries without any ultimatums and doesn’t make you look hurt.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 04:09 PM
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Her actions always let you know if she’s a plate or LTR material. She’s a plate. Keep banging as long as you’re enjoying yourself. If she brings any drama, cut ties. Also, let her talk. I wouldn’t bring up the guy from the party. Let her do so. See what she has to say and then go from there. Just remember, she’s a plate and nothing more dude!
/r/askTRP25/03/18 03:45 PM
1

Look at as stalling in the gym. You’re not progressing. Time to go back to the basics and check your form because you’re probably doing something wrong. It’s most likely your attitude. When things are going well, we tend to be carefree and go with the flow. When they aren’t, we do the opposite. You can blame the women or look at as a challenge to improve your game. I’ve only gone into monk mode twice in my life and it was due to anxiety and depression. I didn’t want to heap baggage onto any wome…
/r/askTRP25/03/18 03:39 PM
5

It’s amazing how few problems you have when you have more women in your life.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 03:25 PM
10

Approach 300 women and then come back to your question.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 03:22 PM
2

Don’t give yourself time to think... at all. If anything count down 3...2...1...approach. Say hi. Typically, I’ll comment on our surroundings, what we’re both doing, anything. You’d be surprised how good you can get after awhile. Stand up comics refer to this as calling the room. It makes you present.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 05:14 PM
7

Judgement is a defensive mechanism born out of fear. It’s a way to protect against rejection. Think of why prejudice hurts interactions. People prejudge a person out of fear. They then cut themselves off from meeting new or cool people. Just go for it! Get rejected or get laid. The realize it means nothing in the long run. Life is here to be enjoyed.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 03:31 PM
1

When we’re not getting what we want in life, we look for reasons. Some are valid and the rest are excuses/justifications because we’re not doing something requiring effort and change on our part. From looking at the other comments, your life is busy. You already have built in dread with women. They’ll find it attractive even when they’re complaining about it. Women simultaneously want to be the #1 priority in a man’s life and #5. Approach dude. Here’s a list of warmest to coldest approaches. The…
/r/askTRP24/03/18 03:23 PM
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As a software engineer, you already know how confidence comes from the ability to do something well over and over again. You need to apply the same principle to women. Currently, you pick certain times of the week to talk to them. Plus, you go to a specific social situations such as a club. Be social everywhere. Having fun should be your outcome. Sex or a relationship will come when you stop focusing on it as an end goal. Also, when you go to a club you should stop drinking. I was lucky to meet …
/r/askTRP24/03/18 03:12 PM
2

If you and him get along, he’s probably giving you shit because he thinks your buddies. My close friends and I clown on each other all the time. If I take it too far, it’s up to the person to say something is off limits. If they don’t speak up, it’s on them. If they do and I continue, I’m the dick.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 03:01 PM
2

Next time, lead and take it slower. And I know what you mean about smell. Your story reminded me of a girl who nearly made me hurl. Ha.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 02:56 PM
2

No. Can you come up with reasons why you’re not getting laid? Yes.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 02:54 PM
3

I thought all of us do the finger test before going down. It sounds like you made up your mind before doing so. There are only two things I do with a new girl: finger test and ask about herpes.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 02:51 PM
2

Yes, meet her. When you’re having fun, kiss her. Why? If it doesn’t go well, you can forget about her when you’re meeting new girls during your vacation.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 02:17 PM
2

You’ll be fine dude. Unless you have it really bad, it’ll help get blood flowing and sped up your recovery.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 02:15 PM
9

There’s only one person who destroys nice guys and assholes. It’s a guy who’s a mixture. We just call them cool. Shoot for that.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 02:13 PM
12

I’d only add these three: *Expand social circle *Find a hobby *Focus on what’s in your control The last one is important to everyone. If it’s out of your control, you need to let it go. Putting any emphasis on it will make you upset and powerless. Since you talked about your genetics, I really made sure to include it.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 12:53 PM
3

No problem dude. We’ve all been there.
/r/askTRP22/03/18 10:12 PM
1

If it isn’t a big deal, let it go. If it’s serious, then next her.
/r/askTRP22/03/18 02:38 PM
1

What is she currently bringing to the table besides drama? Probably nothing so you should think nothing about dropping her from your life.
/r/askTRP22/03/18 01:49 PM
7

Ask yourself, “Why do I actually care?” It’s not for the reasons you believe. Here are more real reasons: A) She dumped you and you feel beneath her. B) You didn’t start hooking up with new girls and she clearly moved on. C) You dealt with stress at work and her life seems easy. D) You want to justify her as a terrible person to feel better. Can you see why you care so much? Your life hasn’t moved forward. The solution is to stop wallowing and start today. Only you have the power to make your li…
/r/askTRP22/03/18 12:56 PM
3

Right now it sounds like you need to focus on being social with everybody.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 02:15 PM
2

We’re all here to help each other. I’d read the RP Sidebar and Handbook. Then follow it with The Book of Pook and The Rational Male series. If you’re not already, start lifting.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 02:13 PM
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Let it go. You’re learning to get good with women. It takes practice and none of these people matter in your life. It’s probably “creepy” because you have a low SMV. Plus, you’re probably not laid back about it. Instead you’re pushing too hard, too fast. And for the love of God, make a promise to yourself to never listen to guys who don’t get laid. Their opinion is worthless.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 02:04 PM
21

Never been a problem with me back in the day. If any girl asks, say you’re saving for grad school. It communicates ambition and being good with money.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 01:58 PM
14

She’s probably just nervous and scared. Focus on building comfort.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 01:56 PM
10

Great advice! I’d only add one thing, I’d wait until you see these girls again. If you hit them up through social media or texting, they’ll base their opinion solely on their last impression. None of this advice applies if your SMV is a lot higher than hers. You can almost do whatever you want.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/18 01:54 PM
2

This is a plate. Your time together comes out of convenience. Instead of being angry say, “I was already asleep. You’re gonna have to text earlier to hang.” If her behavior remains the same, it’s who she is and you fill your time up with another girl. By the way, you should have at least two girls in rotation at all times.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 01:35 PM
8

Confidence usually comes from competence. In order to override your thoughts, approach immediately. If you give yourself time to think, you’re done. Over time, it’ll become second nature.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 01:08 PM
6

Wtf?! Dude, not at all and anybody who tells you different is an idiot. I live in SoCal. Some of biggest all natural bodybuilders I know are vegans and vegetarians. They have no problem with women. Alpha is about making up your own mind and standing by your beliefs. Does destroying your body make you more of a man? If someone has to become a vegan because of stomach problems, does this mean their stomach is beta?
/r/askTRP21/03/18 05:16 AM
4

If she’s does it twice in a row, stop responding to her texts. At that point, it doesn’t matter what the reasons. She’s a time waster so you withdraw your attention.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 05:09 AM
14

Next time say, “Come over.” If she doesn’t respond to that, soft next her.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 04:44 AM
3

And there’s no shame in going either. I had a lot of anxiety for a bit. A therapist taught me CBT and it’s basically vanished.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 03:32 PM
3

Dude, it sounds like you might need to talk to a therapist. You might have a bunch more questions that need to get answered other than, “How can I get better with women?” None of the stuff you read here is new at all. It’s solid advice you would’ve learned from having a positive male role model in your life. They just use different terminology.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 03:05 PM
4

I reread your post. You sound codependent. It’s a turnoff to women because it’s a female trait more than a male one. It’s external validation rather than internal.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:22 PM
3

What’s your question?
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:12 PM
5

OP, this is the best advice you’re going to get.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 02:05 PM
9

IOI’s can’t be fully trusted. Always approach women you’re interested in. If you don’t, you’re going to limit yourself and miss out. Search the sub for more info.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 01:45 PM
1

If she’s forced to pick, she doesn’t get a chance to try something new. It’s boring. If you don’t lead, you’re a follower. It gets different once you’re dating for a bit.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 03:26 AM
2

Lead. She’d rather do what you want and be unhappy than her pick.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 03:17 AM
19

C’mon dude, this is pretty easy to understand. She probably feels guilty about cheating and is covering up the evidence. There could be other reasons too. No matter what... She doesn’t want you in her life right now. Move on.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 02:20 PM
2

OP, follow this advice.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 02:00 PM
1

Dude, it sounds like it’s time to move on.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 10:41 PM
2

People only ask for a break because they’re not afraid of losing the other person. Either she’s lost attraction or there’s another guy. Your choice about the Snapchat info. Sounds like you’re nearly ready to leave her.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:40 PM
3

I think a job comes down to combining what you’re good at and what you enjoy. Find where those two paths cross and you’ll be happier than most people. Good luck man!
/r/askTRP18/03/18 04:33 AM
1

I feel you. It’s important to talk to a few girls instead of just one. It’ll give you a mentality of abundance. This helps take away or curb neediness because you have options. When guys don’t have options they overlook red flags and dealbreakers. Then they’ll settle for a terrible relationship or marriage. Don’t be that guy!
/r/askTRP17/03/18 09:23 PM
1

It’s pointless trying to even figure it out. No matter what, her interest level is low.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 09:06 PM
6

She’s not interested. Meet new girls. If she comes back around, great. If not, you’ll have already moved on.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 08:40 PM
3

It’s always hard giving advice through a screen, but I think I can see one of your major problems. You need to become a leader in your own life. Be honest with yourself. What do you want? I’ll glance at TRP once a day to see if any headline posts grab me. Most are either trying to prove men are being screwed or AWALT. One last time, what do you want? TRP lays down the fundamentals to get better with women. Your end is goal is in your hands.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 03:28 PM
2

Women chase commitment. Men chase sex. Let her bring up The Talk. Check the Sidebar for more info. The only time I break from TRP protocol is when I only want a FWB. I tell her straight up what I want because I don’t want her to feel manipulated or led on. Most girls will stick around for a while. It rarely ends poorly because they know the deal from the start. I’ve never asked for an exclusive FWB. I would call that casual dating. Once again, let her bring up The Talk. Hope it helps.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 02:28 PM
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Tell her you’re used goods. On a serious note, don’t give too much thought to it. It probably won’t be brought up. If it is, you can say with a smile, “Yeah, I got married in my twenties, which means I’m divorced.” My buddy uses this line and it always makes girls laugh. They get it.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 01:58 PM
1

What truth? That you’re doing your best Han Solo.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 01:39 PM
3

What do you really want here? It’s all over the place. It sounds more like an exclusive FWB.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 01:35 PM
3

Move
/r/askTRP17/03/18 05:00 AM
1

Starting Strength or Stronglifts are nearly identical. The main thing is to learn how to do the movements properly. I repeat, learn how to do them right. You can’t do shit if you’re injured. Stretch and warm up. If they look like they know what they’re doing, don’t be afraid to ask people at the gym for advice. Google TDEE Calculator. Add 10-15% to the amount to bulk up. Check out the fitness sub to learn more or google stuff.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 02:18 PM
3

I see a lot of guys on here who think an IDGAF attitude means being a dick. Not at all. You’ll find a good balance over time. Remember to be congruent.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 02:12 PM
1

Form what I hear, it sounds like you suffer from Nice Guy Syndrome. Check out No More Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 01:54 PM
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If you stop thinking and start observing, you’ll notice a huge world outside your thoughts that’s begging to be talked about. I’m on an elevator and a guy is wearing a rain coat. Me: I wish I owed a rain coat just for today. The guy launched into a two minute story. Turns out he’s from Italy and it’s his favorite jacket as well. His mom sent it to him recently. He was happy he got to wear it because it doesn’t rain much where we live. The oldest situational opener is, “How about this weather?” I…
/r/askTRP16/03/18 01:51 PM
3

Red Pill is only a metaphor. There’s pretty much nothing here you wouldn’t have learned from positive male role models such as a father or an older brother. Your goal is to become a well-rounded man. You can start small today. Start reading- Red Pill Handbook and Sidebar, and The Book of Pook. Join a gym- With the right diet and routine, you can gain a pound a month over the next year. If your fat, get rid of it. Become social- start up a conversation with everybody.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 01:18 PM
1

Exactly. OP, listen to this advice.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 12:57 PM
34

Women love attention. When you tell them you like them, it kills the chase.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 05:26 AM
1

And also with you.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 05:31 PM
5

Make sure to at least stay social with everybody. Always keep your social skills sharp.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 03:58 PM
7

Glad you’re here. The biggest problems I see from guys on here are inaction, overthinking, and thinking a IDGAF attitude means being a dick. This sub keeps me on top of my game as well. Welcome. Book of Pook and the Red Pill Sidebar are my two favorite reads.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 03:55 PM
2

As Han Solo would say, “I know.” And that’s your problem. You’re fixating on her because you don’t have other options.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:15 PM
4

I tend to agree with this. OP, I bet you’re not in a relationship or dating multiple women at the moment. Go meet new ones. Have fun.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:14 PM
3

Cool, let it be. Go talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:11 PM
29

She’s not nagging you and you’re still trying to find something negative about it?! Enjoy it. When she starts denying you sex, breaking plans, growing distant, etc you still shouldn’t give a fuck. Then it’s time to next her because you can replace her.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:09 PM
13

You’re going to continue doing the same thing over and over until the pain of change is less than the pain of staying the same. Until this happens, all the advice in the world means absolutely nothing because you won’t follow it. When you’ve hit rock bottom, come back and read the Sidebar.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 02:05 PM
9

Ask her out. If she says yes or no, you’ll know. Stop waiting because IOI’s can’t be fully trusted. You know what can be trusted? You acting on your feelings and her response.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:56 PM
3

If it screws with your emotions, delete it. If not, keep it.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:37 PM
2

The biggest problem with guys you see on here is not taking action. Action is better than knowing every theory ever. When you don’t act, you become the Tyler Durden quote on self-improvement. It makes you feel good for a second, but changes nothing. By not acting you’re denying your dick a good time. Literally, you’re cock blocking yourself. Let her tell you she’s not interested.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:25 PM
3

Lead and escalate. You’re doing neither.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:03 PM
3

Don’t text her. Her actions after class will let you know if she’s down.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 12:58 PM
6

Text her a half hour before the date, “I’m running 15 minutes late, but I’ll be there.” Have a backup plan. Btw, she’s texting you the way TRP tells you to text women. Can you see how it works?
/r/askTRP15/03/18 12:52 PM
2

The first three comments of the night were perfect advice. Dear OP, if you would’ve grown up with a positive male role model and other men who get laid, you would’ve learned this over time. Nothing here is new. The terminology might be different, but the principles are old school solid ones. More fish in the sea=abundance mentality Women always try to fuck up, not down=hypergamy Casual dating=plating
/r/askTRP15/03/18 06:23 AM
11

I’m going to guess you’re afraid to be sexual with them when you meet up. Go for a drink, do something fun. It could even be dancing. Doesn’t matter. Also, kiss when on the second date. If you bore them, the panties dry up. Find what they’re passionate about. Play around by joking, etc. Be sexual. Talk with emotions and not facts or logic unless you can flip it with humor.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 06:14 AM
6

I just glanced at your post history. You, her, or the both of you together have problems. She’s lying, this is trickle truth, or she doesn’t know how to work abs and picked the one weirdo at the gym who doesn’t mind getting banned for life. Choose your own adventure.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 01:32 AM
1

I agree with you and that’s why I said to never date a co-worker. Maybe I should have bolded it. If you’re willing to lose your job, then go do it. If not, stay away.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 05:47 PM
22

A plate should never bring this kind of drama into your life. If they do, cut them loose. Her actions have already excluded her from any LTR consideration. Ghost everyone and block them on every social media platform. If you need to say anything, tell them to not contact you ever again and if they do, you’ll consider it harassment.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 04:13 PM
1

Of course you should never date a co-worker, but... just ask her out already. Maybe you’ll find out the reason she doesn’t ask questions is because she’s not interested, she’s boring, or only thinks of herself. Who knows?
/r/askTRP14/03/18 04:09 PM
6

This screams insecurity on her part. She’ll probably text you a lot. Also, don’t be surprised if she talks to other guys while you’re gone. Some of the time when a women says something such as her, it’s an unconscious slip. Either way, do your thing and don’t care too much about it.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 02:00 PM
19

Most likely, her interest level is low. Ask her out though. Then judge her response. Anything other than a yes or a reschedule with firm plans, soft next her.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 01:54 PM
2

Thanks for mentioning TDEE. I’m 6’ and 190lbs. I gained 5lbs in the last three months. I didn’t start gaining weight until I got closer to 3,000 cal per day. I had no idea how few calories I was taking in. OP, follow this advice. Lift heavy, eat big, sleep a lot. You can easily get up to 200lbs. You’ll look and feel awesome. My goal is 200lbs by Christmas. So far so good. And my waist size really isn’t increasing. Everything else is though!
/r/askTRP14/03/18 05:20 AM
2

Soft next. At the very least it’ll give you time to clear your head. It gives you a 50/50 shot of her contacting you. If you keep contacting her, it comes off as needy.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:58 PM
7

I don’t see anything wrong with your behavior besides getting a little hung up on this one. You don’t see her as an LTR. Soft next. She’s going cold because the other guy is offering or she thinks she has the chance of getting commitment. If she continues with you, she has the chance of ruining it with him. She could also be playing the jealousy game to up her value and get you to commit. Soft next in this situation as well. If you try to mate guard or bring up commitment to her because of him, …
/r/askTRP13/03/18 02:22 PM
1

Not at all. If I already have a great rapport going on with her, it seems more natural to ask her over than to go out on a date. My only suggestion is to have a back up plan in place.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 01:58 PM
1

Agreed, it’s why you only buy a house you can afford and in an area where it’s about to or going through revitalization.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 06:23 AM
2

Straight cash was my first thought as well. My step dad is the one who said it’s better to have as much money making money for you through investments.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 06:22 AM
16

Buy a house I can actually afford to make payments on with my current job. Index funds
/r/askTRP12/03/18 07:40 PM
8

She’s trying to gauge your interest level. Also, it’s better to compliment actions than looks. I’d rather compliment by telling her how she turns me on. Only say it when you mean it or it becomes common and worth nothing.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 02:18 PM
10

She’s externally validated, always needs attention, and has few boundaries. Go back and think about what red flags you ignored. Where there’s an iceberg, you saw ice and ignored it. We’ve all been there and had to learn the hard way. What do you want to do? If my feelings were really strong, I’d break up with her. If they aren’t, I’d continue hooking up with her and plan my exit strategy. Then start talking to other girls.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 01:54 PM
6

Soft next. She might have had second thoughts or only saw you as a friend. It doesn’t matter. She knows where you stand. If she’s interested, she’ll contact you.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 09:12 PM
3

Don’t ever listen to her excuses or justifications. Below is a guide to help you out. Her responses to your date offer: Yes- go have fun No w/o a firm reschedule- soft next No with a firm reschedule-go have fun then Honestly, I hit a girl up once for a date. If she doesn’t reply or offer plans, I don’t text her again. If she’s interested, she’ll let me know. Respond with, “Ok.”
/r/askTRP11/03/18 07:56 PM
8

If she hooks up during that time, she did you a favor. You thought you should only soft next. In reality, she’s telling you it should be a hard next.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 06:45 PM
2

Attraction is there or it isn’t. She flakes and is unresponsive because she’s not attracted. You’re hung up on her because you’re not talking to other girls or you think this one is special. Instead of an abundance mentality, it’s one of scarcity. We’ve all been there. The only solution is to soft next this one and talk to new ones.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 06:27 PM
16

You’re starting to fixate on her. Keep talking and hooking up with other girls.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 04:58 PM
4

Start small. A novel is written a line at a time. If you try to tackle everything at once, it becomes overwhelming. You can meditate for five minutes to start. Create routines. New behaviors need to become automatic. This helps force the issue. For example, as soon as you wake up, you make your bed.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 04:07 PM
66

Women love chasing commitment the way men chase sex. It’s their version of getting laid because sex is so easy to get. When a man brings it up, it doesn’t give them a chance to do so. It sub-communicates a low SMV. If he’s high value and can easily get women, why would he commit so quick? A man’s biological drive is to bang as many women as possible.
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:57 PM
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And this is the problem. You and the OP are letting these women walk all over you. If a male roommate and friend treated you the same way, you would’ve kicked them to the curb a long time ago. Take away sex and the pedestal you’ve put these women on and what’s left?
/r/askTRP11/03/18 03:44 PM
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This was a plate at best anyway. Why does she mention another guy? Reason: Inspire jealousy to artificially raise her value Solution: Agree&Amplify Reason: Preparing to branch swing Solution: Dread game Reason: Socially inept and doesn’t have boundaries Solution: Why are you dating a dummy? Correct it a couple of times max. Explain how it makes her unattractive. If it continues, move on.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 04:04 PM
1

He’s out of his fucking mind. Stop trying to figure him out. Spend your time removing him from your life.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:59 AM
1

If you always wanted to live in a big city, do it. I moved to a big one 15 years ago and don’t regret it. I love the action and endless stream of new people, experiences, food, you name it. Every place has its drawbacks though. Treat them like choosing a college. Go tour a few and find something matching your personality and interests. And if you have real employable skills, you’re going to be golden.
/r/askTRP09/03/18 11:39 PM
1

What do you do? What should you have done? Hard next. She was planning on cheating or breaking up with you. How do I get better? How do I game other women? Keep coming here. Read the RP Handbook, RP Sidebar, The Book of Pook, and The Rational Male. Also, read the questions and answers to posts. You’ll start to see common problems men have and the solutions. You need to internalize and apply. Realize you can only change yourself. Become the best version of you. TRP is only a metaphor. Everything …
/r/askTRP09/03/18 02:11 AM
1

My bad, “can.”
/r/askTRP08/03/18 07:47 PM
3

C and if she doesn’t offer firm alternative plans, next.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:56 PM
-1

Social media warps our perception of individuals like the news does to the world. Base your judgements on real life instead of online.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:52 PM
4

Cool, then push further. And it sounds like you don’t care about the friendship much. Go for it.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:47 PM
1

The only part of your post that matters is you’re going to med school and avoided an attention whore. Congrats!
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:44 PM
8

TRP never states to not be friends with women. If you’re attracted to them, then it’s a different story. If you don’t care about losing a friendship, escalate.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:35 PM
2

They like pics. We like porn. If everything else is cool, let it go. One of the main problems with judging someone online is you’re going to get a distorted view of their life and you’ll add in your own meaning. It’s better to avoid it.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 02:20 PM
9

There are only about 5-6 books you’ll see people talk about over and over. It’s one of them. Here are the four essential reads most often mentioned n TRP: Red Pill Handbook Red Pill Sidebar The Book of Pook The Rational Male
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:56 PM
2

A couple of hours. If I get something during work, I’ll only reply at lunch or right after work. The most important thing is to avoid neediness and being too available. Avoid double texting, a wall of text, or anything cringe worthy. Stick to logistics and you won’t worry too much about when to send texts or the content.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:38 PM
2

Do both.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 03:45 AM
1

Attention whore
/r/askTRP07/03/18 06:26 PM
3

Withdraw attention. Stop chasing her. You’re playing into her frame. She gets off on your reactions because she’s externally validated. She needs and thrives on positive and negative attention. Be indifferent. And stop giving a fuck about her social media. She’s a plate only. Lastly, demote by only hanging to bang.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 03:23 PM
10

They want a nice guy. They just fail to mention ALL of the qualities that attract them in the first place. I like what someone said, you can’t ask a fish what bait to use.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 03:15 PM
10

Why do women mention other guys? Reasons and Solutions: Reason: Inspire jealousy to artificially raise her value Solution: A&A Reason: Preparing to branch swing Solution: Dread game Reason: Socially inept and doesn’t have boundaries Solution: Why are you dating a dummy? Correct it a couple of times max. Explain how it makes her unattractive. If it continues, move on. As you stated, she wanted to see your reaction. Always be hard to read. Women love trying to figure men out. If she continues talk…
/r/askTRP07/03/18 03:00 PM
2

I rarely go on first dates. It’s usually straight to hangouts. If anything, after you start hooking up push for a hang.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 02:54 PM
8

It’s a part of your brain trying to fix the past to feel better in the present. Let me guess, it starts off reflecting on the past and this time you do it right. Then you imagine how different your present and future would be if this or that would have happened. Lies! The only thing going to fix it is moving forward with your life. Meet more women, lift, new hobbies, and new experiences.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 02:52 PM
1

Slowly increase the number of calories and break it up into smaller meals. No need to stuff your face into feeling sick. As far as weights go, try 3x5 for your sets. Keep pushing, breathe properly, and drink a lot of water.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 02:47 PM
1

Who said this is going to be an LTR? You’re thinking way too far into the future. You plate first. Then over time her actions and whether she meets your standards determine if she’s an LTR candidate. Unless it’s absolutely needed, monk mode is just another excuse to avoid talking to women.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 02:43 PM
2

We think alike. I’d only add the RP Handbook as well.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 02:29 PM
14

If you don’t see any red flags, move in with her and report back. We’ll wait...
/r/askTRP07/03/18 01:51 AM
24

The new girl won’t know anything about the old you.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 01:48 AM
3

If you’re asking this, it’s time to start talking to other girls. Also, soft next her. If two weeks go by, consider this over.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 01:47 AM
1

It’s good to look in the mirror at your actions and improve. However, there’s no need to take responsibility for someone else’s. They could’ve broken up with you. For example, I had a plate years ago who cheated on every boyfriend she ever had. It had nothing to do with the guy. Yeah, she’s still single.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 09:41 PM
6

There doesn’t seem to be any major red flags or dealbreakers. It seems your main questions are: Will she make a great mother? If she’s kind, a giver, and selfless, the answer is most likely yes. Will she work hard after you have kids? You have to communicate to her that a stay at home mom is out of the question. You can judge her reaction by asking, “I don’t get when a couple has kids and the mom quits her job. Then the couple has money problems and everyone is stressed out. What do you think?” …
/r/askTRP06/03/18 03:13 PM
13

Were you having fun talking to those girls? Yes? Then I would’ve stayed. No? Then leave.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:56 PM
6

You’re on the right track.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 02:52 PM
1

Here’s a helpful guide to a girl flaking or ghosting. A lot of it has to do with how you meet. Starting with least to most likely to flake. Social Circle Cold Approach Social Media Online Dating
/r/askTRP06/03/18 08:48 AM
7

Nobody is going to lose attraction for you because you only text for logistics. If a woman is even only 51% interested in you, she’ll agree to meet up or at least counter with firm alternative plans. By texting for logistics, you’ll see who’s interested and who’s wasting your time. Why spend even 15 minutes of your life on a girl who only wanted to keep you as an orbiter? Women crave attention the way men crave sex. Everything else is in the Sidebar.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 08:05 AM
12

Any relationship ending is going to hurt. The difference is you have before you the collective knowledge of men who have improved their lives and became really good with women. The guesswork has been taken out. You can wallow or get busy. Your choice.
/r/askTRP06/03/18 06:35 AM
2

High school will be over before you know it. Nobody is going to remember or care in twenty years. Believe me it goes faster than you think. Go after every girl you want to because IOI’s can’t be fully trusted. Unless you’re a dude who treats women like garbage, then let them talk about you. It actually raises your value. Keep gaming girls. You can be part of the party scene without partying. Go and have fun. The reason those dudes don’t approach is because of their social status and social circl…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 10:18 PM
3

She’s passed all the big ones. Let it go and enjoy your time together. If anything, she texts the way TRP instructs men to text. You can see why it works now.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 10:09 PM
1

She’s blaming you for cheating. WTF?! You’re not responsible for her actions. You: “Why did you steal my money?” Her: “You didn’t keep it in a bank.” Hard next her. Who cares if she has a panic attack? It’s her fault. Anything you do other than hard nexting her is sub-communicating that you’re a doormat, partially responsible for her cheating, and her behavior wasn’t that bad.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 07:49 PM
8

She clearly doesn’t met your standards for an LTR. She has zero boundaries because she’s externally validated. This is a common problem men post about around here. She keeps all these men around for attention and being able to branch swing quickly. We call them orbiters. They’re dick on reserve. In my experience, these types make great plates and never should be upgraded to an LTR. Next time, screen harder and have higher standards. We’ve all made these mistakes. As I told a friend recently, som…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 07:33 PM
4

Who knows and it doesn’t matter. You’re already becoming overly invested in a girl you’ve never met. You’ve done your part. It’s her turn. Let it go.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 06:34 PM
1

Women love attention the way men love sex. She’s keeping you as a reserve at best. Do the same. Anything than that and she’s going to waste your time.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 06:27 PM
2

You already know how everyone here is going to feel about the flowers. Let’s move on from that... Good news is she texted you back. The bad news is her interest level is low. Go back and forth with a couple of texts. Be playful. Set up a hang. The goal is to see if she’s a time waster or get a date. Her responses: Yes- go have fun No with firm alternative plans- cool No without firm alternative plans- next Flakes later on- next Only give her a weekday to hang out. The weekend is reserved only fo…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 04:04 PM
4

She’s going to either assume you want to keep it casual or she’ll break and want to have “The Talk.” See Sidebar for this answer. My personal opinion and it works for me is to be upfront when it’s brought up. She can decide if she’s cool with it being casual as in a FWB or walk. They usually appreciate the honesty because they don’t feel I led them on or manipulated them. Plus, they’ll stick around until they start getting serious with another guy. This has happened quite a few times and half th…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 03:53 PM
5

Pretend like nothing happened. Move forward.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 03:24 PM
2

Every guy I know who’s good with women has boned everything under the sun. There’s a reason they call it sport fucking.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 03:14 PM
1

Therapy is included with most insurance plans nowadays. You might only get 12 sessions, but it’s available. Call your provider.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 03:09 PM
5

Here’s a good one, “So X thinks we should meet. I’m down. If it doesn’t go well, at least we can blame X for being a terrible matchmaker. Deal?” I’ve had three friends try to hook me up in the past year. I’ve used a similar line every time and it’s gotten positive results.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 12:27 AM
1

Then studying was probably the last thing on her mind. I’m tapping out of this post. Take care.
/r/askTRP05/03/18 12:15 AM
1

Your post is confusing. Make sure to read it before posting. You don’t need a lot of backstory, but it needs context. Here’s how it should have gone and if I’m wrong, then I don’t know what to say. I’ve messed around with this girl a few times, but no sex. Whenever I try to get her back over, she says no. Out of the blue, she starts messaging me about wanting to study together. I told her no. What’s my next move? Is this correct?
/r/askTRP05/03/18 12:05 AM
1

Huh? We do bad things? I’m completely confused.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:57 PM
2

Ask her to go do something else, “I don’t feel like studying right now. Let’s go get a drink/whatever.” She says no- only views you as a study partner Says no and offers a firm reschedule- possibly interested Says yes- go and escalate
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:51 PM
4

My buddy said it took him 300 approaches until his eye stopped twitching. He also accelerated his learning by forcing himself to get five numbers a day for a year. Not five approaches, five numbers. Confidence is competence gained from repetition. You, me, and every other guy start out putting too much importance on the approach. It means nothing. When it starts to mean nothing, you’ll start to get really good at it.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:37 PM
4

Most people want to reinforce their self limiting beliefs as a way to justify the who, what, where and why of their existence. They want to point the finger at something beside themselves because it would force them into action and taking responsibility. This type of belief system does nothing positive for people. It disempowers instead of empowering people. We tell ourselves no all the time. Screw that, let the world tell you no and even then it’s a maybe if you get better. Hence, put your focu…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:22 PM
1

OP, listen to this advice. It’s solid.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 11:10 PM
11

She hadn’t had sex in awhile and she chose you. End of story.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 10:33 PM
5

Who cares? It doesn’t matter. Things out of your control: Genetics Things in your control: Everything else
/r/askTRP04/03/18 10:30 PM
0

She rescheduled with firm plans. You’re good dude. She’s keeping it causal. Maybe she couldn’t get a car or whatever. Who knows? If she breaks plans without rescheduling, then she’s not interested.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 09:46 PM
3

You’re going to be walking a fine line because this is work related. As long as you’re willing to deal with the repercussions, cool. You have to strike up a conversation. Talk about cool, fun things you do or want to do in your area. Whatever. Get her talking and reacting. She’ll let you know if she’s interested in the conversation and you. I wouldn’t go for a number unless she’s giving you strong IOS’s. You: “I do X a lot.” Her: “I’ve always wanted to do X.” You: “You should come along sometime…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 08:36 PM
4

The real booze is knowledge, action, and improvement.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 08:21 PM
11

Always keep it sexual. If she doesn’t want to hook up right now because she’s dating someone, keep her on the back burner. Slow response to texts, short answers, etc. You had a pretty good response lined up. Also, it’s smart of you to not to be the first to initiate. I don’t either. Almost every time an ex does, we hook up. Don’t fall into her orbit by giving her attention without getting what you want.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 08:19 PM
2

You’re probably trying to figure out a way to not get rejected. Spoiler..... You’re going to get rejected a lot. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you’re going to get laid. The more you get rejected and have success, your confidence will grow. You’ll stop second guessing yourself. Confidence is the most important non-verbal. You can’t find it in a book. It’s going through action.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 07:11 PM
4

Your number one priority is to learn how to be social with everyone.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 07:02 PM
4

Reasons and Solutions: Reason: Inspire jealousy to artificially raise her value Solution: A&A Reason: Preparing to branch swing Solution: Dread game Reason: Socially inept and doesn’t have boundaries Solution: Why are you dating a dummy? Correct it a couple of times max. Explain how it makes her unattractive. Don’t bring up the past. If her behavior continues, next her. She doesn’t meet your standards. You can’t change anyone.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:28 PM
7

You’re growing up. It takes time. Usually the external changes before the internal. Keep seeing other girls. Don’t share your feelings with this one. If you bring them up or talk about an LTR first, you’re done. Men chase sex. Women chase commitment. Don’t get those crossed and you’ll be fine.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:17 PM
10

You’re becoming too invested in her. If you don’t curb it, you’ll probably revert back to your old self and ruin it. Hence, why he’s saying yes to all three.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:08 PM
6

Be the man she’s afraid to lose. If you read 12 Level of Dread, you’ll see what I’m talking about.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:33 PM
3

Exactly and it’s normal to want a release or relief from it. On a side note, it’s awesome to hear how much your life changed. Keep it up dude!
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:27 PM
1

She got what she wanted and now her behavior has changed. Go figure. Imagine what she’s going to be like when you put a ring on her finger. Break out the Spankz! Are there any red flags or dealbreakers you overlooked before you upgraded her? You have to be honest with yourself here. You’re becoming overly invested. Let this week go. If a pattern forms, then you have a problem. Go live your life. You’re under no obligation to cut yourself off from talking to other women. Keep your game sharp. Sof…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:20 PM
3

Tell her to bring crayons as well. Sluts love coloring. It’s an IOI as well as a sign that she’s does DTF now. On a serious note, look at the message he’s trying to convey. It’s about getting her to do your will and you not giving a fuck. Hence, showing higher value. If it’s congruent with your personality, cool. If not, it’s going to come off as weird.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 04:56 PM
3

Please remember you do have a dick. You’ll always want to bang different woman. Let me rephrase it, your dick has no standards. Thank god, because it’s helped you and a lot of 2am bar leftovers. With that being said, the two levels of addiction are the mental and physical. As you already know, the mental is the hard part. Whenever you’re feeling off, you’re predisposed to look to the outside to make your inside feel better. How’s your self care going? Have you become stagnate in your life? As lo…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 04:42 PM
2

No need to ever give an ultimatum, “I’ll leave your ass.” It comes off as weak. Tell her what you think about a situation and end it, “Do whatever you think is right.” Behavior continues, withdraw attention or leave her. Always be stoic about it. Women love learning how to get under your skin. They want to figure you out. Don’t let her. If she flaked on a hang, didn’t apologize, tried to find fault with you, then you’ve got bigger problems.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 03:56 PM
65

She needs some more rapport and comfort. It’s next to impossible to build through text. My guess is she likes you and doesn’t want to be viewed as a slut. “I enjoy hanging with you. Let’s get together this week. I was thinking of doing something fun like.......”
/r/askTRP04/03/18 03:48 PM
3

When you have clear standards, goals, and a rock solid frame/mindset, it’s hard to be manipulated or lead even for a short period of time. If you’re not getting what you want, get out. “Women have girlfriends and boyfriends. If you’re not fucking her, you’re her girlfriend.”- Rollo Tomassi
/r/askTRP04/03/18 03:38 PM
1

Push pull even when kissing
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:47 AM
2

Take it slow. You slowly escalate with a girl unless you can tell she wants it NOW. You’ll learn over time. Keep the focus on her and she’ll focus on you. Promise.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:13 AM
2

I rarely have LMR. Here’s a tip, stop focusing on you and just focus on her. Make her comfortable, go down on her, learn how to use your fingers, and think about making her cum twice. Instead of saying, “I don’t want to have sex,” you’ll hear, “Where are your condoms?”She’ll be the one taking your pants off.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 04:58 AM
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You have to know the rules to break them. It’s better to instill the fundamentals and then change it up a bit later on. Most want to change the fundamentals because they refuse to accept reality and change. Think of all the men trying to find alternatives to squatting and deadlifting in the gym. They keep ignoring the advice from the guys who have the body they want. Women do want to see a soft side as long as it’s not your baseline. They want long walks on the beach, etc. The part they leave ou…
/r/askTRP03/03/18 05:55 PM
1

Ha ha ha. That’s when I stopped reading.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 03:17 PM
5

Yeah, people are human beings and women love to chat. You only want it avoid long, completely pointless conversations.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 04:43 AM
4

You made out, she bought you drinks, and you’re upset she wanted to chat a bit. I don’t want to tell you other than good luck.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 03:12 AM
1

Ha ha ha ha ha!
/r/askTRP03/03/18 12:58 AM
3

She’s being friendly. Let it end naturally.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 12:05 AM
1

My LTR standards are high, but filled more with red flags and dealbreakers. Most women are plates only and it has nothing to do with n-count.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 12:03 AM
3

I’ve never cared about a women’s n-count. If we don’t have a similar sex drive, we’re just not going to be compatible.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 11:12 PM
2

There’s definitely a difference between red flag and dealbreaker. #9 is only a red flag. If she has few female friends and a ton of guy friends, it usually means she’s in need of attention all the time and women don’t trust her.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 10:13 PM
2

Let it go and let time take its course. Personally, the above questions point to whether she’s LTR material.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 07:53 PM
8

Keep hooking up with her. Talk openly about sex and relationships. She’ll start doing the same. Please remember that no matter what she says, doing so will change your perception of her big time, There are bigger red flags that point to deeper issues and will give you a better idea of her for an LTR. Does she party with alcohol or drugs? What’s her relationship with her family? How does she talk about her father? Does she have a career or job? How is she on social media? How is she with money? M…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 06:57 PM
1

What are you trying to figure out or want to know?
/r/askTRP02/03/18 06:34 PM
3

Let her share it. Your job is to quietly judge jk. Sorta.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 06:13 PM
1

Women love to gossip. End of story.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 03:04 PM
2

I don’t condone cheating, but get tested ASAP. If your wife gets anything because of you, she’ll know what happened.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:52 PM
7

I’m not a therapist, but I bet you have a lot of beliefs which reinforce your need for attention. Those beliefs are false but you believe them because they feel true. In addition, they seem more like facts than beliefs because you’ve been telling yourself and reinforcing them for a long time. You know those beliefs are hurtful instead of helpful, which means you know they’re bs.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:27 PM
4

Fear of rejection. It never goes away. You’ll only learn how to deal with it. After awhile, it’ll actually give you energy to approach a girl. Trust me. And don’t feel too bad, we’ve all screwed up.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:14 PM
3

I have grey in my chin only. I thought about dyeing it and decided to embrace it.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:11 PM
6

An ex is only good for a plate. I’d only text her later on at night and tell her to come over. She’ll understand why. At the same time, the way she approached you is way off. Might be better to not reply.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:01 PM
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Laziness and thinking, “It’ll be different for me. I won’t have a problem.” The wrong girl always comes along eventually. If you’re going to do it, take it slower than a snail’s pace. If you see any major red flags or dealbreakers, eject immediately. My advice though is it’s better to become friends with co-workers and then meet one of their friends.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:53 PM
2

Confidence is a byproduct of competence. Do something over and over until you’re competent. It gives you the idea of, “When I put the work in, I can get better at something. Maybe this applies to other things as well.” You try something else and repeat the process. More confidence is gained. A guy gets really good at video games, but thinks, “I’ll never be good at talking to women.” False! First, it’s a distortion in thinking. Secondly, they’re not considering how they used to suck at video game…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:43 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/askTRP02/03/18 06:17 AM
2

My bad, I misread your post. She moved away. I thought you moved away for college. I’d keep it short and friendly. She should get the point. “Hey there, school’s been busy. If you’re ever out my way or vice-versa, let’s hang.” Then leave it.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 06:11 AM
2

This could be made into a plate. Leave it open ended. “Hey there, busy with school. I think I’ll be back home in X. I’ll hit you up and maybe we can catch up then.” A week before you go home, you give her a heads up. That’s it.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 05:49 AM
2

I think it was Rollo who said, “Women have girlfriends and boyfriends. If you’re not fucking her, you’re her girlfriend.”
/r/askTRP02/03/18 03:11 AM
1

My buddy once said to never ask questions you don’t want to know the answer to. I think the same thing applies here. You were smart to give it back. She’s a plate. It doesn’t matter who else she’s seeing and vice-versa. By the way, I have asked plates before, which is dumb. I’m always disgusted and never jealous. In my head I’m like, “You let that guy inside of you?!” It really made me learn never to ask.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:59 AM
1

It’s better to say, “Ok, I understand.” Then move on. Why? She’s probably going to officially dump you later anyway. Also, once you dump someone and go back, it becomes easier to dump them in the future. I know this is probably super painful dude, but you’re going to be alright. I promise!
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:59 AM
6

Translation-“I don’t know how to dump you right now, but if you can give me time, I’m sure I can figure it out.”
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:31 AM
3

I enjoy Rollo because he’s academic in this approach. At this point, you might be starting to overthink it. Follow the advice on TRP, be the best version of you and you’re going to be doing well for yourself.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:09 AM
5

Her responses to your date offer: Yes- go have fun No w/o a firm reschedule- soft next No with a firm reschedule-go have fun then
/r/askTRP01/03/18 08:07 PM
3

“Let’s hang tonight. I’m thinking of going to X at X.” Yes- go have fun No w/o a firm reschedule- soft next No with a firm reschedule-go have fun then
/r/askTRP01/03/18 08:05 PM
3

You’re fine and she knows where to find you. Don’t contact her again. Make her miss you. It’ll probably end with the guy sooner than later. She’ll probably contact you when it does because you’re being cool about it. I’m always cool with a plate unless she brings any drama into my life. Then I’m still nice, but I end it. Women want commitment the way we want sex. It’s a big reason men and women settle.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 05:56 PM
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I’ll echo other people. Talk to everybody. Most openers other than hi have to do with the situation. Learn to call it. The most simple one is, “How about this weather?” In an elevator on an early Monday morning, “Hey there, I don’t know about you, but I’ll never get used waking up early every Monday?” Go with your gut and don’t overthink it. If you think about it too long, you probably won’t say anything. You’ll talk yourself out of it.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 05:37 PM
2

Exactly, become an active listener.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 04:23 PM
2

Yep and listen to her. You’ll be amazed what a women will reveal.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 04:04 PM
22

Social Justice is religion for people who aren’t religious. Do you think you can change someone’s religious beliefs?
/r/askTRP01/03/18 03:58 PM
0

Detached? You should be attracted to her personality. Beauty attracts. Personality keeps you there.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 03:24 PM
5

Men with a SMV don’t get jealous or mate guard because they can replace her. Women who keep ex-bfs and a lot of orbiters around need constant external validation. They usually lack boundaries and impulse control.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 03:14 PM
3

I read about another guy with autism and the difficulties he had with women. He started taking notes about the interactions and learning from them. Over time he became better and better. It might take awhile, but you can do it too. Rooting for you!
/r/askTRP01/03/18 03:06 PM
3

If she unfriended you, leave her alone. Your situation isn’t unique. It’s called oneitis. You’re refusing to accept it because you want it to be special. The best thing to do is move on. Any further contact other than a hello in person is stalkerish behavior. The next girl will nothing about the old you. Move on.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 02:59 PM
1

My favorite investment quote, “ The best time to invest your money was yesterday.” The reasons why we do things can change over time. The important thing is starting now instead of later.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 02:48 PM
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Models was only a step above the dating advice found on Yahoo. His two books can probably be found on hipster bookshelves everywhere sitting right next to an “I’m With Her” sign. My Recommendations: RP Sidebar RP Handbook The Book of Pook The Rational Male And here’s another one that helped me along time ago, google “Cameron Teone blog” and hit attraction guide in the top left hand corner. I met the guy a long time ago. Solid dude who would probably fit more into TRP than the PUA community.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 05:07 AM
3

If you didn’t want to be in a poly relationship, you never should’ve gotten into one. You can’t change anyone but yourself.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 10:37 PM
1

I haven’t laughed this hard all day. This reminds of a time a guy posted about a girl crying during sex but not to worry because, “I plowed through it.” Option 4 Show her a party trick and suck your own dick, “See baby, it’s easy and enjoyable.”
/r/askTRP28/02/18 08:48 PM
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She’s being an attention whore with terrible boundaries. You’re being insecure and jealous. The problem is her and you. If she cheated on you with him, are you going to blame him? You would be crazy to do so because it was her choice. The only solution is to let her know you find her relationship with him weird. Then tell her, “Do whatever you think is right though.” If it continues, withdraw the thing she loves... attention. The second option is to forget about it and be blessed that he’s willi…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 08:32 PM
2

It’s only the details you have to figure out for next Tuesday, correct? I bet she reaches out via text or social media by tomorrow or Friday. And don’t be surprised if she texts during the weekend too. You’re good so far man. Put your focus on other stuff. Also, meet some new girls. It’ll get your mind off of her.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 05:43 PM
3

Experiment with different positions. What works really well for one girl might not be as good with another. As always, make her comfortable.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 04:45 PM
4

I got so lost in your story. Can you summarize it in five sentences? This girl and I are hooking up. Going well, but we can’t meet this weekend. She said Tuesday works. She texts me first everyday, but didn’t yesterday. What should I do? This is correct?
/r/askTRP28/02/18 04:34 PM
1

I don’t know your full situation. My advice is general. Most problems can be solved by not making a big deal about them. If her response to your plans was really overblown, wait. My advice still involves soft nexting her. If you want to wait for her to contact you, then do so. When she does, she’ll either apologize or blame you. It’ll probably be the latter.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 02:49 PM
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Does part of you want to be right and prove the advice here wrong? Cool, use this as an experiment. Instead of soft nexting as everyone advised, keep texting her and see what happens. There isn’t a niche scenario. You’re justifying it as such because you don’t have other options when it comes to women right now. If you had two other girls, you wouldn’t think twice about her.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 02:31 PM
3

She had to break plans because her and her friend didn’t have much money. You make new plans with your friends because you want to have fun and be productive. She wants to be part of your new plans and you tried, but there isn’t room for her. And she’s upset with you? You did your best not once, but twice for her. What if you didn’t make new plans? Your vacation would’ve been ruined and you would’ve been sitting around doing nothing. I guess she’s not even considering your position. If she reall…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 02:23 PM
2

Dedication is more important than motivation. If you wait for motivation, you could be waiting a long time. Dedication turns it into a routine. After awhile, it becomes the same as doing your laundry every Saturday morning. The important thing is to not break the routine. Want to go to the gym? Go today. Nobody says you have to kill yourself. Start small and commit to three days a week. It’s no different than investing. One day I decided every year I would max my Roth IRA. At first I was worried…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 01:52 PM
1

Unless a girl really deserves it, I don’t delete her off my FB. I don’t like her stuff or contact her so it’s not a big deal to me. Standard TRP advice is to delete and block. If she asks, say, “I think you’re cool. I just want to give you space.” The first part is bs. The second is true. You’re giving her space because you think she’ll try to gossip about you. No matter what, if you’re worried, keep any contact at a minimum. Don’t give her any fuel.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 06:08 AM
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Stop doing all the stuff that makes you look upset. If you’re not upset, then why are you acting this way? Next time, tell her, “I understand how you feel. I was looking to keep it casual, but if you want to end it, cool. I’ll give you some space.” Casually get your stuff and leave. When you see her, smile and be indifferent. Sit somewhere else in class. The more you actually don’t give a shit, the more likely she’ll want to talk and hang out. At the very least, move on and talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 05:42 AM
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She probably needed a little more comfort and sexual build up or she’s just weird. If there’s a next time, push pull with her. You be the one to stop and then build it back up again.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 05:33 AM
2

Simple. Conversations are almost started based on the situation. Call the room, ie what’s going on around you, on the TV, whatever. It’ll make you present and relieve your stress. You might even say something funny too. Start doing it all the time until it becomes second nature. Just shoot the shit. Listen to her reactions and words. There will be something she says that you can “hook” onto and push the conversation forward. Look for subjects and emotions. Relate to it. Before you know it, you’l…
/r/askTRP28/02/18 05:28 AM
4

Not taking yourself seriously is a lot different than putting yourself down for no reason. Don’t go overboard with it. Remember if you put yourself down for no reason, you’re lowering your value in her eyes. It makes her question why she’s with you. Not taking yourself seriously makes you attractive. Sounds like you’re on the right path so far.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 10:38 PM
5

She wants attention. You want sex. I think I can see a compromise. If she’s not down for being a plate, I’d say, “Cool, let’s be friends.” Then ghost.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/18 09:52 PM
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We all have self-limiting beliefs. After awhile we start to believe they’re facts. Write yours down. You’ll notice the evidence doesn’t back them up. Here’s a hint, it never does. Example: Fact: I’m 6’. Belief: Girls like guys who are 6’2”. I’ll never be that tall so I’ll never get a girl. Evidence: I know a guy who’s shorter than me and he gets girls. Maybe I should ask him how he does it. Then why do we cling them? To protect our ego from rejection. Rejection makes us confront our beliefs and …
/r/askTRP27/02/18 07:31 PM
4

Even better!
/r/askTRP27/02/18 07:00 PM
15

Women hate being cold approached by the wrong guys.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:55 PM
5

It’s a joke, meaning try to kiss a girl when she doesn’t expect it. Then hope she makes a mistake and let’s you kiss her. Edit: Do not take the joke as real advice.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:52 PM
11

Bunt and hope for an error.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:46 PM
3

You got dumped. Don’t initiate any contact. Meet more girls. If she comes around, she’s a plate only. Edit: You probably won’t be able to handle plate status emotionally. Best to move on and forget her.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:33 PM
11

You mean a woman doesn’t want to take responsibility for her actions? Yeah, they’re called women.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:05 PM
3

Are you being cocky and funny or a dick and inappropriate? It’s not what you say, including the words, but how you say it. Is she playful or actually annoyed? If it’s the latter, you’re not getting the message and she’s going to lose attraction. Are you guys hooking up? If not, you’re probably spending too much time on her.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 06:01 PM
2

I think I’ve only had two or three girls ever ask my number count. Most won’t ask because they don’t want to know. Either way, say something ridiculous. Dude, I mean it because I care about your mental health, you sound depressed. Go see a therapist. I’d start mediating, eating well, and exercising. A lot of your negativity will dissipate. I promise.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:39 PM
1

Good for you. It’s similar to hitting the gym. Consistency is key.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:32 PM
2

You don’t care if she exists? Sounds like you do. If you were indifferent to her lack of attention, you would be thrilled with the situation. You’re wondering why she isn’t all over you? Maybe she views you as an experiment and nothing more. Maybe she’s talking to another guy. Who knows? Why are you focusing on this one girl? You have a scarcity mentality and probably aren’t talking to other girls. My advice is to enjoy it for what it is and nothing more. More importantly, start talking to other…
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:29 PM
1

Red Pill is only a metaphor and not a religion. All the things you learn here are the same exact behaviors you would learn from a positive male role model. The truths here sound hard because they’re unfiltered. You would’ve learned them naturally over time. Raising your kids to have goals, be self-starters, take responsibility for their lives, and become well-rounded sounds like good parenting to me.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:16 PM
1

Wtf?! Move on. Hard next. Tell her nicely you think it’s time to move on and you’ll always remain friendly with her. Then block her on everything.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:10 PM
2

These two guys have given you the best advice when it comes to this situation. If you don’t follow it, it’s all on you. One of the greatest things a man can give a woman is his commitment. If you give it away easily, she’ll find you, either consciously or subconsciously, unattractive. No challenge communicates low value. Low value men are desperate to keep a girl. High value men don’t care if she walks because there’s more women out there.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:05 PM
2

I’ve almost never had a problem with ASD since I was 18. Here’s my advice, go down on her first and make her cum hard. Instead of saying, “I’m not ready to have sex,” she’ll ask, “Where are your condoms?” It sounds cheesy as hell, but a line I used in my early twenties a lot, right before I took her clothes off, was, “I want to taste you.” Most of the time, the girls started unbuttoning their pants immediately. No matter what, don’t be selfish and get her off first.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 01:52 PM
1

You’re trying to find ways to have contact with her again. This is a lost cause. Do not write the note. You’ll come off as pathetic. Send her a text about the clothes, “I still have your clothes. What would you like me to do with them?” If she shows, don’t verbalize the things you want to write in the note. Move on. She’s probably already talking to or hooking up with another guy.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 01:28 PM
5

Attention whore, maybe? If she’s not getting it from you, it’s him. She can’t handle having a moment being alone and undesired. Establish boundaries, ie your thoughts on the matter. If she keeps not giving a fuck about what you think, then she’s not LTR material. Do it while being stoic, but tell her she’s free to do whatever she thinks is right. Behavior continues, withdraw the thing she lives the most... attention.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 03:37 AM
3

Why didn’t you respond? If you wanted to have sex, I would’ve said, “Hey there, sorry. This fundraiser ran late. I’ll be home at X. Come over.”
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:53 AM
2

Perfect advice.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 02:35 AM
3

I guess I wasn’t clear enough, withdraw all attention.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 01:04 AM
1

Most women are glued to their phones. If she hasn’t respond, don’t contact her again. You messed up. Move on.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:49 AM
6

Men want sex. Women want attention. I think you can figure the rest out.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:45 AM
6

I like what someone once said, “Do what you think is right.” Damn, that communicates a lot.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:30 AM
2

Mediation, even ten minutes helps me a lot.
/r/askTRP27/02/18 12:27 AM
10

Don’t go out of your way. If you naturally cross paths, start a conversation and see what happens. Other than that, don’t bother people while they’re working out.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 10:17 PM
3

You’re probably confusing cocky and funny with being a dick and inappropriate. They’re also pointing out that it’s not congruent with who you are. Scale it back and remember it’s all about how you say something, including the words, and not what you say.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 09:41 PM
5

Reasons and Solutions: Reason: Inspire jealousy to artificially raise her value Solution: A&A Reason: Preparing to branch swing Solution: Dread game Reason: Socially inept and doesn’t have boundaries Solution: Why are you dating a dummy? Correct it a couple of times max. Explain how it makes her unattractive. If it continues, move on. EDIT: Formatting
/r/askTRP26/02/18 07:55 PM
1

Online flaking is way higher than in real life. If you want to pull a lot from online, your pics have to be on point. Look really good and you’ll notice your flake ratio decreasing.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 03:38 PM
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LDR is not a real relationship. Sorry man. She’s already planning on moving along and so should you. Start talking to other girls. You’re 19 and should be having the time of your life for the next decade.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 03:26 PM
2

Don’t bang co-workers. You can go years without having a problem doing so and then the wrong one comes along. And yes, she will come along. Some women have a scorched earth policy. When you reject them, they will try to ruin you. And these women are good because they’ll use everything legal to do so. Think about it, women love to gossip because it ruins reputations. Here’s a better idea, maybe you can use the situation to your advantage. Have her invite you to parties where you can meet her frie…
/r/askTRP26/02/18 03:24 PM
6

OP, your facial features are not in your control. Your high bf%, haircut, skincare, and facial hair is in your control. Let’s not forgot your personality either. Focusing on the things out of your control only leads to apathy, anxiety, and depression. Focusing on the things in your control leads to confidence, personal power, and happiness. The path you choose really is your choice and has nothing to do with your genetics.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 03:12 PM
8

I’d text her later today or tomorrow. Then set up a hang for Wednesday or Thursday. Save your weekends for you and meeting other girls until she proves she’s worth it. Doing so also sub-communicates your worth without saying anything.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 03:02 PM
1

Is this all online? If so, it’s really hard to build comfort.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 05:53 AM
1

He’s petite and a stunner jk. In reality, he’s about average, but super skinny.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 05:51 AM
5

If anything, I’d respond with, “No problem.” Then leave it alone. Since she didn’t ask to reschedule with firm plans, soft next her.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 02:21 AM
6

Do you want to hook up with her? If no, don’t respond. If yes, respond. Keep it all simple and set up a hang ASAP. You’ll see pretty quickly if she’s interested. Don’t let her use you. Don’t invite her to your work for a drink. You: “Hey there, yep.” Her: “Blah blah blah.” You: “Let’s hang this X at X.”
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:21 PM
2

“It’s way too early for me to have this talk. Let’s keep this fun and relaxed. We can talk about it later down the road. If this is a problem, I understand and it’s been fun.” Also, read the sidebar. There’s a section dedicated to this subject.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:15 PM
1

You already know what to do. She’s a plate because she doesn’t meet your standards for a LTR. If it’s something specific she’s doing, address it and move on. If she continues, then soft next. At the same time, if a plate is causing any drama in your life, cut it off now. Go meet new girls.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 11:07 PM
1

No, only more rejections and success will make you feel comfortable with it. You’ll learn rejection doesn’t mean anything. You’ll become as indifferent to it as a guy handing out flyers on a NY city street. Become methodical. Failure only happens when you quit. Trying means you’re always getting better. You’re only going to get results. Your interpretation views them as failures. They’re all successes because you either get what you want or you can learn from it.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 10:28 PM
14

The next girl won’t know a thing about the old you.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 10:22 PM
2

You just learned to always strike when the iron is hot. Soft next. If she contacts you, stay away from all the texting. Set up a hang. If she says no or doesn’t offer firm alternative plans, move on. No matter what, go meet new girls.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 10:20 PM
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I don’t. I’d google your area and whatever it is you’re looking for. When in-doubt, go check out a few gyms. Also, make friends with people who are doing heavy compound lifts such as squats and deadlifts. They’re usually the guys who are the most helpful and easy to chat up,
/r/askTRP25/02/18 10:15 PM
2

Q&A is only information exchange. Listen to what she’s saying and connect with her emotions. Have fun, joke around. Take a detail and expand on it. Also, do fun stuff such as hiking, going to the beach, etc.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 05:23 PM
1

Sex=I’d only invite her to my place. Get to know her= invite her to do something Either way ends with sex.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 07:15 PM
1

Let me put it another way, do you want to get to know her or only fuck?
/r/askTRP24/02/18 07:05 PM
5

Check these areas: Diet Sleep Recovery time Enthusiasm Muscle adaptation
/r/askTRP24/02/18 06:59 PM
1

Do you want to date her or only hook up? Either way text for logistics. It only changes the content of the text.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 06:51 PM
4

If she was crazy, I’d block her. If not, no need. Focus on bettering yourself and meeting new women. Your ex doesn’t matter. Stop giving her attention, even when it’s only in your head or peeking at her social media. It doesn’t help and it keeps you from moving forward.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 06:48 PM
2

At this point, you probably have to have a talk and set boundaries. The question is, what do you want? Just sex? I’d avoid anything resembling a date and only meet to hook up. Anything other than sex can send mixed messages.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 06:43 PM
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There could be a number of reasons. It doesn’t matter because it sounds like this doesn’t happen very often. If it did, it’s time look at your behavior. This goes back to the old PUA days. The advice is to withdraw all attention, flip on the lights, and be indifferent. Be cool and she might come back around. When you see her next, be friendly and don’t bring it up. I wouldn’t pursue her though. You’re probably avoiding a future headache.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 06:02 PM
2

Most people recommend SL 5x5 and Starting Strength. The only real difference between the two is volume. They’re both great to build a solid foundation, especially for a beginner. My only recommendation is to get a personal trainer, Starting Strength trainer, or a powerlifting coach for the first month. Form is way more important than the amount of weight you can lift. On a side note, I wish I still lived in my hometown only for the powerlifting gym I joined at 18. Those were the best group of gu…
/r/askTRP24/02/18 01:59 AM
2

Hey dude, welcome. The Red Pill is only a metaphor. Nothing here is really new. If you had a positive male role model, you would’ve learned all of this naturally. Abundance mentality= “always more fish in the sea”internalized IDGAF= indifferent and stoic Plates= fuck buddy, friend with benefits, or casual dating Cold approach= saying hi to a stranger Alpha= leader of men, risk taker, sexual, hunter, masculine We just want you to be the best man you can be for yourself and as a result, the women …
/r/askTRP23/02/18 03:15 PM
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Top 3 Reasons Girls Mention Other Guys: 1. Using jealousy to inflate their value 2. Preparing to branch swing 3. Socially inept and doesn’t understand it turns us off Either way, a woman who talks about her sexual past is low class and lacks boundaries. Keep her at a distance.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 03:09 PM
1

I’d respond to her message with, “hey” and that’s it. If she doesn’t respond with a yes or firm alternative plans, soft next her. It means you don’t contact her until she contacts you again. If and when she does contact, repeat the same process.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 02:55 PM
1

Soft next. When she’s feeling well, she’ll let you know. Then go hang. When she’s not, hang with other girls. Please remember that her mental health issues aren’t going away. Keep a safe distance to protect your emotions. It’s easy to get wrapped up, especially when she has a bunch of other great qualities.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 05:05 AM
1

The most important thing you need to ask yourself is, what do you want? Start there. Trying to figure out her side is nearly pointless.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 04:44 AM
6

She sounds more like a plate than LTR material. Soft next and go hang with and meet other girls. If you wait around for her, it means your life goes on hold too.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 04:34 AM
1

I don’t remember.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 04:16 AM
1

If you can, pull her close and kiss her. Take your time and enjoy it.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 04:12 AM
4

Very simple. Go her place or yours. Start making out. Bang. Set up a hang now. “Let’s hang at (insert your place or hers) on X at X.”
/r/askTRP23/02/18 04:00 AM
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Hey dude, I think you may be confused by the terminology and meaning. The Red Pill is only a metaphor. Nothing here is really new. If you had a positive male role model, you would’ve learned all of this naturally. Abundance mentality= “always more fish in the sea”internalized IDGAF= indifferent and stoic Plates= fuck buddy, friend with benefits, or casual dating Cold approach= saying hi to a stranger Alpha= leader of men, risk taker, sexual, hunter, masculine You can have all the type of sex you…
/r/askTRP23/02/18 03:57 AM
1

Exactly, most stuff is built through action. Even meditation is you actively trying to do nothing to clear your mind.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 01:44 AM
2

Also, get social with everybody and have patience.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 07:28 PM
5

The Red Pill is only a metaphor. All the things you can learn here, you would’ve learned by having a positive male influence in your life. That being said, don’t go around dropping the Red Pill name. There’s literally no need. Also, people don’t like men who take control of their love life and get better with women. They only like the final product and illusion that they were born as an awesome man. Share advice like it’s something you picked up over time from experience. Don’t share it like it’…
/r/askTRP22/02/18 05:11 PM
2

Exactly, keep this mentality. Also, talk to other girls.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 03:12 PM
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I’m sorry you got dumped. Remember, it happens to everybody. Unless something really bad happened and you need to go no contact, keep going to the gym. It shows you’re indifferent. When you see her, say hi and smile. Nothing more or less. Then go about your workout. Start approaching other girls. Wallowing in sadness will get you nowhere. It’s like punishing yourself for her dumping you. Yeah, pointless and dumb! Read the RP Sidebar, RP Handbook, Book of Pook, and The Rational Male. Internalize …
/r/askTRP22/02/18 03:11 PM
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Expand your social circle. This can happen through hobbies or sports. If you’re closer to 21, the bar scene can help too, but it isn’t ideal. I find the best thing to do is start conversations and shoot the shit with everybody. Situational openers are the best, “Thank God tomorrow is Friday. How’s your week going?” Doesn’t matter what you say. Just talk.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 03:03 PM
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What goes around comes around. There might be a day where a girl cheats on her boyfriend with you. Your thoughts are only thoughts and over time the meaning of them will change. Keep working on you and meditating. Also, I write my thoughts down. Then I refute them with evidence. I’m always amazed by the incorrect information my mind feeds me. Google cognitive distortions and CBT. When you reflect on the past, let it be a reminder of how far you’ve come. If it wouldn’t have happened, you might no…
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:57 PM
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Cool, I’m glad you’re approaching either through your social circle or cold approach. Just remember social media is #3. The farther you go down the list, flakes always go up. As such, social media should be lower on your list of priorities because the return rate is low. When interacting with a girl through social media, keep pushing for a hang within 10 back and forth messages. Going for say a drink or coffee is not a big commitment at all. If she doesn’t want to meet, she’s a time waster.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:45 PM
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Ask her to hang with a specific time and day. End of story. If she’s a time waster, you’ll know pretty quick.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 05:36 AM
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I didn’t hear you mention approaching girls in real life. You have to start doing it. Also, start building your social circle through hobbies or whatever. Those two things plus your online stuff will up your options. Here’s how I rank the best way to pull from best to worst. Social circle- warm sell Cold approach- cold sell Social media-warm sell Online dating- cold sell Of course all of this changes when you look like a model, your rich, or a celebrity. For me when I get into a rut, it’s becaus…
/r/askTRP22/02/18 05:22 AM
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She doesn’t have any other options better than you right now. As soon as she does, you’re gone. Set a meet up asap. Move quick and you’ll probably hook up. If not, she’ll move on. Don’t even think about a LTR with her. Reassess after six months of plowing.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:40 AM
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Don’t contact her again. Start meeting new women. If she hits you up, she’s a plate at best. If it’ll be too hard for you to only bang, ghost. I’d probably avoid ever getting back with her. It’ll become easier to dump you again. She’s already had practice.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:36 AM
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I’m saving this comment. Anytime I get in my own head, I’ll reread it. Thanks for laying it out so succinctly.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:16 AM
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Good, you know you need to expand your social circle. This is the biggest problem when people leave college. They don’t expand it whatsoever. Sports and hobbies help a lot. Also, girls your age are still going to bars and clubs. For the next few years, it’ll be jumping with them. Check out art shows, etc in your area.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:14 AM
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IDGAF=indifferent and stoic Mean=dick for no reason Nice Guy=doormat with a non-sexual vibe
/r/askTRP22/02/18 02:07 AM
5

Your thoughts are wrong. “If I get rejected, then people will lose respect for me.” This simply isn’t true. How about this one? It sounds more valid. “If I get rejected, then I know a girl isn’t interested. No matter what, the confidence and experience I gain from every interaction helps me with the next girl.”
/r/askTRP21/02/18 11:45 PM
1

Follow this guy’s advice.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 09:47 PM
0

Someone once said to text her the day of something along the lines of, “Hey, Just a heads up. ’m going to be an hour late. Sorry. “ Text her around lunch tomorrow.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 09:34 PM
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This is her way of saying she likes you. She doesn’t want you to toss her to the side. If she’s really sexual you can respond with, “Let’s discuss matter in my bed on X.” If not, I would text, “Good seeing you too. I didn’t want to intrude. Let’s hang this X.” And yes, I’ve used the first line before in different situations. It’s always worked. Depends on the girl though.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 09:28 PM
2

TRP is only a metaphor. Almost nothing here is new. It’s only been synthesized into a somewhat cohesive whole. Find a way to meditate that you enjoy and do it.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 08:56 PM
1

I feel you. I don’t know if it helps, but I find if I go out with a bunch of girls, one I want to date comes along naturally. I don’t have to “search” for her.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 05:53 PM
2

I can only speak from personal experience. Women who have a high count are perfect for plates. I never ask them. They’ll tell or reveal things about themselves over time. Literally I had one plate tell me she was in a relationship for four years. Over the next year, she told me without realizing it, that she cheated on him at least ten times. I’m guessing the number was double by the way she talked about sex. She showed no remorse. Yeah, plate only, always wear a condom, pull out while wearing i…
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:21 PM
2

The easiest way to not catch fake feelings is to have other women in your life.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:04 PM
2

Do yourself a favor and don’t get hung up on it. Work on becoming the best version of yourself.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:01 PM
2

Great advice! Finding a hobby, skill, or second job you can turn into a full-time one is your best bet. No need to trash all the work and success you’ve achieved. It sounds like you enjoy helping people. Maybe a consulting firm?
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:58 PM
1

You answered your own questions within the post. You’re not very good with women yet. It means you have very little options. Therefore, you’re stuck on a girl who dumped you.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:52 PM
2

Why is it important to you? Is this about a specific girl or girls in general?
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:49 PM
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“Morning, I want to see you this (insert day).” Then set up the hang.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:46 PM
2

Everyone has felt this way. You have to cut down the time between seeing a girl and saying hi. If you don’t, you’ll overthink it negatively. Also, you probably care too much about the outcome. Let go and trust in the idea that if you enjoy yourself, then she will too.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:16 AM
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You’re surprised by a women’s time management skills? Meet up and learn some more things she’s probably bad at too. On a serious note, go meet up and have fun. Let the other stuff go.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:06 AM
1

The brutal truth, but the truth nonetheless.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 02:01 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha! We think alike.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 01:10 AM
3

We live in a very weird political and social climate right now. I can understand why you feel this way. Always be respectful when a girl doesn’t want to proceed and you should be fine. By the way, I’m sorry you’re growing up in this situation. The best you can do is ignore the hysteria. It’ll pass someday because it lacks logic and it’s driven by emotion. As soon as people realize this has actually made them unhappier and their relationships suck, they’ll move on.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 03:25 PM
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Go hang and have fun. If you start kissing and it gets heavy, you’ll end up at one of your places. Just enjoy the ride.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:43 AM
2

It’s hard to read. Do you know him and the relationship to the girl? On another note, please keep this girl as a plate only. You stopped talking for a reason.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:19 AM
2

OP, follow this advice. I couldn’t say it any better.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:13 AM
1

Could this affect your business in any way? Does she know it’s a date?
/r/askTRP20/02/18 01:06 AM
1

If you’re trying to improve, there’s no such thing as failure. There are only results. All you do is take in the information and make adjustments. Failure is quitting or doing nothing. I wish my buddy had an account or blog, but he doesn’t. He only learned by doing and he would tell you the same. The big thing that helps me is b coming social with everyone instead of thinking I have to focus on women. The greatest pick up line in the world is saying hi.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 08:19 PM
1

It has nothing to do with your job. In an indirect way, they’re saying, “Your personality and looks aren’t worth sticking around for. What else can you provide me?”
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:44 PM
1

There is so much of life out of your control, but you don’t focus on it. Only focus on what you can improve or change. This is also a recipe for overall happiness and power. There will always be someone better than you at something. Your problem is you think your height and facial hair is the root cause of your problems. It’s your attitude and outlook. It’s a defeatist and victim mentality. You’re no different than saying, “I should never work on getting a good job because people are born into m…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:27 PM
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The messed up part is using the person’s name. You can tell a story for a laugh or whatever without revealing it. People do it all the time. Then it’s not talking shit about a specific person. If you can’t stop saying the person’s name, it’s because you’re insecure and doing it to make yourself look better. You’re nothing better than a woman who gossips.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:10 PM
0

Cameron gave me the best pick up line ever and I’ll share it with you. Hi. If you don’t understand it now, you will later. I’m rooting for you!
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:52 PM
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My buddy is 5’5”, 135lbs. He’s great with women. You can’t minimize your height. You can learn to not care about it. Facial hair is a problem? Stay clean shaven then.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:33 PM
0

My favorite are the first three and a blog by a Cameron Teone. He was one of the original PUA guys with Mystery and Neil Strauss. I met him randomly years ago. He’s a solid dude who probably fits more into Red Pill than PUA. Other than the beginning of “Book of Pook,” I really like it. Rational Male is a very scientific way of saying, “Women fuck up, not down. They’re either attracted because of sexual desire or being a long term provider. Be both.” He’s got some great quotes in there too. No ma…
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:25 PM
1

Look at the positive, it sounds like you’re getting laid on a regular basis. To break out of negative thinking, you need to act by changing your routine or doing something different. As far as girls go, keep approaching.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:13 PM
1

My Favorites: RP Sidebar RP Handbook Book of Pook The Rational Male Read. Internalize. Apply.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:00 PM
2

CBT, meditation, good diet, and hitting the gym worked for me.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 09:15 AM
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OP, follow this guy’s advice. If you don’t, you’re wasting your time here.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 09:08 AM
2

Be direct and ask to get a drink at a specific time and place. You can even ask her to get one after the training is over for the day. You should be able to gauge her interest level. If she says she can’t and offers firm alternative plans or her phone number, she’s interested. If neither of these, she’s not. No matter, go for it. I’m rooting for you!
/r/askTRP19/02/18 09:04 AM
3

Here you go. Red pill is only a metaphor.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 09:24 PM
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Reverse mate guarding is called being red pilled. Don’t give a fuck because he doesn’t care about his girls being around you. Keep learning from him. Surround yourself with winners and one day you’ll be surprised to find out you’re one too.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 08:28 PM
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Do you want to know the truth? If she’s not asking for commitment, she’s not interested in a relationship with you right now. I know she enjoys sex with you because she has sex with you. Actions over words. Does she say one thing and mean another? Possibly. If this is the case, she’ll reach a breaking point and get blunt with you later on by asking some form of, “What are we?” You should have a minimum of two plates going at all times.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 08:22 PM
1

Good for you. Keep it up. Don’t worry about being known as a player. As long as you keep your business to yourself, girls will still flock to you. It’s not a bad thing. It conveys you’re a high value dude. This makes women attracted.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 07:47 PM
4

Online dating is going to result in a high flake ratio. Women, who aren’t even interested in ever meeting up with you, will use it for attention. Try to get offline as quick as possible. If a girl doesn’t want to meet for a drink or coffee, she’s a time waster. The longer you keep messaging her, the worse it is for you. Also, check your pictures. Are they really great shots of you? They should be flattering, convey value and good times.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 07:41 PM
2

Keep trying to hook up. This town, those people, all the yesterdays in the world don’t mean a thing. I’d rather be known as a player, who can keep his mouth shut, than a socially awkward virgin. Also, you’re at an age where you can start lifting. Find people who know they’re doing in there and learn from them. Get big and strong. Excel in school. Be social. And don’t give a passing thought to today. Before you know it, you’ll be in college.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 07:32 PM
0

Are you really attracted to her or are you low on options at the moment? If you’re actually attracted, she gets one more shot to not be weird with you. Text for logistics. Meet up and then escalate. If she’s not having it, be cool and indifferent. Then ghost. On a side note, start talking to other girls. You know, the type that are smiling and wanting to kiss you.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 07:19 PM
1

You didn’t make anyone cheat. Get it out of your head. Women ALWAYS have a choice. She chose to hook up with you. You chose to hook up with her. Own it. You have a few options and either way could end your friendship. The girl doesn’t matter. What do you want to do? Tell your friend Don’t tell your friend
/r/askTRP18/02/18 07:11 PM
1

Thank you for reminding me of “comfort buffer against rejection.”
/r/askTRP18/02/18 06:55 PM
12

Simple plan, don’t engage. Keep it short and sweet.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 06:27 PM
1

Most people think in black and white. Don’t be that person. You can have a real job and pursue something you’re passionate about such as being a comedian. There are 24 hours in a day. Use them. You can always get a good job and quit later. And I can speak from personal experience, women love guys who have full lives.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 05:43 PM
2

Everything the people around here tell you to do involves work. If you’re willing to do it, great. If not, your life will continue as usual. No woman, hooker or otherwise, is going to fix you.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 05:35 PM
1

Find what works for you. Convey your personality by sharing your interests and opinions. This cuts through boring small talk and changes her emotional state.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 05:25 PM
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She’s going to crack at some point. 50% chance she tries to blame you. Respond with, “I could tell something was bothering you. I wanted to give you space.” Don’t fall into her rationalizations or justify your silent treatment. Act oblivious. On some level, you should be already be oblivious because you shouldn’t care if she wants to act like a child and pout.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 05:03 PM
1

Does soft next work to cure the neediness? Yes. Does it make her automatically like you more? No. Go have fun today doing whatever you want and don’t give a second thought to hanging with her. If everything aligns to hang, cool. If not, no problem.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 04:56 PM
1

Your scenarios are bland or involve other people. Why? You’re afraid. Grow a pair and stop trying to come sideways at it. It looks creepy because you’re hiding your real intentions. Text- “Hey there, it’s been awhile. Let’s get a drink this X at X.” See how she responds. Anything other than yes or her offering firm alternative plans means... next!
/r/askTRP18/02/18 01:36 AM
3

Exactly, that’s like being a car salesman and saying only people who ask questions are interested. Approach every person who comes on the lot.
/r/askTRP18/02/18 01:22 AM
1

Ask her to do something fun. Set a time and place. See what happens.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 08:25 PM
3

Yep, I read it and didn’t comment on that part. You want to use a girl and you’re afraid of being used. I can’t help you. Good luck.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 08:22 PM
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I’d stay away from saying, “I’ll change for you.” Tell her you’re sorry if you come as aloof, you just get super busy with work, etc. At this point, I’d tell her you if she wants to talk, great. If she wants to end all communication, you understand. Then go radio silent and see what happens. In the future, remember that women love attention and comfort. Find a balance that works for you and her.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 08:17 PM
4

If a girl seems interesting, approach. Try not to fall into the trap of IOI’s because they can be deceiving. Better to imagine every girl is interested until proven otherwise.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 08:09 PM
1

It sounds like you’re not super attracted to her. Right?
/r/askTRP17/02/18 08:04 PM
7

At no point did I ever read about you two even kissing. As someone once said, “Women have girlfriends and boyfriends. If you’re not fucking her, you’re her girlfriend.” You messed up by not escalating from the start.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 07:59 PM
2

What do you want from this relationship?
/r/askTRP17/02/18 07:55 PM
2

Excuses Oneitis Arm chair philosopher
/r/askTRP17/02/18 07:51 PM
1

Work on yourself and you’ll naturally stop worrying about a lot. Lift heavy, eat a lot, and don’t worry about putting on a little fat. See other girls. Come to realize most of your insecurity is all in your head.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 07:32 PM
4

Read as many posts as well. You’ll see certain behaviors, questions, and answers popping up. If you have a specific question, you can always ask it here.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 07:27 PM
12

I guess anybody who reads this is going to wonder, why couldn’t you get it in? Second, if a girl tells you she’s going to a club, it’s to find new dick. Third, your goal should be to talk and hook up with as many girls as possible in order to get experience. Lastly, early next week, invite her out on Wednesday. If she doesn’t respond or says no without offering new plans, move on. When a girl is interested, you’ll know. She won’t give mixed signals because she’ll be afraid to lose you.
/r/askTRP17/02/18 05:22 PM
1

Cold approach is a cold sales call. Flakes are always going to be high. If you’re successful getting numbers, you’re doing something right. The only thing you can do is build more comfort by cutting through small talk and getting them to talk about stuff they’re passionate about. Then you leave on a high note because “he gets me.”
/r/askTRP17/02/18 04:59 PM
3

I don’t know what to say. It seems you’re going to find or want to find fault with every age demographic. Simple and better question is, what do you want? Where do you see yourself in five years? Remember, nothing is going to be perfect.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 03:21 PM
5

Basically, you want a girl who’s mature enough to handle a serious relationship and young enough to where her body is still on point. I don’t mean this sarcastically, but good luck. At the same time, do what you want. It’s your life. Personally, I think 25-30 year old is the best demographic. By then, you get to see the real them. As far as relationships go, 30-35 years old is pretty much plate only. If a bunch of other guys have passed on marrying her, she’s probably not LTR material.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 03:12 PM
5

I heard about him a long time ago. From what I can gather, he tries his best to take a rational approach and consider all sides of an argument. What people on the Left don’t understand is he probably disagrees with a lot of people on the Right as well.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 04:54 AM
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It’s alright to have thoughts and emotions. You’re right though, it shows more about you than her. Learn from this and what you need to overcome this kind of insecurity. For the love of God though. please don’t share this with her.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 04:45 AM
4

Let her initiate the next text. Set up date. Escalate. Bang. Don’t get hooked on this one. Talk and go out with other girls. Next time, don’t negotiate or tell her your feelings. Say, “Ok.” When a woman breaks the date and doesn’t offer new plans, go radio silent. Wait until she texts you again and sets up a date. She has to chase you.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 04:41 AM
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This is the most heartfelt I’ve seen this commenter be with anyone. OP, follow his lead. He’s giving you solid advice. Every guy hear wants the best for you and we know it’s possible to improve and change in ways we never thought we could. All you have to do is decide you’ve had enough of feeling like shit and you’ll do whatever is needed to change. If it means therapy too, so be it. Good luck dude!
/r/askTRP16/02/18 02:48 AM
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All depends on her interest level.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 02:24 AM
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She lacks any impulse control and is a plate at best. The big question is, what do you want? If you want to continue hooking up, make it clear you don’t want to be exclusive. Once you decide what you want, stick with it. Your emotions shouldn’t be all over the place. No matter what, wrap it up and talk to more girls!
/r/askTRP16/02/18 02:18 AM
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Ask her to hang sometime and then get her number.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 01:53 AM
1

Yep, it’s normal. They’re trying to get you to upgrade their status from plate to LTR. It’s their way of testing your interest level. I’m different than most guys. I’m clear with my intentions. If I want a girl as a FWB, I tell her. This tends to keep girls around longer because they know where I stand.
/r/askTRP16/02/18 01:15 AM
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Move on. You can’t fix the past.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 07:19 AM
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OP, please internalize the comment above. While in college, one of the best PUA’s I’ve ever met was horrible with women. He dedicated himself to becoming a well-rounded human being and now enjoys a pretty awesome life. You can do it too. Always remember there are cool dudes in real life and here who are willing to help. You just have to put in the work. The change will come. I promise you.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 06:53 AM
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It will come with time. It’s like a sense of humor. The funniest people tried a bunch of different ways to be funny and just kept the style that works best for them.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 02:37 AM
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Substitute teaching can be an easy gig. Check charter as well as public schools in your area. I have a friend who makes $190 per day. There’s only one potential road block. Some schools might require you to have your degree. However, they may waive it because you’re going to college. On a side note, keep the bartending gig when you get out of school unless you’re making really good money. Sounds like a solid job and money in the service industry.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 02:32 AM
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When learning game, you model other people’s way of interacting with girls until you internalize it. Then you develop your own style. It’s no different than any other skill. The difference is we call it game for short, other people call it being good with women. Same principles apply no matter what age.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 03:19 PM
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In my opinion, you have to talk to her as if she’s a brand new girl. Don’t reference the past or even at hint because it could conjure up negative feelings such as why it didn’t work the first time around. If she does and wants a reason, I’d blame it on bad timing and move on. On the positive, you should be able to meet up with her quickly. Ask her to hang asap.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 04:32 AM
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Go do 200 approaches and then read some books. Say hi and use a situational opener such as commenting on your surroundings, time of day, location, etc. The reason I’m saying this is because nothing replaces experience. If you want to read books, check out the seduction forum.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 02:18 AM
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Divorce yourself from your their expectations. You’ll probably be surprised to find that one or both actually just want you to be happy. If they don’t want you to live life according to your own rules, then let them be upset. At least you’ll be living your life. And on a side note, the main reason why parents want us to have a regular life is because they hope it brings stability. Most are only trying to look after you so you don’t make a big mistake.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 02:11 AM
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You probably procrastinate because you’re afraid of messing something up. It’s a defensive mechanism against being rejected or anything going wrong. By waiting, you actually do mess it up. Always strike when the iron is hot. Figure out the rest of it later.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 02:07 AM
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I understand the first two, but not the last. Being frugal is a good thing unless you’re really just cheap. Big difference between the two. Think of all the things people do to have a well rounded life. Replace your current problems with them. For example, replace video games with working out.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 03:20 PM
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Someone once told me that you invite her up, “I’m almost ready. Want to come up for a few minutes?” It allows her to see your place and get comfortable being in it. Then you go get drinks, maybe have one venue switch, and then back to your place. Obviously, you have to judge her response to everything. If she wants to wait for a few minutes outside, cool. Personally, I’ve gotten pretty good judging a girl’s emotional state when she first enters my place. If her buying temperature is hot, we migh…
/r/askTRP12/02/18 03:17 PM
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Out of site, out of mind. You never know how people are going to react. At the very least you’ll learn not to date co-workers. Honestly, you’ll be fine. It’s smart to protect yourself though.
/r/askTRP12/02/18 06:57 AM
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Yes, and she hasn’t.
/r/askTRP12/02/18 06:19 AM
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Don’t let her walk all your over you. Politely inform your manager of the situation. They’ll likely understand. If she gets next level crazy, they’ll have already been notified. Believe me, it helps. Women love to gossip because there isn’t any punishment for ruining someone’s reputation. Other than that, pretend like she doesn’t exist. Be stone faced around her and don’t be alone with her ever. Basically, don’t give her any fuel. Block her on everything you. You’ll be fine. Just be smart.
/r/askTRP12/02/18 05:25 AM
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Your life will always be a work in progress. Keep getting laid. Be upfront with your priorities and stick to them. Girls who want to stick around, will do so. And have fun!
/r/askTRP12/02/18 04:49 AM
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Your first line mad me laugh. I pictured him saying, “Hey let’s be friends. You can talk to me about the guy you’re currently fucking and how he’s an asshole. I can show you how much of a doormat I am for your feelings. Do you like ice cream? I fucking love ice cream. Hopefully, this will make you attracted to me.” OP, don’t be this dude ever. Don’t even sub communicate it to her through your actions. Be the guy she wants to bang. Go live your life. Get other girls. If she comes around to you, c…
/r/askTRP11/02/18 10:31 PM
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If social media existed 50 years ago, they would’ve virtue signaled about being a good Christian. There’s a social currency in the likes or retweets. You’ve now seen the mob mentality in action. Use it to screen girls for potential LTR or even plates.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 09:53 PM
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If you grew up with a positive male role model, you would’ve learned this stuff long ago. All the sound advice you hear is stuff you’ve heard before in a different way. Abundance mentality= “More fish in the sea” internalized. Don’t fall for the “I have to become a jerk” to get girls. Women love guys who are indifferent, don’t put them on a pedestal, and can get other girls. They only call them a jerk when they really are one or more than likely, the guy doesn’t want a relationship with them. Re…
/r/askTRP11/02/18 09:44 PM
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Yes, more women and develop standards. They make dating easier. If a girl doesn’t meet them for a LTR, put her in plate status forever. This means you don’t do boyfriend stuff with her. Every time I’ve had a rocky relationship it’s because I ignored red flags. The other ones ended only because we wanted different things. The red flag girls are still unmarried. The other ones have families. Once again, do you think her red flags are deal breakers? If so, add them to a list of deal breakers or red…
/r/askTRP11/02/18 09:01 PM
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You’re negotiating in your head because you don’t have better options. Are the red flags deal breakers or things you can accept? We all have flaws.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 08:29 PM
2

Move on to something else quickly.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 07:45 PM
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I talk myself out of approaching some girls and you keep gaming this one. The point is it’s all about our ego. I want to protect mine. You want to boost yours. Either way, we should be talking to other girls, especially the ones waiting for us to say hi.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 07:41 PM
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The root cause is your lack of doing it before. This is something new, it’s scary, and it’s going to take time. Do it 1,000 times and see how you feel. The anxiety will never go away, but it will become more manageable. After awhile, you’ll actually get energy from it.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:51 PM
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She’s giving you a huge green light. Go meet her up. She probably feels more comfortable and safe doing so.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:48 PM
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They say to only text for logistics because it produces better results. If a girl is 51% interested in you, she’ll agree to meet up. I do agree you can have a little back and forth, but it should be short and sweet. Just avoid a text conversation. Maybe an inside joke and/or something that reminds her of meeting you.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:46 PM
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Yes, I’ve developed feelings for a plate. It sucks but it’s always because I’m low on options and I start to overlook the reasons why I don’t see her as LTR material. I’d only cut it off with her if seeing her is going to make you complacent and/or screw with your emotions. No matter what other says, only you can answer this question for yourself.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:30 PM
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If you had been talking to a bunch of other women, you never would’ve posted this question. You would’ve moved on.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 06:18 PM
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Are you asking them to come over to your place without meeting somewhere else beforehand?
/r/askTRP11/02/18 05:14 PM
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I see something similar posted here every once in awhile. It’s more a reflection of your mindset than women. Basically, what you’re really asking is if there’s a chance a girl would cheat or leave Mr. Perfect, what shot do you have? If you’re not Mr. Perfect, than what’s the point of improving or even trying because she’ll definitely leave or cheat on you. Am I right? I hope this helps and it stays with you. Most of life is out of your control. The people who improve and enjoy their lives focus …
/r/askTRP11/02/18 05:11 PM
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Confidence is built by doing something over and over. A good example is going to the gym. I walk in the first day and can only bench 100lbs for 10 reps. If the goal was to bench 200lbs, I failed. Did I really though? At the very least, I started. It’s only my negative thoughts telling me “I’m a failure. I should quit. I’ll never bench 200lbs for 10 reps.” For the next three chest workouts, I can only bench 95lbs. Wtf?! Now I’m starting to regress. Am I really or are my muscles getting used to be…
/r/askTRP11/02/18 04:30 PM
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In your DNA is a hunter, a leader of men, and a risk taker. Your true nature is being obscured by socialization and self-limiting beliefs. Alpha isn’t a state or skill. It’s who you really are deep down. Just my opinion though.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 10:53 PM
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Her interest level is low. Game other girls and when you see her be cool. If she asks to hang, great. If not, don’t ask.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 10:38 PM
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Of course, she has to live with the consequences of her actions. At the same time, who cares? It’s about you brother. You now have time to really work on yourself and enjoy your life in different ways. You’re in pain and you’re hoping she has some as well. If she has pain, then it makes you feel better because it meant your relationship had meaning. You have to let go of the idea that she’s thinking about you or the relationship. It doesn’t matter because her actions showed you how much her feel…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 09:43 PM
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I can completely relate to this, but substitute alcohol for weed. It’s amazing when you cut stuff out of your life. The process can be slow at times, but you’ll change in a lot of positive ways.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:24 PM
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Dude, I guess I read your post incorrectly. My bad. I thought the original plan was to hang with her. Then she asked you to play a game with her brother and stated she didn’t really want to have sex. Apparently it was supposed to be a sex hang from the start and she was altering the planes completely. Yeah, I get why you would be upset now and it’s better to reschedule by saying you want her all to yourself and being cool about it.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:20 PM
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He means you either really want to go or you really don’t want to go. Either way, be decisive.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:10 PM
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You lucky man. Think of all the guys still in shitty relationships and you’re free. Free! Trying to figure out a woman’s mind is pointless. The things you can work is the stuff in your control. Read the Red Pill Sidebar, Red Pill Handbook, and Book of Pook to start. Branch swinging is more common with woman because they fear being alone and not getting attention. It’s weird to us because most men like to be alone.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:09 PM
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Exactly, get her to your place. No need to go out. She’s a potential plate and nothing more.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 08:02 PM
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You didn’t do anything wrong so act like it. The more cool you are about it, the better. One will probably pursue you.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 07:58 PM
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I feel you. It’s why it’s important to find what your naturally good at and what you enjoy. When those two lines cross, you’ll be a happy person. Also, ask yourself how materialistic are you? If so, I would just avoid becoming a social worker. You’ll be unhappy with the money you make.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 06:53 PM
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Fix yourself. Either cut out the behaviors or go to therapy to resolve them. In the long run, they’ll get you nowhere but alone.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 06:48 PM
2

Server in a high end restaurant and bartender.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 06:43 PM
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I’m not sure, but I bet engineering and anything medical are your best bets. Most importantly, find something you’re naturally good at and enjoy.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 06:40 PM
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I would go and and hang out with them. I’d try to get laid too. If she shuts you down, smile, say no worries and leave. Honestly though, I bet you have sex. A woman can get turned on quick and change her mind.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 06:30 PM
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Women say the same thing about men. They fear they’ll lose you because you’ll go after the younger, hotter girl. Became a well-rounded man and you won’t give a shit about hypergamy. Why? You’ll just go get more girls. You won’t settle either.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:50 PM
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Read “Conquer Your Campus” by Mark Redman. I haven’t, but I’ve heard it’s good. College is all about social circles. Have a bunch. Fraternities help as do clubs, including theater and political ones. I bet there’s a hip hop group. Join it. Looks matter a lot in college. Lift weights. Dress well. Also, when you go to parties, dance. You have no idea how much I got laid by dancing and slowly escalating on the dance floor. And don’t forget to study your ass off in a major that can generate income w…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:41 PM
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I’m guessing you’re trying to find a happy medium between saying “Ok” and a wall of text. There isn’t a perfect line to help her change her mind. She’s either attracted to you or not. You can always hit her up a week later and see what happens. Most guys find it doesn’t work, but I guess it’s always worth trying. More than likely you’ll probably find this behavior turns a woman off even more. When you reply with, “Ok, no problem” you leave the door open because you sub-communicated your value. A…
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:31 PM
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What do you want? List it at the top of a page. Underneath list all the things you’ll have to do or you think you’ll have to do to reach it. Start the list. Also, it sounds like you might be looking at things for an excessively negative viewpoint. I really dislike how TRP makes some men feel life and women are broken. Thus, life will suck and relationships will as well. You should feel the opposite because knowledge is power. It’s a cheat code for life.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 05:09 PM
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Start with the most important and things you want to do the least. It takes awhile to get used to but you’ll soon enjoy it because the day actually becomes easier.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 03:57 AM
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I do as well sometimes. I remind myself not to confuse sex with a real connection. Also, why did I keep it casual to begin with? It’s because she’s not LTR material for me.
/r/askTRP09/02/18 03:14 PM
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Red Pill Sidebar Red Pill Handbook Book of Pook If you read and internalize these three, you’ll be doing better than 80% of the men who post on here.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 03:18 PM
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“I think we’re on the same page. I’m only looking for something casual. Let’s still meet. I know we can some fun.”
/r/askTRP08/02/18 03:02 PM
2

I’d only add in hobbies and the gym. Solid advice man!
/r/askTRP08/02/18 06:52 AM
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Better to vent here than to her. Soft next. If or when she reaches out, make plans. You’re already on the right path by going after other girls. I know I can get lazy once I have three plates.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 01:51 AM
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Whatever works for you. I’m honest when I don’t want anything serious and I find most girls are cool with it. The women I hook up with like it because I’m not leading them on. For me, it’s been great because we continue to hook up sometimes over a long period. I have FWB going back 10 years. When it’s a girl I want something more from, I don’t have the FWB conversation. Clearly, you don’t have to follow my lead. I think the idea of not manipulating women still holds. Build a life instead of skil…
/r/askTRP08/02/18 01:26 AM
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I only text for logistics at the start. The closer we get, we’ll start sending more things to each other. It happens naturally. I avoid long text chats because I find them pointless.
/r/askTRP07/02/18 03:16 PM
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Men and women with low value manipulate. People with high value build a life worth living. When your time has value, you won’t waste it. This will be sub-communicated through your actions. If you turn to manipulation, it’s no better than the PUA’s who develop a routine to pick up a girl. By date number two, the women find out the man is a fraud because he’s empty on the inside. A great example can be a man telling a woman he only wants to see her as a FWB. He’s straight forward and risks having …
/r/askTRP07/02/18 03:13 PM
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Please listen to the guys telling you to treat her like a plate and nothing more. If you do, she’ll continue to hook up with you. If you express feelings, she’ll stop contacting you. Ex’s or even FWB will continue to get in-touch with you if you’re cool and good in bed. I promise.
/r/askTRP07/02/18 04:21 AM
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Good point, but you can also minimize the crazy. First time you have sex you should be sober. If she mentions how every guy uses her or is an asshole, run. Check her social media. If she’s an SJW type, tread lightly if at all.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 07:49 AM
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You’re on the right path, write something that’s congruent with you. If you actually do you want to bake cupcakes, even better. If you guys screw them up, at least you’ll have a good story to tell.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 07:46 AM
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Every girl who has said something similar to me wanted to hook up immediately, but wanted to be reassured they weren’t a one off. Most girls fall into this group. Reassure them by saying something, “Take a chance and find out. I promise it’ll be worth it.” The second group wanted to put themselves on a pedestal and make me work a bit. If I sensed that they were in this group, I bolted. Being with them was never worth the work.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 07:21 AM
2

Anybody on the fringe of society is the same way. They’re all cut from the same cloth. Dumb cuts through all walks of life, gender, race, and political leanings.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 04:27 AM
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You’re saying they respond initially, but no matter what you say they go cold. Correct? Sample text- “I had a good time hanging with you. Come over tonight.” Seriously man, if they ALL go cold, their interest level is super low. It’s you and not the texting. If a girl wants to see you again, she’ll fuck you on a pile of used Taco Bell napkins.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 04:23 AM
2

Nice guys desperately want to be heroes. They inherently believe the world is black and white. This combines with their inability to do anything good for themselves because being male is inherently toxic. This self-fulfilling prophecy robs them off their masculinity and actually makes them less attractive to women. They can’t see it because the world they live in can only reinforce their deep seeded beliefs. They will forever be alone and will never wake up to the fact that it’s all their fault.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 04:08 AM
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I thought bowling was a dumb idea. Then I saw this post. Listen to this guy!
/r/askTRP06/02/18 03:57 AM
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! Perfect answer!
/r/askTRP06/02/18 03:53 AM
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Figure out your questions later. They don’t matter right now and honestly the probably never will. What matters is what you want from her. Trying to figure her out is useless. What you want will dictate your behavior.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:35 AM
1

Learn to screen better for crazy.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:46 AM
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If you’re hooking up this much and girls aren’t texting back, there’s something else you’re doing wrong and it probably has nothing to do with texting.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:36 AM
1

Answer- keep living a full life and seeing other women
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:30 AM
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If I’m reading this right, you lost your virginity. Congrats. Meet more girls. Tell her you like hanging with her, but you’re not looking for anything serious. Only meet to have sex.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:29 AM
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I was thinking the same thing... ha. Hope OP doesn’t have a kid, “I know Trevor is five years old, but it’s been two weeks. I think he might be missing. Let me ask Reddit how I should proceed.”
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:26 AM
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You uploaded a video of you lifting and then complain about a woman seeking attention from her pics. Please tell me you see the hypocrisy. Your job is to have fun and hook up. Let time dictate everything else.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 01:21 AM
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I know you’re going through a lot. It’s the reason for the long response. Hope it helps!! She saved you a lot of time, money, and heartache in the future. Block her on everything and move on. You’ll notice as you improve yourself, the quality of women will improve as well. She probably had a ton of red flags, but you ignored them because you didn’t have many other options. It’s very easy to confuse scarcity, jealousy, etc for real feelings. Here’s a summary of “The Rational Male.”- Women fuck up…
/r/askTRP05/02/18 05:07 PM
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In a calm manner, tell her why you’re upset. If needed flip the script, and put her in your shoes to show her how you feel. Ask her how she would react? Judge her reaction. If she doesn’t seem to care, demote. By the way, if I was dating a girl exclusively and she went around blabbing about my business, I’d have serious trust issues going forward.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 04:35 PM
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Their hobby is their body. Everything in their life is geared around it. Three times a week for an hour is the most I can put in before i start to lose time in other areas of my life.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 04:30 PM
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Context is key. How long ago did it happen? Does she show remorse? Did she learn anything from it? If you can’t say yes to the last two, she’s not LTR material. She’ll probably cheat on you. Quality people you want in your life make mistakes. The difference is the they learn and grow from them. Other people don’t.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 04:27 PM
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This isn’t about her as much as it’s about you. As long as she isn’t bringing drama or STD’s into your life, she’s cool. She even suggested threesomes. What’s the problem? Go have some fun. Go for anal! Also, human beings are human beings. She isn’t a bag of trash and your mindset will get you nowhere but miserable. Also, you talk about her like she’s your girlfriend. She didn’t cheat on you. For some reason, you feel like she did. What does it show to you? On some level, every guy has been in a…
/r/askTRP05/02/18 03:00 PM
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What are your goals and hobbies? You’ll find new friends there.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 03:07 AM
2

Find guys who are on the same path of self-improvement. Cuts out rift raft. I suffer from anxiety and depression as well. A lot went away when I cut out drinking. The rest I had to do myself with eating and sleeping well, gym, CBT, and meditation.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 02:35 AM
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Hey brother man, it sounds like you needy take care of your mental health first. If you do, I promise everything will improve. If you think I’m in error, totally cool. It’s hard to give advice with only the info given.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 01:39 AM
3

Congrats on getting back out there! Hug.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 12:13 AM
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Confidence comes from doing something over and over. Nothing you read or watch is going to change it. It’s like trying to think yourself into a fit body. You just have to do it.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 12:11 AM
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Some will tell you to plow through it, but I’d bail. Any girl who’s interested in me, even if she has a boyfriend, doesn’t mention him until after we hook up. She might have changed her mind, but the thought of cheating on her boyfriend is there. She’s probably going to sooner than later. I would’ve texted back, “Happens to the best of us. When your feelings change, let me know.” It’s very open ended. At this point, radio silence. She might hit you back up later when she dumps or wants to cheat …
/r/askTRP04/02/18 11:14 PM
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Hook up=sex Good luck on your journey. Stay positive because negativity will get you nowhere.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 09:21 PM
1

When I was in college, I hooked up with a lot of girls. I didn’t know what I was doing. I just did it. My big thing was going to parties and bars. I’d hook up or get a number. Then later on, if we had hooked up, I’d invite them over to my place. If only a number, I’d meet up at a bar for a drink and see what happens. I never treated a FWB like a girlfriend. Hook up only or maybe go to a bar or club and that’s it. If she wanted to have a talk about us, I was upfront. This meant those girls never …
/r/askTRP04/02/18 09:07 PM
2

Overthinking kills the approach. Just say hi.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 08:54 PM
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If they laugh, it’s a joke. If they don’t, it’s you just talking.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 07:32 PM
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Keep your private life private. Other than a few close friends, nobody needs to know your business. Be upfront with girls. Make sure you’re congruent with your actions and words. When you can, move off campus.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 07:30 PM
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Jesus! Ha! Sorry man. This sounds like you might have to screenshot everything, tell her to never contact you again, and then block her completely. Crazy can only keep it hidden for a short period of time. When the cracks start to show, it’ll only get worse. I wouldn’t even demote her to plate... 71 missed calls... wow. It’s alright to calmly talk to someone about their behavior. If you did so, her reaction is a great indicator of what you have on your hands. Proceed with caution and look out fo…
/r/askTRP04/02/18 07:17 PM
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As everyone has said, party girls are great short term and nothing else. You can’t change or expect someone to change. You can change yourself though. If you had another girl of the same caliber who didn’t party at all and took care of her body, would you date her instead? I think I know the answer. The problem isn’t her, it’s with you accepting the fact she’s probably not nor will she ever be LTR material. Start seeing other women.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 04:32 PM
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From what I’ve been told, flaking is really high with online dating. Women love attention the way men love sex. The reason is because the attention a woman receives soothes her ego. If you’re going to hit her up, I’d wait until Tuesday. See what happens. If she doesn’t meet up a second time, next her. Also, a small town is tricky to date in. How many women are you meeting IRL? Tinder or Bumble should be an accessory to it. Plus it could open social circle and potential to meet new friends and gi…
/r/askTRP04/02/18 04:18 PM
4

Both and no matter what they want to know they’re with a man.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 06:18 AM
7

I’ve had girls try the jealousy game too. Agree&Amplify. Shuts it down. Good job at not getting jealous. Jealousy is for men with low SMV.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 02:57 AM
2

When I quit drinking it took awhile for me to feel normal. I know it’s different, but your body is recalibrating. You’ll be fine. Just keep doing what you’re doing.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 02:52 AM
9

It’s simple. Escalate by going for a kiss. If she rejects, then so do you. You’ll know pretty much instantly.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 12:52 AM
1

Go back and forth a bit with her. If you want to see her, ask to meet up.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 05:29 PM
3

http://attractwomenanywhere.com/blog/starter-guide/
/r/askTRP03/02/18 03:25 AM
2

She’ll let you know. If you call or text, you’ll come off as needy and insecure. No girl wants to be with that type of guy.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:54 AM
2

Yep and it’s going to drive you crazy trying to figure it out. The only thing you can control is improving your life. It sounds counterintuitive, but it works.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:45 AM
2

Your texting was a a little too much, but not a big deal. If she wants to hang, she’ll let you know. Next time, text only for logistics. If she’s into you, she’s probably nervous due to her inexperience. If she’s not into you, you’ll find out by her actions.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:36 AM
1

Don’t worry about it. From here on out, lead, lead, lead.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:27 AM
8

Don’t call or text her. Wait. Let her actions decide on how to proceed. In the meantime, start thinking of something to do on Saturday that doesn’t involve her.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:21 AM
2

For me it all started when I read Cameron Teone’s blog years ago. Still great stuff. He’s more advanced than most PUA in his understanding of not only women but being a well rounded man. He would fit in perfectly with Red Pill stuff nowadays.
/r/askTRP03/02/18 12:11 AM
5

In my experience, I have never known a women who can keep a secret. You’ll find out the truth, in some manner, eventually. In the meantime, trust your gut and let time prove you right or wrong. Slowly withdraw your attention, work on yourself, and see how she reacts. This is also a great time to become more social. It helps keep you sharp. If a woman’s behavior sucks, I address it calmly and move on. In your situation I like to flip the script, “If I hung out with another girl at her place to wa…
/r/askTRP02/02/18 03:24 PM
2

Listen how to people talk about and treat others. Also, listen to how they talk about their past.
/r/askTRP02/02/18 06:46 AM
3

If you were 6’, you would complain you aren’t 6’2”. All the great advice here will continue to feel like it’s a step away from being lies unless you decide to take responsibility for the things you can change. If you don’t, you’ll keep pointing the finger at something for the reasons you don’t have women or a life worth living.
/r/askTRP01/02/18 03:19 PM
3

OP, every line of this comment should be internalized and put into action.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 03:19 PM
5

I’ve had girls give me strong IOI’s and then flake. Then I’ve had girls who didn’t seem very interested at all, hook up. Actions matter and not their words. If their buying temp is really hot though, it’s a done deal. The only thing you can do is look at your behavior and ask, is this a common pattern? If you would’ve said this happened after 100 girls, then yes. Anything less and there just isn’t enough data to draw conclusions. If I told you for the rest of your life, you’re going to sleep wit…
/r/askTRP31/01/18 03:16 PM
3

The fact you’re cold approaching means you’re putting yourself into a position to succeed. Don’t stop doing it. In fact, set a goal per day. It’s all about numbers. Cold approach is exactly what it implies, a cold sell. The success rate is going to be lower than from your social circle. You’re going to get more flakes. Why? Lack of comfort and social proof. Keep talking to as many women as possible. Keep getting better.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 02:57 PM
5

Women can only go so long without commitment the same way a guy can only so long without sex. She hasn’t seen you express interest through actions or words to let her know you want more. She may or may not have meet someone. It doesn’t matter. She wants more and wants a guy who’s on the same page. What do you want from her?
/r/askTRP31/01/18 04:36 AM
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Don’t message her. Let her contact you. Even if she does, she’s a plate at best.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 02:12 AM
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Develop hobbies outside of video games- the more social they are the better. Higher education- almost every profession requires additional schooling. What do you enjoy and where do your natural talents lie? Find out where those two intersect. Social life- meet new people, both men and women. Not only will you have more fun, your social skills will improve.
/r/askTRP30/01/18 03:19 PM
1

Great advice.
/r/askTRP30/01/18 03:11 PM
1

If she’s interested, she’ll respond eventually. Don’t worry or think too much about it. In the meantime, talk to other women and enjoy your life.
/r/askTRP30/01/18 03:03 PM
7

She got the text. Wait.
/r/askTRP30/01/18 06:48 AM
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For the same reason you want a 10 with a motherly instinct.
/r/askTRP30/01/18 04:25 AM
2

She’s popular, knows it, and looks at you and the other guys as easy to figure out. Thus low SMV. She’s on a pedestal and needs to be knocked off it in a playful way. Stop playing into her frame. Make her qualify to you. Women want to be with and lead by a man. Refer to her as a child or bratty younger sister in a playful way. Her: “You are so easy(to figure out).” You(sarcastically): “Oh kids nowadays.” Bonus points if you can tap her on top of the head. Actions speak louder than words. Talk to…
/r/askTRP29/01/18 03:34 PM
1

Do you remember the old saying, talk is cheap? Apply it to this situation. At some point, you’re going to have to ask her out. Instead of trying to keep the conversation going for who knows how long, set a place and time.
/r/askTRP29/01/18 03:16 PM
2

Start small. Say hello to a bunch of people and ask them how their day is going. Guys who are really good at talking to women are usually very good at talking to women as well. Be social and smile.
/r/askTRP29/01/18 03:11 PM
1

Consistency is the most important aspect to improving any area of your life. You’re under no obligation to do SS or any other program. Feel free to switch it up when you’re getting bored. I’m guessing that’s every 3-4 months. It’s no different than doing anything else.
/r/askTRP29/01/18 03:07 PM
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The biggest problem is people never develop a life or the skills necessary to attract and keep what they want. Because they don’t, their options are limited. Then a guy marries one of the first women who touches his dick and wonders why he’s unhappy, he cheats or she does, and the sex is next to none. This might help you get rid of the idea of Red Pill this or that. Everything you’ll read over and over works. It’s not based on manipulation but becoming a better man. The phrasing might be differe…
/r/askTRP29/01/18 01:47 AM
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Nobody here is ever going to tell you that you must sleep with random women. You have to decide what makes you happy. No matter what your goals are, all the principles apply.
/r/askTRP29/01/18 01:04 AM
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This is asktrp, not telltrp. Do you have a question or just venting?
/r/askTRP29/01/18 12:40 AM
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Manipulation?! Men and women manipulate when they have nothing left because they don’t offer real value, think low SMV. Instead of manipulation and creating drama, create a life where women are vying for your attention. As far as she goes, cut bait as soon as the cons outweigh the pros. This also means cutting it off if you know it zaps your motivation to pursue other girls. Sounds like you’re ready to cut it off. Go meet new women.
/r/askTRP29/01/18 12:31 AM
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What’s your actual question? We’re guys just trying to help other guys.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 11:47 PM
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I don’t know what to say because you seem committed to figuring out your place in the “dominance hierarchy.” I’ve hung with one of best PUA in the world. He only cared about getting better by focusing on things in his control. Hope it helps.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 11:40 PM
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I’d decline by saying, “I can’t, but thank you.” She probably thinks you’re dating because you go out on dates instead of only hooking up. It sends a mixed message. I might be one of the few people on here who thinks honesty is the best policy. I’ve noticed most girls respond positively to a FWB conversation. It sets boundaries and it doesn’t end poorly down the road. A lot of the time, we hook up a year or two later.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 11:31 PM
2

Awesome, please share your diet, macros, and workout. I’m 6’ and 185lbs like the OP.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 11:03 PM
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Be honest or or string her along for the sex, it’s your choice. This is going to end either way. How do you want to feel about it long term? Only you can answer that question.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 09:37 PM
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Why do you have to demote her to a plate? If she knows you’re busy, be honest with her. Tell her your time is limited. Tell her how you see it going and how you know you can’t provide as much time as you want. Let her decide if she wants to stay or leave. Honestly, sounds like you really don’t care about her as an LTR. As you said, you want someone to bang and complain to about your day. If you did care, your post would be titled, “Best way to keep a LTR going when you’re busy.” Be prepared for …
/r/askTRP28/01/18 09:13 PM
1

Cool. If your date was last night, I’d text her tomorrow with the same one you wrote in your post. By the way, sorry to hear about your thyroid problems. Hopefully it get solved sooner than later.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 09:03 PM
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You have to pick one. It’s going to be impossible to do both unless you do steroids. Look at even top level bodybuilders. They get fat in the off season and lean out only for competition. If you want to look like Julian Edelman, you have to eat a lot. Get to 215lbs and then cut.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 09:01 PM
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Everybody will tell you not to mess with co-workers, but since you are... Why not wait until Monday when you see her? You can say the same thing in person as you would with a text. You’ll also be able to judge her reaction.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 08:26 PM
3

What are your goals?
/r/askTRP28/01/18 08:22 PM
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I think it would be good for you to look at successful men and then try to emulate them. There’s no point in trying to figure out where you stand in a social hierarchy. I’ve never done it and so far, I’m doing pretty well for myself. I’m only being me. What you hear around here are all the ways to improve yourself so you can become the best you. Your best self is fulfilling your potential. Not sitting on your ass and pointing the finger at society, “Women should want to have sex with me when I’m…
/r/askTRP28/01/18 07:25 PM
1

Look at every before and after picture of a man who’s lost weight. 99.9% of the time they always look better. Haircut, clothes, and even facial hair are easy to fix. Time to put in some work and change your lifestyle. If you don’t change, the improvement will be minimal.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 07:11 PM
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You don’t know if she’s using you or wants you because you didn’t go. It’s how you find out. In my experience, I’ve never had a girl text me late at night to get drunk with her because she wants to use anything but my cock.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 07:05 PM
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I’ve said to a bunch of girls when we’re at someone’s place, “I want to kiss you, but there’s too many people around.” She’ll let you know her interest level. They usually follow me to a more private place like a bathroom. We probably won’t disappear into there, but kiss outside to keep up appearances.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 06:50 PM
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Jealousy sub communicates a lot. Why is he insecure? Low on options. Why is he low on options? Because he’s not desired by other women. Why is he not desired by other woman? He’s not a real man who can protect her and their offspring. It’s alright to feel these emotions. It’s a bad move to act on them. Instead point the finger at yourself and ask, “Why is this affecting me?” It shows more about you than her. Let it go or move on.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 06:38 PM
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If they’re agreeing and you’re having sex, you don’t have a problem. Women want to be desired. It’s fine because it sounds like you’re not chasing her by over investing, being needy, or becoming a text buddy. Keep fucking them silly and making your time together feel special. If she really likes you, the tables will turn.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 06:05 PM
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I’ve never cheated because if I still want to hook up with other girls, I don’t get into a LTR. I’m also upfront with my intentions. If I only want a plate, I tell them. Then it’s their choice to stick around or not. Most do for awhile. A lot say, “Thank you for being honest.” To me having an abundance mentality in a relationship has more to do with having the ability to walk than actually hooking up with other girls. I don’t put up with bullshit or drama because I can get other girls. I’m also …
/r/askTRP28/01/18 05:28 PM
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Yep. It’s usually because I fell into the the trap of not talking to other girls when other plates fell and overlooking all the reasons why I didn’t think she was LTR material from the start. It made me think we had something.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 05:16 PM
2

Go chat with a therapist. If you have insurance, they’re usually cheap. If you do therapy in conjunction with meditation every day, you’re going to see results. Look at it like going to the gym. Progress might be slow, but the change will happen.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:49 PM
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Your attention is the compliment.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:23 PM
2

Great advice. Also, think of how many women’s movies are made about sexual repression. When they make movies about male sexual repression it’s because they’re gay. Go bang and give these women the dirty, little secret they crave!
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:19 PM
1

Exactly. Keep trying to bang until one of you doesn’t want to anymore.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:13 PM
1

I don’t go to clubs or bars. There are literally women all around you. Most of mine come from my social circle. One is my job and another is a hobby of mine. Good looking is subjective. A great example is a woman who has a 6 face and a 10 body. She has a 10 body because she take care of herself, eats well, and hits the gym. If you add in an awesome personality, she beats an 8 most days of the week. You can’t focus on things out of your control. Focus on all the things you can change. When you do…
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:07 PM
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The post should be titled, “Excuses and Justifications.” Just kidding man. If you’re not gonna put yourself out for your heart, do it for your dick. The only regret I have with women is not saying hi to more of them. You’re taking an analytical approach to your situation. Let go and go with it. If you don’t, you’ll regret it. I’m a busy guy as well, but I still found the time to cold approach a few women this week and have sex with two plates. If I can do it, so can you.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 06:15 AM
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My favorite one of late is, “rejection is better than regret.”
/r/askTRP28/01/18 05:53 AM
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The only way of changing is when the pain of staying the same finally outweighs the pain of change. You’ll never get over the fear. It’s impossible. You’ll just care less about it. Ask a stand up comic how they get onstage in front of so many people. They’ll tell you it takes five nights a week and multiple sets in a night to learn how to be comfortable with it. Talking to women is no different. Just go say hi.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:37 AM
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Glad I could make you laugh!
/r/askTRP28/01/18 04:10 AM
3

Exactly!
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:54 PM
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This post is the complete antithesis of the TRP. We’re not here because we want to inflict pain on others by manipulation. We’re here to help each other get better as men and thus making women’s lives better as well. Someone asked about investment tips recently. Nobody responded with, “I know some ways to screw people out of their money.” You might want to seek professional help. At the very least, take a break from dating and hurting women until you get your head sorted out.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:53 PM
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Agree and amplify. It comes off as sarcastic and witty. Most of the time, it’s the only one you need to know. Google it.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:36 PM
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What’s your end game? Sounds like you enjoy sex with her. If you’re ready to nuke it, respond with, “Let’s discuss this matter in my bed. Come over.” She’ll either get angry, horny, or ghost you. Either way, you get what you want, sex or closure. If you want to hook up later, don’t respond. Let her boomerang. By then, you can decide if you even want to keep hooking up with her. Either way, I doubt you’ll keep her as a FWB. Both men and women have a hard time going backwards in status.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:17 PM
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I’ve had girls, who I ended up hooking up with, say some dumb shit too. Judge actions, not words. You did well by making a joke about it and asking her out. You can see where she stands. Proceed from there.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 10:00 PM
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One attracts them through their resources and long term stability. The other through raw desire. Be both.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 09:53 PM
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Have you ever heard of a guy complaining how his big, muscular body is turning women off?
/r/askTRP27/01/18 09:46 PM
2

Guys who get laid in frats are the same kind who can laid without one. It can only bolster status. Thus increasing your opportunities/options. A frat gives you immediate social proof. Why? First, they had to select you. Second, their rep becomes part of yours. Choose wisely. As far as picking one, listen to girl’s talk. I remember overhearing a girl first semester freshman year saying, “You have to get to that frat party early because so many girls show up there.” I decided to rush them. I could…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 09:42 PM
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You’re 18. Keep getting bigger. You could easily get to 200lbs in the next two years. I’m 6’. When I was 18, I went from 185 to 215 from powerlifting. Girls didn’t ask about my abs. They asked if I was on the football team. You seem to have two different goals right now. It’s hard to do both without steroids. Pick one.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 09:24 PM
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Better question, how does figuring this out help you improve your life?
/r/askTRP27/01/18 09:14 PM
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You don’t need to explain anything to anybody. If someone asks if you want X, respond with, “No, thanks. I’m good.” Then move on to a different subject. If people are always pestering you, that’s weird and I’d look at your own behavior as well. I’m a former fat guy and drunk. Nobody ever pesters me. A girl I know, who used to have a drinking problem, likes to give long winded answers when she declines a drink. Then complains about people asking her about it. I’m like, “You made it a big deal.” H…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 08:47 PM
1

Former drunk here. When we get sober, we can a tendency to think life is going to somehow get perfect. Life is life. We have no control over most of happens. Now we’re sober, we only have a better chance of being fully present and being able to make better decisions. When I was a year into sobriety, I didn’t get a job I wanted. The pain was indescribable. It taught me to not put so much weight on things outside of myself to be happy and I can only do my best. You’re feeling empty. The great fuck…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 08:33 PM
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Sounds like she never really wanted to dance with you. She probably only danced with you because she thought you would go away. Then you escalated. She was probably calling you creepy or some variation. Slow it down. When I was younger I would go dance with a girl. If she wanted to dance, I would. If she didn’t, I moved on immediately. I would dance with her awhile and if the dancing became sexual, I would kiss her. Then I would go back dancing, then kiss her again. Teasing out the entire thing.…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 08:12 PM
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Act like it never happened unless she brings it up. If she does, don’t make it a big deal and quickly move on to something else. Doing this will not hurt you. It shows you take responsibility for your actions and are able to move on. I read some of above comments. Real dread is created not as manipulation or playing games, but by having a high SMV. Do you want to spend your life playing head games or building an awesome life? Dread game as manipulation is nothing better than teaching a man a few…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 07:45 PM
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Texting isn’t just for logistics. Behind it all, it’s escalation. If a girl’s down, you know immediately be her reaction. It literally cuts through everything. Obviously, you have to build a little comfort, but that should have been done in person already.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 06:37 PM
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I’m a guy and I would rather not have to sex in a public place. You can’t fault her whatsoever. Yes, you overreacted and believed the most negative thought your mind could muster. If she had been denying you sex over and over, this is called a pattern of behavior. It would indicate problems with her physically or her level of interest. This incident is not even close. If you like her, apologize or completely forget it unless she brings it up. Either way, don’t make a big deal about it.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 06:14 PM
1

CBT and meditation really helped me. CBT makes me realize my negative thoughts aren’t real. Mediation helps me put distance between me and all my thoughts. They become like clouds passing through the sky.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:59 PM
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Why do you want to talk? Unless she wants to have sex, there’s nothing to talk about. You say you became needy around her and look what you’re doing, being needy once again. Stand up for yourself and cancel the meet up. All the time you were going to spend with her, spend on yourself. Go cold approach two girls. Don’t care about the outcome. Get back on it. Literally, there’s no point to dwell on the past because it’ll get you nowhere. It does zero for you. If anything, start reading all the rec…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:56 PM
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I forget the movie, but the line, “he who hesitates, masturbates” sticks with me. So true and funny. Sounds like a proverb.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:46 PM
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Unless she’s older, women have their phone next to them at all times. She’s not responding quickly because you’re low on the priority list, she’s having fun without you, or it’s her version of dread game. How do you think your view of her is different? She’s high on your priority list, you’re not having fun without her, or you’re not the type who plays games. Go live your life my man and stop operating in her world and on her terms. Make your own. When you don’t like something, address it and mo…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:42 PM
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There’s probably something about her you really like and makes her seem different from other girls. You subconsciously put her on a pedestal. Been there, done that. If you want your ego to feel better, don’t make the same mistake with other girls. With her, what do you want? If you want to hook up, ask her to hang sooner than later. If you don’t really care, let it go. Sounds like she’s in your social circle. She’ll come back around.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:09 PM
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Follow this guy’s advice. When in-doubt, escalate. Her reaction will cut through it all.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 04:23 PM
3

I’d also suggest expanding your social circle. This can be done by making new friends or getting involved with hobbies such as doing improv comedy.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 06:31 AM
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If I don’t approach, I always lose. If I approach, I always win. I’ll find out she’s not interested or she’ll give me her number. No matter, I have no regrets.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 06:02 AM
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Logistics=when and where to meet
/r/askTRP27/01/18 05:43 AM
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People have a life or job? Maybe they forget to text you back? Who knows? Trying to figure it out is futile. Go talk to other girls and then hit her up again. At the start, keep it to logistics. For me, the main reason to do so is because if she really wants to hang, she will. If she doesn’t, I don’t become her texting buddy.
/r/askTRP27/01/18 01:03 AM
3

Thank you ha. I was taking about both movies to a friend last night. Both are classics.
/r/askTRP26/01/18 11:26 PM
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Don’t fall into the trap of thinking flirting means anything. Women can dangle the opportunity of sex to get what they want. She hasn’t done anything for you. If you help her, you’re sub-communicating a willingness to trade resources for her desire. Think of Sam Rothstein in Goodfellas. How did it work out for him? Are you going to feel used? How do you think she’ll look at you in the future?
/r/askTRP26/01/18 03:30 PM
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Don’t listen to your ego. If you do, you’ll start to develop fake feelings because of jealousy.
/r/askTRP26/01/18 08:34 AM
1

Starting Strength is a great beginner routine. I did it for the first six months. The only thing I would advise is getting a personal trainer for at least a month. You do heavy compound movements. If you don’t do them right, you can really hurt yourself. A powerlifting personal trainer would probably be the best or even a SS trainer. After six months, my weight was the same, but I literally looked like a different person. Even my face looked better. Right now I switched to an all dumbbell routin…
/r/askTRP26/01/18 05:01 AM
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My bad, I misread the original post. Follow this guy’s advice. If she’s interested, she’ll get a hold of you. The ball is in her court.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 11:49 PM
1

Priorities Over You: 1. School 2. Friend-look back at what you wrote. She doesn’t have firm plans with her. If she did, she would have said, “Hanging with my friend, but I want to see you. Let’s get together at X.” When a girl is highly interested, she’ll make sure to see you or at least make solid plans. This is a fact. I would only text her, “Cool, let’s met at X at X this Sunday.” If she doesn’t offer alternative plans, soft next her. If she’s interested, she’ll get a hold of you. I promise. …
/r/askTRP25/01/18 05:20 PM
1

Context is completely left out of your post. What she said vs why she said it are very different depending on the situation. Maybe elaborate?
/r/askTRP25/01/18 02:45 AM
1

Some people throw around AWALT because they suck with women and need someone to blame because they sure as hell aren’t going to point the finger at themselves. Others do it because AWALT is true and they need to be reminded so they don’t go, “I think I found a unicorn.” I try to make sure I stay away from becoming part of the first group.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 01:15 AM
2

I heard someone once say, you can’t think yourself into right action, but you can act yourself into right thinking. Do something different that involves thinking about others instead of yourself. You need to feel part of instead apart from people.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 01:05 AM
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Girls who aren’t LTR material are sometimes very good at manipulation. They’ll do things to make you overlook their red flags. Don’t do it. The easiest way to keep your head clear is to have other women in your life.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 05:20 PM
1

Exclusive sounds like you had the talk. If you did, then she cheated. If you didn’t have the talk, you were seeing her exclusively and you were her plate. The only thing you’re doing right is not contacting her. When you see her again, be warm and friendly. In the future, keep gaming other women until she brings up exclusivity. Then it’s up to you to decide what you want. Also, ego can be a bad thing. Your dick doesn’t have an ego. You do. Make sure to keep it in check. If not, you cockblock you…
/r/askTRP24/01/18 03:16 PM
2

I’ve heard people say to quickly flip it by answering and then asking her the same question. A woman can ask this for multiple reasons. It all depends her personality and context. I’ve only had women do it because they wanted to get to know me more or they’re superficial.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 02:07 AM
4

Women manufacture drama. Men do it by living a full life. Real and natural drama is created when you have hobbies, a good social life, and goals. She’s competing for your attention and time. This also occurs when you’re hanging with a few girls.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 01:54 AM
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You already know the answer, friendly small talk and keep it short. She doesn’t matter anymore. What does matter is how you’re working on yourself. Are you talking to other girls? I hope so because doing that and failing is still more productive than dwelling on an past. I know this from personal experience. It got me nowhere.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 01:42 AM
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Long term: index funds Short term: who knows
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:29 AM
2

Jealousy is only felt when you’re not living or enjoying your life and you have very little options. Which one is it? I know if I was seeing three quality women, I wouldn’t even think about what happened last year, let alone high school. Sounds like you’re in a rut. What’s in your control? Work on that.
/r/askTRP23/01/18 03:16 PM
1

A lot of plates and ex-gfs will boomerang given enough space, time, and you being cool. Emphasis on the last part. You basically told her to get out of your life when she did nothing wrong. If a girl told me what you said to her, I’d probably never contact her again. The response doesn’t match the situation. Also, when you’re only seeing one girl, you’re seeing her exclusively whether you think she’s a plate or not. You have to see multiple girls or at least be talking to girls all the time. If …
/r/askTRP23/01/18 03:04 PM
2

Focus on the things in your control. The rest doesn’t matter because you can’t do anything about it. To prove a point, are you going to play in the NBA? Nope and I bet you don’t care either. You’ve accepted your natural talent level. Instead you focus on other things.
/r/askTRP23/01/18 01:37 AM
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A plate is someone you’ve decided isn’t LTR material. I think from your post you know she isn’t, but your feelings are getting in the way. You’re trying to find a way to excuse behavior you find unattractive. Don’t do this to yourself. As far as I can tell, you made sure to keep your distance and not give her the wrong impression. Good for you. Plates can’t last forever. People move on for whatever reason. You’ll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. And honestly, it doesn’t matter. Be c…
/r/askTRP22/01/18 03:20 PM
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Women contact you the way TRP says to contact them. Can you see why it works? And to answer your question, no. Women will stop seeing you for multiple reasons. You’ll drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out. Keep talking to other women.
/r/askTRP22/01/18 12:10 AM
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You can’t think yourself into right acting, but you can act yourself into right thinking. Over time, your underlying belief system will change. You just have to be the change for awhile, but it will happen. Think fake it until you make it.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 11:17 PM
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Women gossip. Men share information to better navigate the world around us. Pick one. When you’re not getting what you want, withdraw attention. SJW is the Left’s version of fundamentalist Christianity. You’re never going to change their mind even with jokes, let it be.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 11:13 PM
1

Texting should be for logistics. The only time it’s not is when you’re in a relationship or she’s a plate and it’s sexual. Other than that, there’s nothing to gain and only lose.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:59 PM
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I could be completely wrong, but it sounds as if you ignore her simply to ignore her. If and when you’re in a similar situation you can text her immediately with, “No problem. Let’s see each other sooner than later.” The only thing you really want to do avoid is long text conversations.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:54 PM
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If you text her, I’d give her a time and place only. If she doesn’t respond or says no without offering alternative plans again, soft next her.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:41 PM
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Exactly. If every time you ate meat there was a 50% chance of excruciating stomach pains, would you become a vegetarian or would you constantly try to find reasons or excuses to continue? You would become a vegetarian. Then you would figure out how to make sure to get enough protein and vitamins. In this case, it’s stress relief and fun.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 09:28 PM
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Ignore. I ask a girl out once. If she doesn’t offer other plans, I don’t contact her again. By moving on, I leave the door open. She might contact me or we might run into each other. Either way, I’m taking care of my own happiness.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 09:18 PM
1

As of right now, two. I’ve met one. She seemed pretty cool and was actually bigger than him... in a good way.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 09:10 PM
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The easiest way to tell if you have a problem with alcohol is whether or not your life improves when you quit. People who don’t have a problem lose a couple pounds. People who do have a problem gain a life. And if you’re still unsure what side of the line you fall on, you can always start drinking again.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 09:02 PM
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Cold approach is a cold sales call. The rejection rate is going to be high with women vs social circle, which is a warm sales call. I have a buddy who made it a point to talk to five new girls a day. He’s 5’5” and weighs about 135lbs. He said it was unbearable at first because of nerves. Guess what? He powered through it and can talk to anyone at anytime. Meanwhile, guys who are 6’2” and good looking aren’t getting laid as much as him because they’re scared of rejection.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 08:42 PM
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She dumped you and didn’t want to keep you as a FWB. How is she missing out? She’s only going to possibly contact you when she’s not getting dick, attention, or commitment from other men. If she does contact you, she can never rise above plate status ever again. I wouldn’t even have sex and let her stay the night. And I’ll be damned if I ever date her again. There is nothing you can do other than move on. I’d work on bettering your own life and meeting new women instead of what to post on social…
/r/askTRP21/01/18 07:06 PM
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Expand your social circle. Also, online dating.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 06:44 PM
1

Learning to become friendly and making friends starts with you. People become engaged in conversation when talking about their life or something they care about. Learn to talk to everybody, find common interests, and don’t worry about the outcome. You’re just talking. Until you get to know someone, avoid talking about politics, religion, money, and women. Guess what? I love talking about those things but I only do it with certain people. I also toss in jokes to gauge someone’s point of view. For…
/r/askTRP21/01/18 06:39 PM
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Expand your social circle. You’re only hanging with certain types of girls because it’s small. I know it might suck to hear that you’re going to have to put in some work, but it’s going to be worth it. Also, you’re going to have to cold approach people. It’s the only way you’ll meet new friends. Since you work out, start with the gym. I’ve literally made gym friends from asking for a spot. Now every time we see each other, we bs. You love to paint. I think that’s awesome. Find art gallery openin…
/r/askTRP21/01/18 06:22 PM
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My first thought was, “How do you get to know someone through text? Does she prefer going to the movies to talk?” You’re right, she’s not comfortable or she only enjoys the attention. Keep doing what you’re doing. I wouldn’t offer up your Instagram. Push for a meet up. If she bails or keeps asking to get to know you, soft next her.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 06:07 PM
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I’m guessing you see her as more than a hook up. You say she likes to party. To me, that’s a big red flag for an LTR. Those types tend be unstable and impulsive. Your move is to get your wallet. When you text for the meet time at your place or hers, get sexual as well in the text. Get your wallet and get laid.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 05:55 PM
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This is a lost cause. I’m going to write a bunch to make a point. Girls who want to date you exclusively don’t go back and forth or play with your emotions. Why? They’re afraid of losing you. She enjoys the attention you give her and wants nothing more. She’ll breadcrumb you along the way until she meets someone she does want to date. Soft next by withdrawing all of your attention. Stop contacting her and then go meet other women. Work on yourself. It’s the only thing in your control. Most probl…
/r/askTRP21/01/18 05:38 PM
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I wouldn’t contact her. I’d let her contact you. Her reaction wasn’t normal. If she can’t explain or apologize for it, this isn’t a girl you want to mess with at all. You’ll end up having a lot more weird moments that leave you going, “WTF?!” If she does contact you and gives you a rational explanation, game on.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 02:23 AM
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It sounds like she’s trying to get you to ask her out. Tell her you two should hang outside of school. She’ll get the message. Then go do something fun together and escalate.
/r/askTRP19/01/18 01:00 AM
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Ask yourself, is your behavior pretty much always the same? If so and other girls don’t have a problem, then she just changed her mind. The only other thing I can think of is you rushed the escalation. If so, just remember to take your time and enjoy it. Don’t worry about the end game.
/r/askTRP19/01/18 12:56 AM
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This is only my opinion, but my Red Pill Canon is as follows: Red Pill Sidebar Red Pill Handbook No More Mr. Nice Guy Book of Pook Rational Male If your buddy can internalize and apply all of these, he’ll be doing better than 80% of men out there. I might be missing a few titles, but these ones stuck with me.
/r/askTRP19/01/18 12:02 AM
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If she wanted to see the guy, she didn’t have to tell you. She wants to see your reaction. Plain and simple. I’ve had girls say something similar in the past. Unfortunately, manufacturing jealousy in me is a turn off and red flag. I actually start losing interest in the girl because manipulation is an indicator of low value and/or low self esteem. Time to meet other girls dude. Let this situation breath and play out however it’s supposed to by giving it time and some space. Show her by your acti…
/r/askTRP18/01/18 03:18 PM
1

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/r/askTRP18/01/18 02:53 PM
3

IOI’s are great, but they can’t be fully trusted. The only thing you can trust is you having the balls to approach her and start a conversation.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 05:51 AM
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The fallout probably won’t be as bad as you think it will. People love to gossip. Don’t give them any fuel. Keep your private life private. Other women will respect you for it. You’ll probably get more girls interested because you can be trusted.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 05:30 AM
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If you’re not comfortable talking to men, you’ll probably never be comfortable talking to women. Talk to everybody, be an active listener, and be interesting. Interesting also means having opinions, but not being overbearing with them.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 05:03 AM
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Ha ha ha
/r/askTRP18/01/18 04:58 AM
3

Women don’t care as much about hair as you think. Be fit and add some facial hair. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 05:13 PM
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The outside event triggers a response in you not because of the event but your perception of it. Your thoughts and emotions give the event importance. Meditation and CBT has worked wonders for me. Other than that, don’t expect others to change. Be the change. Acceptance is a huge part of it as well. It’ll actually give you more power. Over time, you’ll find negative stuff sliding off you like negative thoughts. They’ll still be present but you won’t care because you don’t give them the importanc…
/r/askTRP17/01/18 05:24 AM
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You’re doing the right thing by not reacting. I never contact an ex, but if they contact me, I know what to do from experience. Reasons an ex wants to reconnect with me: 1. Sex 2. See if there’s still a spark 3. Reject me Want to save yourself time? Escalate quickly over text and invite her over at night only. Be sexual in the text. You’ll know pretty quickly where she stands. If it’s #1, she’ll say yes and come over. If it’s #2, she’ll still come over or she’ll say she wants to hook up but want…
/r/askTRP17/01/18 05:10 AM
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I tell them I’m looking for a FWB situation. Most are blown away by my honesty. Then I make sure to not screw with their emotions by keeping it to sex only.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 11:54 PM
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There is nothing to gain by texting for any other purpose than to set up a a time to get together. If a girl is interested, she’ll agree. If she can’t make it, she’ll always offer alternative plans. When a girl only wants validation or attention, she won’t agree, she’ll ghost, or she’ll come up with an excuse without offering up alternative plans. By texting for any other purpose, you don’t get to see her interest level and it can leave you confused and wanting answers like you’re looking for no…
/r/askTRP16/01/18 04:23 PM
2

I wouldn’t consider this a deal breaker. Until you have “the talk,” which only she should bring up, she can do whatever she wants. She didn’t have to tell you anything to begin with and doesn’t have to now. More than likely, she’s telling you now because she likes you and doesn’t want a fallout later if the truth comes out. She’s trying to keep her reputation with you intact. Now, if more stuff comes out and it really turns you off, keep her as a plate only. It’s your choice. Also, until you’re …
/r/askTRP14/01/18 05:53 PM
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Hey man, one of the things people preach on here is having an abundance mentality. Where most guys mess up is when we narrow our focus to one girl. This really applies to a girl who hasn’t earned or deserved to be called our girlfriend. The world is filled with women. You should be seeing a couple right now. Basically, start hitting up another girls. It will take away your insecurity and the cool part is you might find a better girl to date. If not, at least have a few who are fun to be around.
/r/askTRP14/01/18 05:12 AM
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Hey dude, TRP is here to wake you up to reality and help you become the man you’re capable of becoming. Everyone has to start somewhere. Please remember, Rome wasn’t built in a night so neither will the life you want. You can’t change anything but you. I can’t stress this enough. The best way to gain closure is to keep moving forward with your own life. Don’t sit around and dwell. Lifting, diet, reading books, going after higher education, etc will help you. When you go to the gym, find a workou…
/r/askTRP11/01/18 03:22 PM
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His book is great. If you really want to get the most out of it though, I highly recommend a therapist as well because it’s easier for them to see your cognitive distortions. It’s no different than someone reading Starting Strength by Rippetoe versus taking one of his weekend seminars. There’s also a CBT Reddit forum with a ton of information.
/r/askTRP10/01/18 07:13 AM
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Anxiety is negative thinking run amok. We believe a negative thought and it creates an emotion. The emotion tricks our mind into thinking the negative thought is real. This results in a feedback loop. We get stuck with more negative thoughts and the cycle becomes worse. CBT and meditation helped me a lot. I read Burns’ book and still went to therapy. I wanted someone to show me how to do it correctly. Also, if I needed to be on meds, I knew she would provide it as an option. I didn’t need them, …
/r/askTRP09/01/18 07:33 AM
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Although you didn’t provide any context, the best answer is yes it can happen, but it will only last for a short period of time. If she has strong feelings, she’s going to leave if you don’t move her back up. In the future and I’m guilty of not doing it, but vet a girl first. This is why a girl only gets plate status from the start. You get time to know her and if you’re hooking up with other girls, your feelings won’t blind you.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 06:55 PM
2

Exactly. If she can’t make it, don’t contact or answer her texts ever again. More than likely, she’s only looking for attention.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 11:27 AM
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If she has a rep talking about ex-bf’s, don’t worry about it. Everybody already knows her. This is the type of girl you totally avoid. I mean, don’t have any contact. You pass her, stone face. She says hello, stone face. Don’t give her any ammo. She’s waiting for anything to twist in her favor.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 11:13 AM
2

Nothing is perfect and it never will be. It’s a good starting place.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 08:28 AM
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You need to conversations all the time. It’s the only way to build the skill. Also, the most interesting people to chat with have stories, are passionate, knowledgeable, and opinionated. When in-doubt talk, talk, talk.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 08:25 AM
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You know what my favorite girls are in the gym? 6 face with a near 10 body because of the work they put in. When they’re nice, it’s even more reason to respect them. They get it. Unless you have a face people feel pity for it’s all about everything else.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 05:47 AM
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As much as you might think women are shitty, men are too then. We don’t live up to whatever ideal most women have of us. Ideal and real are very different things. When I was growing up, I viewed things in a more black and white way. Good guys and bad guys. Now I’m older, I know it’s been grey the entire time. I thought you could change the world. I know I can only change myself. There’s freedom in acceptance. Part of growing up is educating yourself on the world around you. This isn’t bad a thin…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 05:32 AM
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It’s over man. If anything, you might be able to save it for a couple months by being a FWB. You can always say, “You’re right. We don’t have the extra thing for a serious relationship. I think we can still have fun for a bit though.” Sell it with confidence. If she says no, cool. No matter what, start chatting with other girls now.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:37 AM
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When she withholds sex, say with a deadpan face, “You can leave.” Then watch her head spin. If she doesn’t apologize, next. My guess is you’ll break up with her no later than right after Valentine’s Day.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:31 AM
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You show women you care by giving them your time, affection, and commitment. If you show them you care by using negative emotions such as jealousy, control freak, etc she’ll start associating you with them. It also sub-communicates being a weak male who’s insecure because he doesn’t have options. What guy do you want to be be? What guy will she miss when she screws up and he withdraws from her? What guy sounds like a rock? If a woman wants to cheat, she’ll find a way. No need to give her reasons…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 04:05 AM
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Meeting for a drink is better than food. Think of a nice bar/restaurant that also serves food. If she’s cool, you can always eat. As far as restaurants go, find a cool local spot. Stay away from chains. Something close to your place makes it easier to pull. Doing something you enjoy such as hiking and asking her to come along is even better. No matter what, do what you want money wise. I’d only make sure to keep to an amount you’re willing to lose. If a girl tries to ask for more or a fancier sp…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 03:53 AM
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There are probably a lot of reasons. I don’t have time to research it. I bet it has to do with passing along strong genes. It’s the same if a guy can’t take ball busting amongst his friends. It sub-communicates weakness. If he can’t take a joke from friends or a shit test from his girl, how’s he going to fair in the real world? He’ll be passive, easily taken advantage, and won’t be able to protect her or offspring. He’s a leader of none. Short answer- We love variety.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 03:32 AM
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If leading, becoming sexual, and her knowing she’s with a man, then yes I’m aggressive. If a girl is with me long enough as a plate or LTR, we fuck, have sex, and make love. I like all three. I think we’re on the same page more than not. And yeah, girls want to be fucked. They don’t want to help a guy remove his “I’m With Her” shirt and is afraid to touch her, “I just want you to know I respect women. You can walk all over me.”
/r/askTRP05/01/18 03:08 AM
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Not at all. If anything RP reminds me to be sexual and to not fear it. Its one of the many things separating men from nice guys. Nice guys fear expressing or being sexual. Real men don’t. If anything, they only seek to become more aware of what turns their partner on by exploring each other together.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 02:33 AM
1

The world may seem like a dark place right now. The problem is you don’t see all the gifts being given to you, but you will if you accept them. If you keep coming back, you’ll hear a lot of the same stuff. It essentially comes down to becoming the best version of you. You’re a man. You’re a world builder. Build your world. Now you’re free to do so. And yeah man, it sucks and hurts. You’ll make it through and not dwell on what could’ve been if you get into your life instead of passively waiting f…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 02:18 AM
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From the ages 18-30, women receive the most attention they’ll ever get from men. You know this because you’re dating her. You have to be cool with it and let it go. Whatever you do, don’t mate guard. Women are weird like that man. The more you want them, the less they want you. It shows insecurity which means lack of options which means you’re not wanted by other women. Women will test boundaries and your character in a relationship. It’s cool. They have to know they’re with the right man. If sh…
/r/askTRP05/01/18 01:59 AM
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You’re 24. Live it up. You should have a minimum of three girls in rotation. When you have the ability to date more women, jealousy and neediness will start to leave you. They never go away fully but they’re easier to deal with. Anybody who tells you differently is lying. Even famous athletes still get nervous before a game. When you date multiple girls, you’ll actually start to enjoy your time with them because you’ll no longer judge every interaction. It’s easier to become outcome independent.
/r/askTRP05/01/18 01:11 AM
1

The Red Pill Handbook and Sidebar are great places to start. They’re pretty much the “Best of” posts.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 11:37 PM
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Damn, this is solid advice. I hope OP follows it.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 10:47 PM
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At work, I rarely respond to a girl. At most, I’ll do it at lunch. I don’t want to get into a long chat. It also sub-communicates how you value your job. I only text for logistics unless I’m dating a girl exclusively. It helps keep the texting to a minimum. When doing so, I don’t even think about waiting a long time or how long I should take to get back to her. It’s just to set up a meet time. Does that help?
/r/askTRP04/01/18 10:34 PM
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I wouldn’t at all. I can tell you from past experience, looking at any girl’s profile, except as a way to vet her, is worthless because it’ll make your imagination run wild. People’s online identity is their avatar. It’s heavily filtered. You’ll start filling in the blanks with information. The more important question is why you’re doing NC?
/r/askTRP04/01/18 08:21 PM
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Women love attention the way men love sex. Lots of it and keep it coming. Women are scared of being alone. Guys are scared of not getting sex. Do you see where I’m going with this? I hope it sheds some light on the dynamic you’ve come across. It’s a trade off. You have to be doing all of this self-improvement for yourself. If you don’t, you’ll become like the guys you see in some relationships. How many people get in relationships and let themselves go? They weren’t doing it for themselves. They…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 07:57 PM
2

Her boyfriend added you on IG because she probably told him about you. If he really was abusive to her, how do you think he’s going to be with you? He’s already stalking you without hiding it. Also, you know nothing about her and her past. She might be a manipulative women who will use you or turn you into a bad guy as well. Think about it, does a girl with high self-esteem stay in an abusive relationship and post on social media to garner any kind of attention? We all have egos and a dick. You …
/r/askTRP04/01/18 07:30 PM
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The problem isn’t the age of the girls but the type. If you’re only meeting girls at a bar/club or online, it’s going to be hard to find what you’re looking for. I’d check out more social things such as meetup.com, art gatherings, etc. As long as you’re doing something you enjoy such as photography or hiking, any girl you meet is an added bonus. It’ll help you expand your social circle too. Maybe you meet some cool new people while hiking and they invite you to a party. While there, you meet gir…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 07:14 PM
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Fantasy can become a nightmare pretty quick when we have low standards. Sounds like you don’t. If a girl meets your standards, I guess you have to be willing to put two feet in or have regrets. Same thing with approaching. As far as your plates and other girls go, sounds like your having a good time. You just know you want something more substantial but you haven’t found it yet. My only advice is get to know more girls on a deeper level. You might find a connection.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 05:42 PM
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No matter how insecure you might think you are, multiply it by a 1,000 and you’re still not even close to how a girl feels. I’ve never heard a guy say, “I need a girl who’s going to be my rock.” Other than that, experience breeds confidence. Failure is quitting. Mistakes are how you learn. If anything, think of where you’re at in life. What can you do to set yourself up for where you want to be? You’re working on getting a car already. A car can get you to and from college or a job. Both of thes…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 05:05 PM
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You have options and you only give your time to girls you’re into either sexually or otherwise. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I could be wrong, but from your post it sounds like you’re questioning how you live your life and if you want to continue living the same way. I get it. The question to ask yourself is, what do you want? Edit- YouTube “Ted Alexandro Single” I think you’ll get a kick out of it. He’s wearing a silver or grey suit.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:47 PM
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Yep, work on the inner. This is what the original pua failed to do and where Red Pill came in. If you don’t, you’re nothing more than a woman with lots of make up and fake tits. It’s all for show.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:26 PM
2

This is solid advice. Listen to this dude. Anytime I feel stuck, it’s because I’m not doing something I should be doing.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:19 PM
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I’m a classic overthinker. The only thing that solves it is action. Let your thoughts follow. Instead of wondering what your parents might think, ask your dad first. Tell him what’s up. He’ll probably be cool with it. And he’ll respect you for asking. Plus, if your mom isn’t cool with it, he’ll probably tell her to let it go. Oh, and outside of your house is a huge world with lots of places to hook up at. Pick one. And most girls would bang you on top of a dumpster behind a 7-11. They just want …
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:12 PM
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I think you answered your own question at the end of your post. Get in shape? You already should be. Talk to other girls? You’re in an open relationship. You should be. To me, an open relationship is a step above a FWB. Play it as such. Jealousy is probably the most common tactic women use with men. It sounds like it’s working. Become the man who other women want to be with and who guys want to be. You’ll naturally become less jealous because you can walk away and get other girls. Also, it sound…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:03 PM
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Emotions are like clouds. Good or bad, they come and go. As long as you’re doing stuff you enjoy and enriching your life for today and tomorrow, you’re on the right path. Other than that, mediation helps a lot. I’d rather feel at peace than trying to stay happy.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 03:52 PM
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From past experience I can tell you by sitting around, you’ll only think about her. I know it’s tough. I’ve been there. The only thing you can control is you. It sounds like you’re already starting to do good things for yourself. Keep it up. You have to build up a social life again. This includes talking to and hanging out with women. If you don’t, you’ll keep thinking about her instead of living your life. She’s someone else’s problem now. Leonardo DiCaprio used to date Giselle. He dumped her. …
/r/askTRP04/01/18 03:41 PM
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Breaking balls, being dicks, and making fun of each other is what makes you a man. Learn to give it back. From the outside, it looks stupid, but there’s a bigger point. Your friends give you shit so when the world does, you can give it right back. Embrace and have fun it. And if a girl makes fun of you, she likes you.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 07:03 AM
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I’d focus on social skills. Learn to talk to anybody about anything. You have no idea how much this will help with later on. You’ll be more comfortable in any conversation. Hell, you might even learn from coming here and first hand experience on how to keep yourself out of the friend zone.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 06:54 AM
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You’ll have to concede they might be doing this for attention. When in-doubt, escalate the situation. Go back to their place, drink, put on music and see if they’ll dance or make out even if it’s just with each other. Judge their actions. Escalate. If they do, look at them and say it like a man with a smile, “I’d like to join.” Judge their actions. Escalate. If they say no, reiterate what you said, “I said I’d like to but I respect our friendship.” I’ve used something similar with girls in diffe…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 06:47 AM
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I get nostalgic as well. It has its place. Biggest advice, get into action and let your thoughts follow. If you like memories, create new ones worth remembering. Look at kids, they don’t know they’re creating good memories. They’re too busy being kids. Get present and let go of attachment. The only thing permanent is impermanence. Accept the moment. Accept everything. The power to change is found in letting go of everything out of your control and only focusing on what is. Mediation really helps…
/r/askTRP04/01/18 06:12 AM
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I guess you’ll have to bang 18-23 year olds(insert sad face). On a serious note, what type of girls are you messing with? It can’t be ALL of them.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 05:11 AM
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You can always let your current girlfriend know your feelings have changed and you only want a casual relationship. It’s her choice to stick around. Be prepared for her to leave. At least you can hold your head high knowing you were upfront. Sounds like you want to get out there though. Then do so. Have fun, make mistakes, and learn from them. There are so many different types of women. You need to experience all of them to realize they’re all the same and different at the same time.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:57 AM
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No matter if it’s a man or woman, you have to be willing to open up and be interested in them. You’ll find life is filled with a lot less expendable people the more you do so. A simple thing to do in a conversation is to ask questions and expand on what they’re saying. It a can be a joke, asking for more details, relating it to yourself to show empathy instead of score boarding, etc. I like asking people’s opinions on stuff. I know what I think already. Hope it helps.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:35 AM
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If you can read, internalize, and implement the Red Pill Sidebar, Red Pill Handbook, No More Mr. Nice Guy, and The Book of Pook you’re going to be doing really well for yourself.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:18 AM
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Everybody sucks for awhile at sex. You’re going to learn from this girl because she’s practice. I’m telling you man, every girl is there to be enjoyed in the moment and for you to learn from. Get dirty with this chick and don’t be afraid. And don’t worry about a damn thing about what she says. She keeps coming back to you. If she contacts you, go hook up with her. Just know she’s practice.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 04:06 AM
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Can you smile and say as few words as possible? I bet you could. When filling in the blanks, let her imagination do it and not your words. She doesn’t deserve to know anything about your life. By the way, it’ll probably go a lot easier than you think it will or she won’t even approach you.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 03:20 AM
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This is my first comment but I had to say something because it reminded me of when I was younger. If you keep her around as a FWB, wrap it up, still pull out, and flush it down a toilet. Your next option is to leave. This girl isn’t LTR material. Ask yourself, “If I had a friend dating this girl, what advice would I give him?” Your feelings are making you blind. Reread everything you wrote. Also, make a list of things you need from a girl to LTR her and stick to them. Makes dating simpler. It’s …
/r/askTRP04/01/18 02:59 AM
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