response to flake

theredcandy · 2018-05-06T13:09:44+00:00

Go talk to other girls and set up dates with them. If you’ve a fuck buddy/plate, hang out with her and have some fun. You’ll find an appropriate response on your own if you’re not operating from a place of neediness or butthurt.

I’d go with “sure no worries”, lower case, no comma and period. If she really wants to see you, she’ll make it happen. Some would argue that maybe even zero response is the way to go. Some would for “k” but I find that this could easily come across as sounding butthurt. Maybe “k no worries”.

What’s most important tho is to not worry about it. A text isn’t going to change much if she’s not that into you or has decided she can’t see you for whatever reason. Once you’ve sent the text, you’ve done just about everything you could do, and the rest is up to her. When you’ve made plans and someone cancels, it’s up to that person to reschedule. If she doesn’t, it could be she’s expecting you to do it, or it’s possible she’s rejecting you and she’ll ghost or mess you around if you msg again.

Anyway, go get some other girls and who knows, maybe this one’ll come around too.

willowhawk · 2018-05-06T15:05:29+00:00

Did she suggest a new time when she's free. I follow a rule:

If she cancels and suggests a new time or the excuse was good and she is genuinely sorry and trying to rectify it then I give another chance.

If she cancels and just asks when I'm next free I judge the situation. If I feel the excuse is flimsy I say no and ghost. Of the excuse is good I give another chance.

If she cancels and gives no attempt to reschedule then I ghost that bitch to the grave.

Oh and you additional question. First encounter since she cancel act completely normal, show that it didn't even phase you. Every encounter after that just give less attention/investment than you would of done before because she doesn't deserve it anymore.

JerryMullin1978 · 2018-05-06T16:01:24+00:00

In this situation, I might text, “Cool, no problem. Text me when you’re free.” Now it’s explicitly stated that the ball is in her court. If she’s interested, she can contact me. I never text her again until she does so first. On a side note, it’s very important to have other things you can do when a girl breaks plans because it makes you indifferent.

Go meet new girls.

[deleted] · 2018-05-06T13:30:58+00:00

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Title	response to flake
Author	-ron-dennis-
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	May 6, 2018 12:49 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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