Bit of info about myself: 22, 6’2, 190, lifting for 2 years, just recently broken up with by 3&1/2 year LTR. Major oneitis. I was a piece of shit the whole relationship.

There are changes I want to make in my life but I’m questioning the motives behind these desired changes. For example I don’t want to smoke weed anymore, I don’t want to watch porn, and I want my university studies and martial arts to be my mission.

However my dilemma arises because I want to make these changes so that I won’t be a loser in the eyes of both my ex LTR and other women in general.

Is this a fair motivation? Do I have to make these changes for myself because I want to? If so how do I foster that?

Thanks guys