I have a specific scenario I'm moving through at the moment and am looking for some good honest and brutal if need be advice from long time RPers.

This isn't a common discussed topic, though I have read some posts about how some users have managed to maintain an LTR with side action. My particular rules for this, which I have made clear to my LTR are that I will have the occasional side action, but you must be fully committed to me. If at any time this doesn't work. I understand. I can't control you, but know that I want you in my life as I enjoy us as a couple. If you decide you don't want this or are with someone else, let me know and we will go our separate ways. I have no such rules with plates as there aren’t any emotions involved.

For me I've found I'm happiest relationship wise sharing an intimate connection with a main girl, while having action on the side with a plate or two. What can I say, I like holding hands, going for walks. Moving forward I'm been trying to implement this plan.

My current LTR has been with me about 6 months. I very much enjoy her company, sex is amazing and she is available and wet always.

When we started dating as it progressed from sex to more of a relationship type scenario and we started spending more time together, I told her there would be other women, but she was the main one I wanted to enjoy my time with. I've done the lies and deceit and half-truths before. Not interested. Either be with me or don't. Here's who I am.

We continued to see each other. I was with her exclusively while gaming on occasion. For about the last month or so, I developed one girl into a plate, and let the girl I have as an LTR know. Suffice to say there were tears but for a month we continued to see each other regularly while I'd occasion hook up with my plate. During this time I upped my comfort with her as I was getting a lot of what I saw as comfort tests.

She had asked for full honesty as to when I was out on “dates” (i.e. banging) which I have provided. I suggested don’t ask, don’t tell, but she indicated she would like to know.

About a week ago, amidst a lot of tears(Friday), she said she couldn't do it anymore. While I was disappointed and continued to provide comfort that night, I thought that was it. We kept contact as she requested some wean off time after this until about Tuesday. The conversations did include me asking to work this out if she thought it was possible. I indicated that I’m not interested in a friendship. Only a romantic relationship and if she wanted to keep contact I would continue to peruse that goal.

Once Tuesday hit, I didn’t see a change of her opinion and said that’s it, it is time no longer to speak. Radio silence lasted for about two days after which she contacted me, I continued to reinforce we are done. She indicated that maybe we can make it work. I said ok let’s talk Sunday (last night)

She comes by last night. I look at her. Ask her straight up if she had been with anyone. After we broke up she says yes. Girls will be girls. I’ve seen this before. Once they break up with a guy, they get under someone else right away. I tell her to leave. She wants to stay and we discuss things further.

When it’s all says and done she says she wants to give it a try. I appreciate the honesty, not gonna lie. She didn’t have to tell me a thing, and I would have never known.

For me I want to give this one more shot. I told her last night, you’re either in or out. You will be with only me, and I will have girls on the side. If this at any time this doesn’t work, you are free to leave, no hard feelings, no judgement. If I do finding out anything happens, or if she does break up again, the plan is 100% block delete, but I’d like to give this one more shot.

So now I’m looking to you guys for your thoughts. The female behavior here I get, but the reasoning I do not quite understand.

This isn’t the typical beta guy gets cheated on scenario. As far as I know this girl fucking adores me but couldn’t take me banging other girls. She broke up with me, got banged either for revenge, or too feel better or who the fuck knows. But after being without me for a week, she’s asking for me back.

Specific questions:

Any LTR/side action men here? Did I handle things wrong, any advice and insight you can provide based on your experience.

Was I providing too much comfort once I was rolling with my plate?

Why the honesty about banging the other dude if she wanted back in?

That seems like a sure fire way to have her out the door. Am I retard for giving this another shot?

Oneitis aside, while not being a world class pimp, I do alright, and the sex and the company this this one is very appealing to me. I feel I can 100% walk away if this one more shot doesn’t work, or maybe I’m just wasting my time.

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