Dear AskTRP, I've started reading TRP about 2/3 weeks ago. I'm a 19 year old student, who's still a virgin and has never even gotten to second base. I desperately want to change that.

I started at university 1.5 years ago, and moved out my parents house when this academic year started. That was last September. So yes, I've gone out to parties more times than I can count, and yet I still haven't managed to get any girl in my bed. I was a failure. My game is a joke, as I've gotten girls to make out with me but not to get them to go home with me.

I've signed up to a gym 3 weeks ago, after not exercising for at least a year. Today I've been reading a little about and now want to go into Monk Mode and focussing on my academics and physique for at least the coming 2 months, but I've found some trouble there.

It states that I should decline parties, stop drinking, mainly focus on ME. But most of my social life revolves around drinking, going to bars, going to clubs, so partying is not really something I should cut out (i feel like). Or should I really keep the socialising to such a minimum?

I'd really like some advice on this, thanks in advance.

EDIT: I think I should also state that I'm living in a student house with 5 friends of mine, in which we have loads of parties so the cutting out of a lot of social contact would be quite hard.