This is going to be quite the read but i need to get this out. I (20M) My GF (19F) of 5 months broke up with me almost a month ago saying she needs to work on herself and can't do that with a BF because she focuses on the BF too much. But she really wants to be friends and be apart of each others lives.

Now i think this is a bullshit reason because i was in the same position in trying to better myself and i still think if both people in a LTR want to do that then its beneficial to both parties. I tell her if she hooks up with anyone i'm gone. We talk every once in a while but it's clear i'm putting more effort into the relationship than she is.

I get mad because the reason she said she broke up with me is because she wanted to do more with her life. But in reality i'm the one who made changes in my life and she just continued doing the usual. I started lifting, applied for school, stopped doing drugs, found a better job and shes still drinking 3-4 times a week.

Now she left a bunch of her shit at my house, clothes, curling iron and other random stuff. I tell her 3 times to come get it because i don't need that shit sitting around my house giving me constant reminders. Each time she says she will come the next day and get it. After the 3rd time i tell her best friend if she doesn't come i'm tossing it. Due to my brothers advice i tossed it all out. ( i would have pussied out and waited for her)

1 hour after i toss it she texts me telling me shes coming the next day to pick up all her shit and drop off my sweaters. I say "ill be working just put them in the mailbox. " we get into a fight, i give it to her straight up saying "you were just trying to let me down easy because i see no changes in your life and i'm the one that's actually making big changes. "

Last night her best friend calls me and after i few drinks i let her know how i'm feeling about the situation. She gets my ex to call me and i explain to her all her shit is gone, she says fuck you and hangs up. I call her back and try to explain myself but it doesn't work out. I send i few lengthy super BP texts to both her and her best friend and then go to bed.

Now i know what i should have done from the beginning. She gave me those bullshit reasons for breaking up with me because she could find sexual satisfaction elsewhere and wanted to be friends with me for the emotional satisfaction. I know for a fact she hasn't hooked up with anyone since she broke up with me. BP me makes me think that maybe the reasons she gave for breaking up with me were legit. While i was pouring my heart out to her best friend she says my ex is feeling the same way. She says you should buy her a new curling iron and maybe she'd forgive you. So i text her and ask for forgiveness and whatever. I put so much effort into trying to stay friends with her because i got along with her more than any other girl i know. After just a few months of dating i knew how she was thinking and what she was going to say. Well at least i thought i did.

( 2 months in to dating her i found TRP. Before hand i was super BP. like one of those guys who is struck with oneitis with every knew girl that i get along with. I'm still trying to get out of this and spin plates. Anyways she said it seemed like i didn't care anymore and she liked me more when we first started dating so i went back to my old BP self. A week later she broke up with me. I know i should have held frame.)

I know the proper reaction would have been to cut contact right away. I know that throwing her stuff out was probably the right reaction after she lied 3 times about coming. But for some reason i'm still trying to salvage the relationship because i liked her more than any other girl I've dated and i think there might be some hope of a future. Half of me thinks i'm wrong, half of me thinks there might be a small chance.

I'm pretty sure i know what to do (cut contact, improve SMV and the girls will come) I've gone out a few times after the relationship ended and got a few numbers but i'm just not good at escalating with sexual attraction. More practice i guess. I would like some unbiased opinions on the matter and where i should go from here. Any advice will be appreciated. Sorry for the long read. Thanks guys.

( Probably shitty typos and formatting, just trying to get this out)