tl;dr : how do i turn my ex into a plate when i may or may not have fucked up chance with new frame

Hello all. I come to you asking for advice for a situation involving an ex I want to make into a plate. I know that there's a similar thread to this already, but my situation is a bit different and I want to make sure I handle this properly

For context, the girl and I have a long history over the course of about 3 years, involving young naive hormonal love. multiple break ups and relapses. The works. She has observed me both square up, and stare straight into the eye of another man threatening to break my arms, and laugh at him, but she's also seen me cry after one of our break ups. What I'm getting at is that before learning of TRP, I'd shift between extreme alpha and extreme beta behavior, which probably contributes to why she comes and leaves so often. I've noticed her behavior would sway rapidly depending on how I treat her, from cock-hungry and flirtatious when I'd exhibit strength and independence, to the well known "no I'm just not in the mood right now, im sorry." when I'd be clingy.

She made efforts recently to contact me again, the standard "I want you back". What started with apologies and pleading to see me peeled away to questions about how she's been hearing about how much attention I've been getting from girls in our city, how she's heard about me "slutting around" for the past year, asking how many girls I'd been with since, etc. Basically I reset my frame again in the past year.

Now the part where I fuck up comes here.

When we started hanging out, I backslid into blue pill territory. I remained assertive and leading, but was also too easy on her, and much too open. On top of that, I got angry when I heard that she was still hooking up with some of her fwbs, and I told her to drop them. I also established that we'd spend 1 month with no title, hooking up and hanging out, in order to see if we'd "work out" as a real couple. Being needy and asking for commitment from her. On top of all that, I also realize that I was making the mistake of being confrontational and quick to anger, rather than treating her shit tests with amused mastery.

We fought about a week ago over more shit tests regarding an ex of hers (his name is censored in the screenshots), and she ended the fight with a "whatever". Didn't speak for a week after that. I made sure to not post any signs of weakness or longing on social media, and to her knowledge, I've been going out w friends, and getting flirted with on a regular basis. (She can get very possessive w/ other girls regarding me).

What I want to know now is, how do I untangle the storm of shit-tests and hamsters in the texts she sent to me? My ideal outcome is one where she:

-acknowledges the new frame of amused mastery, rather than the confrontational + overly assertive one

-sees me sexually / as an alpha male again instead of a beta provider

-doesn't get so angry that she cuts and runs. abundance mentality aside, I really want to plate this girl. solid 9/10 and it'd be a waste when its right in front of me.

http://imgur.com/a/Zj54Y (the last two images are reversed, my bad) Thank y'all in advance.