Little background. I'm an autistic bipolar nerd. On my lows, and in the middle, I can't pull a chick to save my life. When I'm on the high end, I seem to naturally slide into frame, and pull people towards me. Every relationship and hookup I've had was during a high point, and I often look back at my behavior and think "holy shit that was easy".

Anyways, I've been in multiple LTR which have all ended horribly as once I slide out of a manic phase into mere normalcy I start failing shit tests left and right. I'm new to this mindset, still learning. But I'm seeing now with hindset how many mistakes I made.

So, here's something I don't understand, and need help with. In every situation, I find women being obsessed with me during my high point, as I'm extremely passionate and my imagination and intellect seem to override my lack of lifting(working on it), and these women are convinced I'm "the one" or whatever.

When I slide out of frame, shit gets rough. But the thing I really don't understand is that women will often act in a manner completely contrary to their OWN interests, just because it happens to align with my interests, when my frame is broken.

An example: I meet a girl at a game of D&D. She's about a 5, but we hit it off. She basically had tried it, and didn't like it, but was drawn to me and we hit it off. Started dating. She had expressed interest in getting into video games at the start of the relationship. A few weeks in I start to lose frame as the manic phase ends. Even though she's interested, when I try to show her or press her to do what she admitted she wants, she seems to lash out and suddenly has no interest. She resists pursuing something she wants to. As I lost frame, I find myself spending all our time together doing her shit, and before long it ends.

A couple weeks after it ends, she's suddenly letting people show her the games she admitted she was interested in.

My question is basically where does this behavior fit into the female bullshit? Is she basically shit-testing me at the expense of her own benefit, or is it that any female interests are driven primarily by their sexual strategy first, and they aren't actually interested? Basically, if taking interest in something she likes will pull us closer together, but I am not in frame and therefore repulsive to her, she'll actively go against her own interests to avoid being entangled with a beta male? Or is this something else?

Looking for some understanding here, because I've seen this too many times to count. Basically something I wanted to show her which is at least somewhat important to me, that she wanted to do, she refuses to do. But the moment we break it off she's doing it with other guys.

Not trying to elicit pity here. I'm past caring emotionally. I just need to understand the psychology at play here so I can see where I'm fucking up(besides the obvious need to lift and maintain frame).